So early in my relationship I lied to my girlfriend (like a lot cause I was tryna sleep with her) and it took me a while to come completely clean about my lies because I love her. Now since I did come clean about my lies (it’s been about 2 months) she’s been calling me a liar and always holds it against me in arguments.
Now the issue her isn’t lies (I know people lie very often), it’s the way she portrayed herself in this relationship. Since day 1 she’s said she’s never lied to me and firmly held that stance, she’s also said on multiple occasions she would never lie to me and never has because she loves me. But I found out about multiple lies recently.
She lied about the amount of sexual partners she’s had before she met me in between her last STD testing (I’m assuming so I wouldn’t be afraid to date and sleep with her), she lied something else (I’m gonna keep confidential on her because she admitted to it and it’s kind of personal info out of her respect), she lied about a guy she had on Snapchat (I was concerned about it too cause she was messaging him in a very fishy way), she said he was just some random guy she knew through a friend of a friend but I found out she met him off tinder (which has me very concerned again cause I confronted her once about it already and I thought this issue was over, but she lied about it) and I haven’t found a way to confront her just yet.
I’m upset that she held my lies against me for so long, she acted innocent, used love as a shield to cover up her own lies and worst of all I’m really losing trust in my girlfriend but I still love her, my heads all twisted up I don’t know what I should do or how I should do it (whatever “it” might be) but it’s getting to be a real burden on my mental health and I need help and suggestions.
Now the issue her isn’t lies (I know people lie very often), it’s the way she portrayed herself in this relationship. Since day 1 she’s said she’s never lied to me and firmly held that stance, she’s also said on multiple occasions she would never lie to me and never has because she loves me. But I found out about multiple lies recently.
She lied about the amount of sexual partners she’s had before she met me in between her last STD testing (I’m assuming so I wouldn’t be afraid to date and sleep with her), she lied something else (I’m gonna keep confidential on her because she admitted to it and it’s kind of personal info out of her respect), she lied about a guy she had on Snapchat (I was concerned about it too cause she was messaging him in a very fishy way), she said he was just some random guy she knew through a friend of a friend but I found out she met him off tinder (which has me very concerned again cause I confronted her once about it already and I thought this issue was over, but she lied about it) and I haven’t found a way to confront her just yet.
I’m upset that she held my lies against me for so long, she acted innocent, used love as a shield to cover up her own lies and worst of all I’m really losing trust in my girlfriend but I still love her, my heads all twisted up I don’t know what I should do or how I should do it (whatever “it” might be) but it’s getting to be a real burden on my mental health and I need help and suggestions.
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