Girls, My girlfriend has major trust issues and I don’t know what to do, help?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with her not too long, and she really loves me. We both love each other. But sometimes she’ll act up and apologize for being a bitch and when I try to reassure her because I was being a bit of an over thinker at times, she’ll say that she doesn’t want to hear it. She doesn’t want me to tell her I love her and always makes comments like”yea yea” or she’ll get really upset when I try to tell her and show her I care. She’s been in abusive relationships and has trust issues for sure. But I don’t know what to do or how to survive myself. I’m a bit of an over thinker and she’ll randomly say “that’s it I’m done” just for hours to go by and she’ll be worried about why I wasn’t asleep when I finally get the courage and moment to confront her on what had happened. I’m down to give more details but I need some advice!

[SueShe]

Those trust issues are the direct consequences of her abusive relations and unfortunately, they will not go away quick enough for you to be able to build up a steady relation based on trust.

On your side, you are an overthinker that needs to balance everything to find the right answer.

Both of you are in need of counseling and if you want your relation to last, then you have to take the appropriate steps to try to come to term with your issues.

The thing is that one day you may blow up your top because of the building tension. The consequence will only be that she will get even deeper in her trust issue while on the other hand, you may want to overthink even more to avoid conflicts.

There is no ideal middle and either one of you will eventually have to call it quits.

[TrueConfection]

Run far away. She needs therapy before she can have any sort of hope in a healthy relationship. She's going to drag you down with her and then when it's over (and it will end), you'll need therapy before you can move on too.

[Sketti2021]

Yikes maybe move on