She started crying while we were hooking up?

[Anonymous]

In the middle of a hookup yesterday.. this girl is on top of me kissing me and then stops. She starts crying and I ask her what's wrong.. she says something along the lines of I thought I could do this but I can't I still have these feelings for you and I don't know if they're going to go away..

See.. we had previously hooked up and I kind of just stopped contact for a few months while I hooked up with someone else. I realized I guess I kind of strung her along but she seemed fine to hook up again. I just didn't know she had felt that strongly towards me enough to have her crying after this many months..

[Anonymous]

Oh lord. Girls just hates it when she's just a fling to guys. It's the worse thing someone could do. Especially if she was a virgin. It meant she trust you enough to be able to give you something that precious to her. If a guy used me for sex and break off contact, I would not be mad at the guy but at myself for actually trusting & falling for the guy, thinking he'd "changed." To most of us, sex is a commitment and of course we would hope for something more in the future than just empty sex.(I hope that made sense.) But I can see from her point of view that you hurt her so much but she probably gave you another chance again to hook up. If you don't like her, just tell her. If you do, then I hope that you do something to proof it to her.

[vladz]

Ok. Reading this, I'm pissed, but I know it's not your fault, so let me explain. To most women, sex is a commitment. When you do have sex with a girl, don't break contact! That's the worst thing you did! That hurt her so much. She wants someone to love her. Whether you want to or not, at least be nice and don't cut contact for that many months, let alone weeks.

[GoeySamurai]

Sounds like she thinks you're​ just interested in sex, whether that's true or not is your call. If you want a relationship with this girl, let her know you're​ there to stay. If you're there for just sex, it's best to let her go because as you just saw, she has feelings for you and that'll get in the way.