I trust my girl but not her study buddy.

[Anonymous]

OK I have been seeing my girl for 3 years I love her to death and trust her with all my heart but she is in college and needs help studying so she has been studying with one of her guy friends, they study at my house because I'm possessive and Monday they were siting on the floor and instead of looking in his he was looking "somewhere he shouldn't" I was so mad but kept myself from killing him but I'm a scared he might make a move on her then I might lose her and I don't want that and I don't want to tell her she can't hang out with him because then we will get into a fight and I will have to sleep in the living room, but what do I do about this?

[TexPlayboy]

You need to get help. If you are going to try to spend the rest of your life with a person who is going to make you act crazy, something has to change. If she is the one you love, I would suggest the change be YOU.

Your jealousy is based on something; either your own insecurity (we all have those), or your own wondering eye (guys usually do that too). BUT you need to know that women do not think like men, and she is not thinking what you are thinking. The study buddy? yes, he is thinking what you are thinking, but you will driver her away if you can't control your anger and jealousy. And the study buddy will be gone in a few months, but there will be another guy, another friend, a co-worker, someone who is going to agree with you that your girl is HOT, and he is going to look/stare. But you can not worry about all of the attention she is getting, just enjoy the fact that she loves you and wants to be with you.

If she is worth spending the rest of your life with, then you don't have to worry about anything ever happening. Her radar will go off when the guy crosses the line, and SHE will decide when his friendship expires.

Enjoy the fact that your lady is attractive, but know that you can not have it both ways. You can't have the hot girlfriend and no one else look at her.

Good Luck,

James

[seraphimsummers]

If you have been with her for three years you must know her quite well. If you really did trust her with all your heart you wouldn't be feeling like this so there must be a part of you that does not trust her.

If she is trust worthy if or when her sleeze bag friend does make a move she will tell him where to go and probably break off the friendship so you have nothing to worry about. You say you are possessive and I think that this is the real problem because you will probably feel this way in another situation where you have to trust her around other men.

It is good that you have the good sense not to make a big deal about this with her. Trust that she can handle any situation that comes up with this guy. Don't let you're insecurities spoil a good thing.

Peace,

Shan

[Asker]

Thank you ill take your advice

[azicr]

i think the best you can do it trust her like she expects of you.

I never believed that a couple has to try their hardeest to keep them away from other potential people because if a couple truly love and care for each other than they have nothing to worry about-- they sholdn't have to be sceptic and work to make sure their loved one doesn't fall for someone else--i don;t know maybe I live in a farytale and have never been hurt like that yet. But I think if you really love each other you have nothing to worry about-- if something does happend between them than she wasn't good enough.

[enigmaticlady]

I think you should tell her that it makes you worry a bit that she is studying with this guy, since you've seen him looking where he shouldn't, BUT that you trust her and know that she would never do anything to jeopardize your relationship.

By doing that, you've let her know that it isn't that you don't trust her, its that you don't trust this guy friend. And you've also made her happy because you've let her know that you trust her sensibilities and her commitment to your relationship.

Good luck!

[sunshine88]

It's good that you admit you're possessive. I think the problem is that you know that your girlfriend is attractive and this other guy probably has ulterior motives. If you act jealous it's going to make your girlfriend feel like you don't trust her, or that you don't think she can handle herself. If you trust her, you have nothing to worry about. She will at some point realize that this guy is what she thought and find a new study partner. If she loves you as much as you love her, you don't need to be scared about some other guy scooping her.

[kmcarras]

If you trust HER, there really shouldn't be a problem. She won't leave you if your trust is justified. If you're really worried though, you should ask her if there's anything she would like from your relationship together that she isn't getting. People don't usually cheat for sex. They cheat because they found something they were missing in a different relationship.

[roseamason]

simple. just tone you your sex life around her big time. when they come in kiss her show your feelings in front of him. almost like marking your territory. if she loves you back, you have nothing to worry about - I know its him, but if she lets him make a move, she's just as bad.

[DreamyEyes]

You know once she graduates she will meet more people and once she find a job of her dreams, she will have to stay late for work. Ask yourself this question ... is she happy when she is around me? If she does, then you should not worry about the others.

[Ashleyyyy]

her friend sounds like a douche, yeah you say you trust her but if your actually thinking about it like this then you must not completely trust her. but you should try talking to her about it because girls like to know everything expecially in relationships.

[Anonymous]

You're setting yourself up to face your worst fear. Seriously, TAKE A DEEP BREATH and HAVE FAITH. YOU are her boyfriend, not him. And the fact that she's agreed to study where you want them to study (him as well) and is open enough with you, that speaks volumes already.

[shonail]

hmmm

just make sure you tell her that you love her d make her feel awesome.

trust her and lover her :)

[Anonymous]

Your insecurity is what is going to drive her away, not this guy

[CountessFuckYeah]

You won't have a problem if you trust her and she loves you. If she really does, You have nothing to worry about.

[Anonymous]

trust her, she loves you

[Anonymous]

You could marry her.