So I really like this guy and he knows it but lets start from square one,
Im currently living in Chicago and his in Ohio but Im moving to Ohio soon so distance will no longer be an issue,
So one day he message me on facebook dm and for the next month he was super flirty... not really ever in a dirty way but just in a cute way.
Then he ghosted me for about a month, disconnected all connections, it was right about after I blasted him for flirting with other girls but now i regret it because we where never official. After the month he added me back and we started to talk and now, we talk but one day we would talk for hours and it would be sweet, next its quite short.
--i told him i like him but he never actually said "i like you too"
--he would always compliment me so obvs I thought he liked me too
--some convos we have are quite flirty but he never actually calls me beautiful anymore...
I read somewhere guys just flirt and compliment girls until they get them where they want them and once that happens, they give up, how do I approach this topic to him
-I also asked him if he likes talking to me and he said yes and he usually snaps me first so Im guessing thats kinda a good sign?
All advise is greatly appreciated, ty in advance :)
Most Helpful Guy
A number of reasons lead guys to send mixed signals to a girl. A prevalent reason for this behaviour is when they are unsure whether the girl would reciprocate the feelings.
Mixed signalling is a technique the guy uses not only to shield himself from rejection but to determine if the girl likes him or not.
Too often girls think that being a guy means he is genetically immune to the hurtful feelings of rejection, or he is naturally made to expressed his feelings confidently without the shame and knock-on effect of rejections.
The guy uses niceties and other eager-to-please actions to keep the girl within touching distance while acting as if he is not interest.
More so, mixed signalling is a smart seduction technique for attracting women or men. Too often amateur daters think by consistently showering love and praises to a guy or girl is a better way to win their hearts. In fact, experienced, skillful daters understand displaying lack of interest and sending conflict signals not only makes the the target (e. g. the girl) confused, but provokes sexual attraction and weakens the target's defense mechanism.
Do not forget at the onset when the guy was overtly displaying interest in you might have realised afterward you no longer excite him. It's perfectly okay for him to send I'm-no-longer-interested signals. It is a good thing for the guy to bail out at this stage instead after the relationship has started.5
Most Helpful Girl
Have you ever rejected him in some way? I think showing jealously about him flirting with girls might have scared him off a bit. What he did wasn't right (ghosting you), but you shouldn't have came off too strong. I know this is the typical answer, but I think you should be open with him about whats the deal with you two.1