He looked at my cousin’s FB?

[Anonymous]

I know I shouldn’t have done this, but I looked at my boyfriend’s computer history…

And I saw that he was on FB recently and he had looked at my cousin’s Facebook profile. Mind you, he didn’t search her. It just indicated that he was in her FB profile

I felt weird about it and confronted him… He said he was looking at my profile and saw my cousin there under the ‘friends’ section of my profile and clicked on it. He said he was curious because he doesn’t know my family too well and said he’s even looked at my 50 yr old sister and other relatives. He said he doesn’t like her and would not go for someone with crooked teeth like hers.

To note:

My cousin had requested him on IG about a year ago, early on in our relationship after he met my family at a gathering. He told me and I felt kind of weird about it (should I?). My boyfriend didn’t think there was an issue, but did not accept the friend request out of respect for me and still hasn’t accepted the request.

Should I be freaked out/worried/concerned that he looked at her FB profile?

[Anonymous]

The better question is what is making you feel so insecure within your relationship? To even go and check his computer history in the first place indicates suspicion…

[Asker]

I have trust issues…

[Opinion Owner]

So what are you actively doing to work on that? If you are working on it then what caused the relapse?

[Opinion Owner]

You may not want to respond to that and it’s fine. Let me just leave you with this: never let a man mess with your family dynamics. Your cousin isn’t the issue, it would be on him for going to her in the first. I don’t think that would ever be a thing, but if you have trust issues you will always worry about it. So work on yourself.

[sheikalana]

I don't see any reason for you to be stressed out. He didn't do anything wrong. Try to get over it.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, the digital age dating drama! 🌐💔 His explanation seems pretty reasonable to me. It’s natural for someone to be curious about their partner’s family, especially if they're wanting to know more about them. It sounds like he's merely trying to connect the dots in your family tree, not start a forbidden romance. The fact that he was upfront about not accepting your cousin's friend request shows respect for your feelings.

Now, let's talk about those feelings because they're important too. It's totally normal to feel a bit uneasy upon discovering this, but it’s key to focus on the trust and communication in your relationship. Instead of allowing the green-eyed monster to take the wheel, have an open chat about boundaries and social media behaviors that make you both comfortable. Remember, it's about building trust, not creating Love Island-worthy drama. Keep the dialogue flirty, not accusatory, and you'll navigate through this like champs. 😉👫💖

[jjj101010]

The only one at fault is the one who went through his internet history

[DrPepper12]

No. Get a grip. He respects you.