Hey, question for the guys:
So about 5 months ago I had this thing going on with a guy who goes to the same school as me. Me met up a couple of times, kissed and snapped each other. But then he ended things (but we were on a good term). Now a week ago we talked alone for the first time since then and he like asked me if I had a boyfriend and stuff. After that he snaped me and since then he has been flirting as well. But now I kinda asked him why he hitted me up again, and he just said because he wanted to keep contact. He also said that he’d understand if I didn’t wanna snap him anymore… But the flirting was really obvious on his part so… what‘s up with that? Would a guy truly just hit up a girl you once had a thing with just because now after 5 months you decided that you wanna keep the contact?
So about 5 months ago I had this thing going on with a guy who goes to the same school as me. Me met up a couple of times, kissed and snapped each other. But then he ended things (but we were on a good term). Now a week ago we talked alone for the first time since then and he like asked me if I had a boyfriend and stuff. After that he snaped me and since then he has been flirting as well. But now I kinda asked him why he hitted me up again, and he just said because he wanted to keep contact. He also said that he’d understand if I didn’t wanna snap him anymore… But the flirting was really obvious on his part so… what‘s up with that? Would a guy truly just hit up a girl you once had a thing with just because now after 5 months you decided that you wanna keep the contact?
What Guys Said
I dunno. It's weird. It's not like someone's unable to change their mind about a thing they've done.
The ball is really in your court on whether or not you want to give him another chance. Hopefully he won't flake out again in the future. If that happens, no more second chances, yeah?
I'm not sure it's mind games or anything. Personally, if I like someone I try to stick around, not play Hokey Pokey. If someone's too out of my league, that's when I start crumbling and doing weird crap and it usually ends up in self sabotage.
Well, I‘ve chosen to still snap with him but now just as „friends“ ig… I‘m just pretty sure that he knew that he had been flirting and I don‘t know why he did that in the first place if he only wants to be friends yk?
Well the only thing you can do in this situation is just believe what he says.
If he wants to be friends, be exactly that. If he wants to be friends that "flirt sometimes," you don't have to deal with that unless you're okay with it.
I would like to imagine he thinks he messed up and is trying to rebuild whatever you had going on... or he could just be trying to get you in his back pocket again for a rainy day.
It's best to judge by actions rather than words. If you're romantically interested in him, let him know and find out what he really wants. His response will be your answer.
And on top of that, it's not fair to make someone care, then break it off and then come back again. I'd let it slide like maybe just once.
Because you were next up in the batting order. 😂
Why would he lie about wanting to keep in contact. You are trying to make an issue out of nothing.