Why do girls stare at my arms?

[Anonymous]

It's finally hot out now cause I live in a cold state and we can wear short sleeve shirts now but I notice when I'm on campus girls stare at my arms

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[rosue]

are you muscular? most girls are attracted to or turned on by muscles so they may be admiring that. or do you have tattoos? I personally like looking at people's designs because typically they tell a story about the person and I like to figure that story out.

[Asker]

My arms are really big and muscular but I didn't think it meant much they are just arms

[rosue]

yes but some women find arm muscles or just muscles in general, attractive. either that or they are really short like me and when they look straight ahead they look like they are staring at your arms?

[Asker]

Oh well that's good to know

[rosue]

^_^ nice chatting with you then

[KaseyRouqe]

Maybe to see if you have nice biceps.

[Asker]

I mean my arms are pretty big but they are just arms

[KaseyRouqe]

Well probably because most guys don't have arms like yours, it calls for their attention. Girls can say the same thing about boobs just being boobs, legs just being legs. But guys still look. It's not a bad thing they're just taking a glance at something they might find attractive.

[Asker]

Something they want around them?

[KaseyRouqe]

Sure. I honestly don't like guys that are too muscular, but a lot of girls are into it. Most likely they find it attractive, even I would take a glance. It's not every day you see a guy with very muscular arms.

[Asker]

https://imgur.com/BcaLCvM

[KaseyRouqe]

Yup they like your arms and that's why they look. For the same reason most guys stare at girls with big butts. It's just what the majority finds appealing.

[Asker]

So I'm not necessarily boyfriend material just eye candy

[KaseyRouqe]

If course not, but let's be honest the first thing people notice is the person's appearance. You can't honestly say that you would date a person that you don't find appealing even a tiny bit. It's not uncommon for me to see guys looking at my ass, but I know they're just looking. As long as they're not being disrespectful about it, I find it harmless. It has nothing to do with me just being eye candy and same goes for you.

[Asker]

Well the thing is I have never had a girlfriend before

[KaseyRouqe]

Have you tried talking to any of the girls that look at you? Most girls are scare of making the first move. It's kinda stupid but that's how it is.

[Asker]

I haven't and is it girls are afraid of me

[KaseyRouqe]

That's too bad you should try. by the way you don't seem like as scary guy.

[Asker]

I thought my arms might scare them away

[KaseyRouqe]

I don't think so, I think they like your arms.

[Asker]

It would blow my mind if a girl kissed my arms

[KaseyRouqe]

Never really thought of kissing a guy's arms, I mean I've done it while cuddling. I like giving little kisses on the face and neck

[Asker]

Well that too I have seriously never experienced any of that when I say I have never had a girlfriend I'm being serious

[KaseyRouqe]

How about after sex. I mean you don't necessarily have to have a girlfriend to hookup and cuddle with someone.

[Asker]

Never did that either

[Asker]

Never seen a girl naked

[KaseyRouqe]

I'm sure you'll find someone

[Asker]

You think I could

[KaseyRouqe]

I'm positive you will.

[Asker]

Not just based on that picture

[KaseyRouqe]

No I'm talking about the way you talk. You seem put together and not arrogant. To girls that's definitely a plus. Plus the fact that you work out shows that you take care of yourself which gives off the sense that you're an independent person.

[Asker]

That's really cool I appreciate it

[KaseyRouqe]

No problem 😊

[Asker]

I do have a major concern though

[KaseyRouqe]

What is it?

[Asker]

Ok so it's clear in my picture I'm biracial is it a big problem if I'm mainly attracted to white women

[KaseyRouqe]

I don't know what to tell you about that. I'm Latina and I'm currently with a white man, but I'm pretty sure there must be white women who are attracted to other races.

[Asker]

I have always been told not so much even though I'm part white

[KaseyRouqe]

That's too bad. But you don't necessarily have to date a white woman.

[Asker]

You're right

[LindsayRB91rds]

That picture you linked to shows some seriously beefy guns there, dude. You look like you take care of yourself and work out - I wouldn't be staring but I'd certainly notice you.

[Asker]

Yeah I truthfully didn't think it was that big of a deal

[LindsayRB91rds]

Maybe in the circle you travel in, all the dudes are that ripped. I hang around with bankers, musicians and engineers. A lot of them are fit but not with the kind of defined arms you have.

[Asker]

That's ripped to you?

[LindsayRB91rds]

Most guys look more like this:
www.tcomboinc.com/images/10400_SLEEVELESS_NVY.jpg
You have more definition than that. There is the extreme (honestly, rather ugly) where you can see the veins bulging out. Your arms look more muscular than many guys

[Asker]

Is that a help or hindrance cause a girl told me I have gorilla arms

[LindsayRB91rds]

Oh, good question. If it was said in an affectionate way it might be good, but likely it's her calling out that they seem unusual. I know you work hard to stay fit but have you considered that if your arms are getting you negative attention, that maybe you could find a nice fitted shirt with sleeves? The girls can still see that you are fit and take care of yourself but maybe with the sleeveless "Hey! Look at my arms!" shirt.

[Asker]

Well I don't wear that in public I wear that when working out when I'm at the gym he female attention really seems to be at a high and other dudes getting pissed

[LindsayRB91rds]

Some guys are jealous that you have such good results to show for your work and the girls might be interested in a someone at the gym who can achieve that. It doesn't mean that they want to date you though. I work out in a martial arts gym and while guys were interested in my abilities, it never got me any dates (before I was married, of course).

[Asker]

I on occasion can't help but admire some of the women that come in but I notice where I draw most of my attention is when I do chin ups and bench press

[LindsayRB91rds]

Your arms are certainly better than many. I don't know anyone who started dating from a gym meet up though. I'm sure it happens but I just don't know anyone.

[Asker]

Where are some good places I could meet a girl cause I really don't know

[LindsayRB91rds]

What do you like to do that girls also like? If you liked art, for example, going to the museum (quiet and thoughtful) would be a better place to meet girls than someplace loud. The grocery store has world for some guys I know. They pretended not to know how to cook something, asked a woman standing nearby and hit it off.

The church I attend has an active kitchen where we feed people who need help. Most of the kitchen help are women. A few guys have come in to help where it was clear the intent was also to meet women. The idea I guess, if to find something you like where available women are also likely to be hanging around. Does your gym have classes? Is there one filled with women that you could take that teaches something you might find fun?

[Asker]

Well I'm a sports addict so I really would like a girl into sports

[LindsayRB91rds]

That makes sense. Both playing and watching? The softball league in our area is coed and the teams can have up to half the team as guys. I played for one season (it didn't do much for me) but we all went out for pizza after games. We got to know each other pretty well. Are the sports you like to play completely guy sports or do women play them too? A friend at work is a golfer and she met her husband at the golf course. You don't sound like the golfing type - but maybe you are?

I wouldn't know how you meet women who like to watch what you like to watch. My husband suggested sports bars but it's just a guess.

[Asker]

I would like my potential girlfriend to play softball or even in volleyball

[LindsayRB91rds]

Good choices. Both of those could easily have coed leagues like our town does with softball. Maybe a gym? nearby YMCA? Joining a coed team would get you close to a bunch of women who also like playing that same sport.

[LindsayRB91rds]

I'm not a member of this group, but I found a chain local to me that has been doing coed leagues for many years. Maybe you can find something like this?

www.bssc.com/index.cfm/page/Overview/pid/10413

[Asker]

I don't personally play those I play basketball

[LindsayRB91rds]

You aren't as likely to bump into women playing basketball. If I were you, I'd try out one of those games to get on a team. Then after you make some friends you can stop playing if you hate it.

[Pyrofox]

How muscular are they?

[Asker]

They are pretty big but I didn't think it was that big of a deal

[Pyrofox]

The arms I mean in terms of comparing them to the typical guys arms. As its probably they are just maybe surprised by how large or fit you really are. As they might be use to just seeing you with long sleeves.

[Pyrofox]

Oh well girls do like muscular guys xD. like really like them its probably the second most "wanted" thing guys can have after the abs and finally their asset down below the belt.

[Asker]

Well the look but still most girls avoid me

[Pyrofox]

Maybe you should just make the decision sometime and just introduce yourself. And see from there where it goes. I mean there's countless ways to come off as a genuine guy who was just wondering what their name was and just leave it at that and if they wish to continue the conversation they will give a cue.

Really just be charming and nice and you can go far.

[Asker]

Don't know dude I had a attractive blonde in my sociology class who sat next to me move her seat away from mine

[Pyrofox]

Just try maybe on a different girl then gotta roll with the punches.

[Asker]

I kinda wanted her

[Pyrofox]

Well sometimes you gotta just see if the ones who play hard to get. You gotta show them that they aren't the ones in control. If you think what she's doing is to make you work to get her interested sometimes you gotta make it seem like you know she's interested in you and make it so she feels she has to just come clean. Cause some people feel as though they are in control when actually they dont know it but you pulled the rug from underneath them.

[Asker]

Yeah truthfully I have never told a girl I liked her I have always been too afraid

[Pyrofox]

Like make mutual friends to the point she's the only one left not in the loop of the friendship and she will feel kinda the awkward one out. Best part is you dont have to put a lot of effort to pull it off ether. Just introducing yourself to her friends might get enough on her radar.

[Pyrofox]

Just wait for her to feel the need to just interject herself into the equation.

[Asker]

What do you mean I wouldn't have to put in much effort

[Pyrofox]

The social pressures would do the work for you. Just come off as a genuinely nice as you can.

[Asker]

Dude I'm kinda socially awkward

[Pyrofox]

Hey that what some girls find attractive. xD Just gotta be confident that its not going to hold you back from getting to know others. Just have a great time make friends and do that by just being you.

[Asker]

I have always been made to believe I wasn't attractive

[Pyrofox]

Just live the way you want to live confidently and others will feel attracted naturally the nice thing about being confident.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

I guess you can say they're... sizing you up.

[Asker]

How so?

[BeastRB]

Are you jacked brah?

[Asker]

I mean my arms are really big

[BeastRB]

There's your answer