Should I trust my girlfriend?

Question

She's VERY friendly, especially to guys. She's always talking to a guy, not very often to a girl. Granted, i think more guys work where we do than girls but still.
I seen her texting this one guy that works there, and then 2 days later he was just "following" her around and walk over with her and she gave me a hug and left and he was very awkward and kept his head down in his phone, but he stepped out and waited on her and they went on. I was pretty mad and hurt a d talked to her about it and she said that she only wants me and he was just a friend (a new friend by the way)
Personally, while in a relationship with a girl i could never text another girl, at least not often or daily. She does and when I bring it up, she gets mad and says "what, i can't have guy friends?) Of course she can, but it's just how she does it.

What should I do? I really like her, but she makes me wonder a lot and i don't like that.

D-Pad_Chad · Accepted Answer

I'm going to be 💯 it sounds like you're not mr. Right, you're just Mr. Right now. Ask her if she'd be OK if you started talking to other girls and hanging out with them. She'll either say one of two things.

1. It's different= she doesn't trust you but she demands you trust her regardless which means she doesn't respect you.

Or

2. I don't mind= she does and is calling your bluff/doesn't think you'll attract another girl to talk to you.

The reason I bring those up is either way you should ask to see her social media, texts etc... if she has nothing to hide this shouldn't be an issue, offer to show yours as well.

Before anyone says this shows a lack of trust, trust isn't given its earned. Nobody should trust their boyfriend/girlfriend until it's earned incrementally through various acts of service and by putting to rest concerns.

Best of luck, hopefully it's nothing, despite my initial suspicion.

slatyb · Accepted Answer

She's allowed to have friends, both male and female. Do you know where she is most of the time? Then stop worrying about it. If you can't stop, then talk to a counselor about it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well, she didn’t become incredibly friendly overnight, meaning 9/10 she was this way when you met her, but now that there’s a romantic bond between you two those qualities are making you jealous and insecure. My point in saying this is that you don’t want to cause unnecessary drama between you two. It sounds like you work at the same job, so it’d make sense for her to befriend her coworkers even if they are guys. Anyway it’s either here nor there. If you’re experiencing trust issues then maybe it’s better not to date someone that you directly see doing things that make you uncomfortable.