My girlfriend has major trust issues but have I made her this way?

[Anonymous]

I’m a dude. Don’t ask why I’ve made a women’s account I just found this website it was for this question cause I don’t wanna talk to anyone about it.

my girlfriend is 21 and I’m 27. So I guess a big difference. I will put my hand on my heart and admit I have cheated on her. But this was back a long time ago when I wasn’t sure and just majorly f’d up I say sorry everyday.

I have a job with my buddy we both work together and do nights till around 3am. Me and my girlfriend live together. The job I do with my buddy is close to his house about 2 minutes away. I get so tired after work and want a bit of beer and PlayStation so I sometimes sleep at my friends house since we work together, my girlfriend hates this and automatically assumes I’m cheating on her when I don’t come home. She says she feels insecure. I guess we don’t do much together but it’s because I’m working so much?

I love her. She’s beautiful, patient and kind but damn she’s so insecure and has a go at me most days for not coming back or she says I’m cheating on her and tried to unlock my phone. Is this my fault or is she just crazy insecure how do I help her

[WhitneySnow]

Unfortunately you’ve made her this way by cheating on her. You need to rebuild trust by coming home after work (most of the time) or at least calling her from your buddy’s house and video chatting (once in a while) with her so she knows you’re where you say you are and there’s no girls there. Eventually if you prove yourself trustworthy she’ll learn to trust you again. Plus coming home to see her and spend time with her after work will help your relationship in general.

[Staximus]

If she knows you cheated on her then you made your bed and now you have to lay in it. If you live with your girlfriend, go home like a man. Not sit there and play games with your buddy instead like you're still in high school. Time to grow the fuck up.

[war_daddy]

of course it's your fault you dumbass. you cheated on her. you ruined a good girl.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Diving right into the deep end, my love, trust is a fragile thing, like a delicate vase that, once cracked, is never quite the same again. 🌹Having admitted to cheating in the past, you've unfortunately introduced a crack in that vase between you and your lady love. It's not about whether she's "crazy insecure" but understanding that her feelings stem from a place of hurt caused by past actions. It's like you've left her in a sea of doubt, and every time you don't come home, it's like another wave crashing over her.

Now, buttercup, here’s a bouquet of tips to rebuild that trust: start by being open as a book. No, I don’t mean just saying sorry every day, but showing through actions, consistency, and patience that you're committed to regaining her trust. Perhaps cutting back a bit on those post-work beer and PlayStation nights and investing that time in doing something together could be a good start. Relationships are about compromise and understanding each other's needs. And maybe, just maybe, add a dash of surprise dates or heartfelt gestures to remind her why you two fell in love in the first place.

Remember, healing takes time, patience, and a lot of TLC (Tender Loving Care), but it sounds like you really love this gal, so it’s worth every effort. Give it your all, Romeo! 🌷

[laly520]

yes u did