Girls always seem to lose interest?

[nabluster]

I think there's something wrong with me that I can never figure out. I make a good connection with women when we first meet, but it always seems that after hanging out the first time they lose interest immediately after we part. Like some weird magic linger effect.

What do you think it could be?

[Elcristoph]

Hello,

Womn are not like men, men tend to chase a women who has a fantastic body regardless of how her personality is becouse of how we are built.. however women are not like this.. if a women sees a man she's atracted to she will allow him to persue her (giving her your number..accepting the date ect) BUT the biggest difference women find it a lot easier to get rid of someone even if they find them atractive..

what this basicaly means is for guys looks alone will not cut it..

When you meet up with them do you take control of the conversation but allow her to do most the talking?.. are you making her laugh?.. you also need to bare in mind that if your to physical or to sugestive of being physical to fast a lot of women get putt off by this..

the next girl you get a number from give her a call about 5 days after she gives the number to you and ask her on a date.. USE THE WORD DATE..

when your on the date keep it short and sweet, no more then 1 -2 hours.. sometime in the afternoon say around lunchtime (non threatening time of day)

when your on the date turn up ON TIME.. and make sure you have made an effort to present yourself.. if you have a car arrange to pick her up and drive her to the venue..

its usualy best to have a coffee date

Now women want a man who can take charge.. I don't care how outspoken she was when you got her number on the date she will be shy and following your lead so you need to imress by showing contorl..

like I said keep the conversation light and relaxed.. your job is to make her laugh.. but don't force it, remember a date is as much about getting to know what she's like as her getting to know you.. if things don't go well.. leave it alone and move on..

if things are going well (shes laughing about somthing she did as a child.. somthing at work ect) when your 2 hours are up.. end the conversation and begin to take her home - to her car ect.. whan you get to the place where you will part ways go in for the kiss.. IF she accepts with a smile and you get no bad feelings then she has interest at which point say your goodbyes..

NOW THIS IS IMPORTANT.. she's JUST YOUR DATE.. NOT YOUR PARTNER so you need to give her LOTS of space.. don't text her asking how she is or anything like that.. just wait about 5 days and call her out again..

Always remember a guaranteed way of not getting rejected is to allow her to come to you. (which she will if her interest begins to rise) that way you avoid the "I need space" conversation..

Good Luck

-Chris

[Anonymous]

When girls first meet you they probably have some expectations about what you can bring to her social circle.

Most girls don't date guys for herself, they date guys so she can say something about her to her social circle. Girls use the guys as a form of self expression.

So that's why they take their time hanging out with you before feel safe to move forward. they need to make sure the guy fits the standards she wants to project.

So even if she likes the guy, if the guy does not meet this social standards she decides not to date him because she is putting in danger the slef image she wants to display.

[wildfire5288]

This is bull sh*t, I have tons of friends with boyfriends that most of their friends can't stand and we all just put up with having them around because they see to make whoever they're dating happy for reasons we can't figure out. Girls don't date guys for their friends or as self expression they date them because they want to. You must know some real b*tchy girls if this is how you think girls date.

[Opinion Owner]

I said things she wants to express and project about herself. This is not equal to things her friends would want to have for her.

[TheBeautifulOne]

This is So true! Thank you for being so sincere! Most women would never admit that, but it is exactly how it works, This is also why women make their men abandon hobbies which they view as socially dubious, eg. collecting figurines or homesteading (first one is being viewed as nerdy, second is because homesteading deprives a woman of social life, which is very important to them). They want their man to be presentable. This is also why it is so important to have a good car if you are a man. I could not get any action when I had my old jetta lol. If you want to be a ladies man, you should have a decent professional job (ex: engineer, manager, business owner) have attributes of riches (expansive car and house) and a good body. Now, you do not need all this to get a date, but you will have to seriously drop your standards, I mean SERIOUSLY. This is also why a lot of guys these days opt out as they find these demands too challenging and they dont want to settle for leftovers.

[wildfire5288]

Are you boring? I mean from your picture it looks like you have a good body and all so maybe they're going out with you because they think you're hot and then when it's just you and them they don't feel the same connection that you do. Just because a girl agrees to go out with you doesn't mean she's 100% interested in you. Like Jake the Bachelor, Jake's hot and when the show came on I wondered why he was still single. Two weeks into the show it became very clear to me why he was still single, the man had no personality whatsoever. Girls aren't going to want to spend any more time with you if they think you're boring and they can't have any fun with you

[nabluster]

Well as far as I know that's not, we always seem to have a great time together. they laugh, smile, as far as I can see all positive reactions to me. That's why I'm confused

[wildfire5288]

Are you sure it's genuine laughs and smiles? Because I laugh and smile at people everyday and then the second they walk away I roll my eyes or something. You have to be able to tell when girls are actually having a good time as opposed to when they really are having a good time. There's forced smiles and laughs that most girls have perfected because we don't want to hurt anyone's feelings

[nabluster]

How could I possible know something like that?

[wildfire5288]

Chances are you won't because by the time girls get out of high school it's been perfected because it helps avoid drama between other girls. I know when I'm kinda just going through the motions of having fun with someone I tend to look off into space right after I've smiled or laughed or become way to interested in something on the ground for a few seconds. If the other person is still talking they generally don't notice

[nabluster]

Maybe its my fault then for never paying enough attention to them....

[rainysunshine]

Dont over-think it. Chill. How would you treat a friend? Vibe. Patience. Comunication and chilllll.