If a girl says she doesn’t trust anyone, is that a red flag?

[Anonymous]

[ettubrutus]

Not really, she's probably just cautious. Anybody could be a psycho and you wouldn't know.

[Anonymous]

Nope!

[Asker]

I disagree

[Opinion Owner]

Why?

[Asker]

If she doesn’t trust anyone that mean she probably thinks everyone wronged her which is victim mentality. Where is her accountability in situations going wrong?
Also if she doesn’t trust anyone she is bringing baggage from past relationships into new ones and that is a recipe for disaster.

[Opinion Owner]

She’s prob so fed up from everyone who did wrong her that she just needs a break from everyone else so she can reflect about her past hurts and not bring them into new relationships.

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t assume. She’ll come around if she doesn’t detect any bad toxic vibes from you in the meantime

[Asker]

Again where is her accountability? So everyone is wronging her and she is doing nothing wrong? I have a hard time believing that.

[Opinion Owner]

(Speaking from a very guarded girl with trust issues)

[Opinion Owner]

Where are “you” in her life? What do you want from her? Maybe I’ll be able to answer that much if you provide that type of information.. or are you just observing her with others?

[Opinion Owner]

If she’s really fed up,, on a scale from 1-10 of what you actually think about her is -0. If she’s not saying anything for proof and causing drama, then don’t assume.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe she’s just confusing you with her silence. I don’t know, you’re not providing much about her.

[Asker]

I honestly i have no standing in her life. I’m just some guy. I suppose to be a friend. I like her but I want something solid otherwise I wouldn’t have stay in contact with her for 3 years. the vibe I get is you stay way over there and I’ll deal with you when I’m bored or it is convenient for me.

[Opinion Owner]

You’re still a stranger in her eyes. I’m like that too if the guy I’m talking to wants more than friendship.

[Asker]

This isn’t friendship

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know what your reputation is with other girls, but she prob knows more about you than you let on.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, because she placed in you in a different category. You failed the friendship test, not you’re just some other guy..

[Opinion Owner]

Now*

[Opinion Owner]

Her messaging you, she’s just being polite.

[Asker]

Not at all. We don’t know the same people and we don’t hang around each other which is why this makes no sense.

[Opinion Owner]

And she’s keeping the door open ajar, because she might like you but not enough.

[Asker]

She is being polite but she initiates some of the chats

[Opinion Owner]

You haven’t wronged her.. sometimes persistence helps, but. It be too pushy. Like mirror her effort in w/e this is

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t be pushy* don’t make accusations!

[Asker]

I did wronged her because I said some words and was pushy but that wasn’t my intention. I regret some of the stuff I said

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly.

[Asker]

You agree with the pushy part?

[Opinion Owner]

What are your true intentions? What do you want from her?

[Asker]

Something real. Friendship and if that develops into romance then I’m happy with that

[Opinion Owner]

Anyway, she’s prolly ol’ fashioned too. She won’t make this easy for you if that’s what you’re looking for... “someone easy”

[Opinion Owner]

Best to just move on.

[Opinion Owner]

You have to be her friend first. She’s a “one guy” girl. She has to be in a relationship with you if she’s going to give you anymore than friendship. And don’t be that guy who gets in a 6 months or less relationship with someone just so she spreads her legs.

Or be that guy, but NOT with this type of girl.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m guessing she’s learning the difference between list and love. That’s when I started to take a step back, and now you could say I’m looking for accountability. That’s all in your head.

[Opinion Owner]

Lust and love*

[Opinion Owner]

I have a very strong intuition about people. I listen to my gut and you pushing her confirmed with her your true motive.

[In_Trance]

not necessarily