Girls, what are some reasons you give a guy mixed signals?

[Anonymous]

Mixed signals, like, you'll convey interest (texts first, smile, wave) sometimes, but then be the complete opposite other times (ignoring in person, not acknowledging his presence)

Or what's usually the main reason among these:

I don't "like" him, but I like his attention, so I'll lure him in, then shrug him off if he gets too close

Mood swings. Having a bad day vs being in a good mood

I give mixed signals to guys I like.

[MichelleJustAsking]

The primary reason both sexes send out mixed signals, means that they want to attract a large percentage of people WITHOUT the commitment involved in dating one person.

I mean, who wants to purposefully send confusing signals to someone they are genuinely interested in? How would that "reel them in"? People who really like you (or if you really like them), will try their hardest to send the clearest possible signals.

Anything mixed or hot/cold, signals they are either unsure of what they want, OR they want to attract a large based of people so they can take their time picking and choosing who they want to be with. Some people send mixed signals so they can string the other person along while they look for something better; like a safety net. If they can't find someone better, they still have you as a backup.

[megg17]

OK, so here are the reason most girls (myself included) give mixed signals

1. When we aren't sure about the guy, or his intentions

2. Self concious about ourselves which comes across giving mixed signals which the guy internalizes ( i do this one alot)

3. the girl is just a bitch and likes playing games

4. You are our back up guy (i. e we will only hit you up when there isn't a better offer, and when there is we will push you away and give you mixed signals, but when we do need you we will act very attentive)

I have only done #4 one time. I felt bad about it, so i cut off communication 100% and vowed to not do it again

[Anonymous]

I might be trying to play hard to get. But with me that is rare. I probably would only show mixed signals because if i like a guy i like to treat him like a good friend as well. But i would always want him to take the romantic action, not me. But from what you said, sometimes i would meet a guy who is nice and i will be interested but then he says something i really don't like and i realize i don't want to be related to this guy in any way shape or form. But chances are if a girl likes a guy 100%, they guy will know it.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes i'm too exhausted to respond right away to text or even speak. When i have PMS i feel low some days so it may appear i am giving mixed signals. This is not intentional though.

If i like a guy and he isn't being as friendly or responding as much , i tend to think he is starting to lose interest, so is keeping me at a distance. Therefore, i start to respond less and become less approachable. Only because i don't want to make a fool of myself by being too friendly if he is pulling away.

[becca123]

Sometimes people are desperate to believe someone likes them and make up a list of reasons to think they do. The "mixed signals" can happen when someone has to look too hard to find reasons they think someone likes them when the person is only being polite or friendly.

[Asker]

That is true and I try to be a pessimist when considering whether a girl likes me because she's probably just being friendly

[kitterns]

I'd say that girls tend to do this if they're unsure about how the guy is going to react, so they want to make subtle hints so that they aren't coming on too strong and can avoid looking "desperate", but from time to time they'll flirt a bit because they want you to know that they are interested. In other words, they want you to have a positive response towards them being flirtatious and once they know you're comfortable with it, the mixed signals will stop and they'll give you only one.

[JustBeingHonest7]

None of the above.

I im actually giving mixed signals then I probably am interested but maybe my head and heart are saying two different things or there is something about him that makes me want to hold back-there is something about him I don't know if I could handle.

Also entirely possible that I am being friendly and acting as a friend and he is reading WAY into everything.

[AvaMarina]

Ignoring someone is just rude. :/ I give more mild mixed signals, and that's only because I'm genuinely confused. I might like him, but have no time for dating, or I might swing between liking him and disliking him (it's rare, but it has happened). Most often, it's because I'm too nervous and it shows through mixed signals.

On the other hand, my friend intentionally lures guys in with mixed signals because she likes the attention. It makes her feel better about herself, I suppose.

[Falling4UTC]

I am shy so I don't talk to him unless forced (teacher makes us work together.) Yet I message him a few times a month with emojis and ask how he's doing and everything. I'm obvious then again I'm not I don't know lol. Its hard because I want him to know I liked him but I don't want him to know in case he tells people and they make fun of me like its a joke. They already tag him in my photos and talk about him around me all the time.

[Anonymous]

Those aren't mixed signals & her life does not revolve around you.

So if you feel she's ignoring/not acknowledging you or not texting you enough, do you talk to her to see if something is wrong?

Do you text her & see how her day is going?

Communication goes both ways.

[Asker]

Oh, so then what are mixed signals if not that?
It's just this girl who seems interested and friendly some days, but completely ignores me in person other days. I don't pursue her, so she can't just be like "oh he likes me, I have to stay away"

I did jokingly call her out on it once, something like "thanks for saying hi last time" but she said she didn't feel like talking that morning. But it doesn't feel like that sometimes because she sometimes tries to actively avoid acknowledging my existence, but then next week she'd text me or give me a smile or wave.

[Opinion Owner]

I see why she doesn't acknowledge you, you seem annoying & immature.

"I don't pursue her" ~ Well that's another problem. Do you like her or not?

What's with jokingly saying, "thanks for saying hi last time", if you wanted to speak with her, why didn't you just say something to her when you saw her?

Mixed signals can occur when there's already a mutual understanding between both people that you like each other & are actively trying to be with each other. Then when one of them begins to pull away, by ignoring calls/texts & becoming more distant, that's sending mixed signals, you have to be at that stage.

Your situation sounds like you're barely even friends.

[Asker]

"I don't pursue her", as in I'm not constantly texting her or trying to meet up. But when I see her, I'll say hi by waving or smiling, and most times, strike up a conversation.

When she ignores, it's when I see her and she's right in my presence but acts like I'm not there. Usually if I want to talk to someone, I'll make eye contact first, but when she's actively ignoring me like that, I take the hint. Usually I'd assume she's not interested, not even friendship at this point, and just move on.

But the thing is, the next week she'll be the opposite. She'll approach me in person and we'll talk, or smile and wave. She'll even text me if we haven't spoken in a while. And the process repeats, because soon after, she'll give me a cold shoulder again

Also how exactly do you wager I'm annoying and immature?

[Anonymous]

If I really like a guy I'll convey interest... there can be a couple of reasons why I might retreat and would therefore seem uninterested:
1) he returns the interest by coming on too strong or moves to quickly
2) I like him a lot and am nervous/shy when he's near me.
In both cases, I do want him. Guys should also realise that girls are raised to fend off guy that just want sex and there is stigma associated with being too easy... so I'd say to guys to trust the interested signals.

[Anonymous]

I would say a lot of it has to do if I'm upset with the guy I'm interested in. If he hasn't asked me out or done anything to move in that direction and instead just shows interest, I'm sick of it and then I just give him the cold shoulder in the hopes he'll change or to show I've moved on. He's not fast enough.

[mutedaisy]

Sometimes I can't decided if he is ugly or not. Some guys look good, but also look weird... I don't know if this makes sense, but yes. Usually I can't decide if I find you all that attractive if I am giving mixed signals.

[lilly59599]

Most likely, in my experience, she's not sure if you like her or not, and she's pissed cause she's reading into every action. If you like her tell her, if you don't, then do not be confusing and make it seem like you do, or just tell her.

[Killer-Queen]

It depends on the situation. But I do self-checks regularly and when I notice I'm being misleading, I'll nip it in the bud. I don't like people getting the wrong idea if I can help it.

[lex217]

I'm a friendly person, and a lot of times guys take it the wrong way. So if they start trying to be flirty, I'll back off because I don't want to lead them on or hurt them.

[Killer-Queen]

I used to do that and they would not back off so, I curse fools out when they get out of line like drunk dialing me at 1AM on a weekday not knowing if I have a man or not. I can't consider feelings with that stuff especially when they have a girlfriend.

[lex217]

haha i'm finding that too! there's one dude i haven't messaged back in a month and i'm still getting like three texts a day from him. guys can't take a hint. I have a boyfriend & even when i tell the guys that they keep flirting with me. lol

[Artisticnarwal]

For me, none of the above. The only time I give mixed signals is if I'm feeling suspicious about something he did. Otherwise I keep my signals pretty solid.

[vickiezalez]

Ugh i used to do that but now i realize people who do that are STILL girls. WOMEN who know what they want just go for it, not pussyfoot around the issue.

[Anonymous]

With my crush, it's because some days I have a lot of confidence that he likes me so I will talk to him a lot. Then when I feel like he doesn't like me, I try not to start the convo because I feel like he doesn't like me.

[Emmac789]

This is me 😂

[Opinion Owner]

Ikr lol I feel your pain XD

[wisdom_sharer]

1. I don't think he likes me back...
2. I don't thinks he likes me enough (enough to ask me on a date/try to get to know me better).

[MysteriousFlower]

I should ask the guys the same thing!. If I did not like him I would like things fizzle out, but I'm usually straightforward.

[overthinkingmind]

Sometimes I give mixed signals if I'm not sure how the guy feels, so I don't wanna show him my true feelings already.

[Anonymous]

This may sound strange but sometimes we feel very confident and the next day we dont. Or sometimes when we feel things are moving to fast and then when we "ignore" a guy because we get nervous and that's basically a hint to stop hitting on us for a bit.

[Killer-Queen]

Yea, but a lot of people will back off. I would.

[Kirah]

Girls like that are often playing hard to get, or are unsure, or they think they're coming off as "too desperate".

[ixi10]

Because I'm not interested and don't want to be blunt and hurt him

[Anonymous]

She doesn't realize that you don't want to be friends with her, usually is why. Stuff like smiling, waving and even texting are things that friends (hell, even friendly strangers on the first one) do.

[Daniellaxx]

Maybe the girl is just shy in person, or doesn't want to seem to keen or clingy

[missy223]

Because I've shown interest in him and thought I have given him a lot of hints and he has done nothing...

[AmberDawnxo]

I think other then the second choice are really bad

[Nujabes123]

either she's oblivious or she has other intentions.

[Grace_Rdz]

What are some reasons guys also do it? Enlighten me.
And I don't know, maybe because I'm just an idiot like that?

[SonicRiver]

If I'm distracted by work or not feeling well I usually seem a little off.