My girlfriend has trust issues that are driving me crazy, advice?

[Anonymous]

I have been with my girlfriend, Lindsay, for about 6 months.

I enjoy being with her and for the most part things are going well.

We are both 23.

However, my girlfriend has trust issues.

I have never (nor will I ever) cheat on her, but I know she has been cheated on in previous relationships. Probably part of the reason why she has trust issues.

I have quite a few plantonic female friends.

My undergrad and current grad programs are mostly females so I spend time with these females because we study together or hang out together after class.

One of my best friends is Emily (who has a boyfriend).

My girlfriend won't meet Emily and it bothers me.

Emily and I are super close and even though she has a boyfriend my girlfriend thinks it's "sketchy" that I have a close friend who is a female.

Funny thing? My girlfriend has platonic male friends.

I think its kind of hypocritical.

Whenever I go out with my guy friends for a "guys night" my girlfriend will say "don't do anything I wouldn't do" or "don't have sex with any girls." I have reassured her that I don't want to be with anyone else so many times.

I don't know what else I can do to make her trust me.

Also, the fact that she is so untrusting makes me think that she is the one that is being "sketchy" or whatever. (Am I thinking too much about it?) Like maybe she doesn't trust me because she knows she is the one sneaking around (and is afraid I am/will do the same). Regardless, all of this trust drama is driving me insane.

Thanks for the help!

[aprilshowers0210]

You should sit down with her and talk it out. I am in a similar situation and it sucks. I think there is a deeper issue here, she might feel like she isn't good enough for any guy because it has been proved in her past. It sounds like she's insecure with herself, which is very common with girls. I think she's afraid to meet Emily because she might think that Emily is prettier and better than her which will further her distrust in you. You should talk to her about it and show her that she is great and she deserves you.

[dakotaman34]

This is the classic case of jealous, A lot of girls suffer from this if they have been hurt in that past like in this case. This becomes a psychology issue that they have to deal with and it takes a long time to be able to trust again after getting hurt. Their is not much that you can really do just treat her good and reinsurance her that you are the only one. In many cases this will help but sometimes it does not work out. I wish you the best.