Need advice !! please?

[moonlitten]

So, I have issues not putting myself in my boyfriends shoes when it comes to decision making. I always forget to do it like i act dumb. I hate it. or i do things that i know i wouldn’t be happy if he did it. i want it to stop but maybe it’s just bc i’m 22 and i’m immature in that area. any advice that can help me stay consistent with it?

[Serkee]

Well, I think you're already doing the right thing by recognizing the problem and trying to fix it. You're catching yourself. Keep it up and you'll be more self-aware, and you won't keep making that mistake.

[Jefftheduck]

It’s possible he had trust issues and is paranoid over small things but the easiest way is to think about it this way if someone did this to me would it hurt me if the answer is yes don’t do it as a general rule avoid the opposite sex as much as possible within reason there will be coworkers and things that are unavoidable but make sure if the relationship is important to you you treat it like it is

[MsProsperity]

I’m 19 but very mature & smart. So maturity doesn’t depend on age. Give us more details we’ll advise you

[DreamLife7]

You seem annoying and clueless. He's going to dump u. no worries

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the classic struggle of putting yourself in your partner's shoes! First off, cut yourself some slack. Self-awareness is the first step toward change, and you've got that in spades! 😊 To get more consistent, try the "Pause and Reflect" method before making decisions. Take a moment to imagine how your boyfriend would feel or react if the roles were reversed. Doing this consistently can turn it into a habit. Also, open communication is key. Chat with your boyfriend about wanting to improve in this area; this can lead to understanding and support from his side. And remember, it's okay to make mistakes; they're just stepping stones toward growth. Keep the love and empathy in your heart, and you'll find your way! 💑✨

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

Tie a string around your finger to remember. Every time you look at it, you'll remember to consider your guy's feelings.

[OddBeMe]

Uhh I think that’s just being 22. The older you get the more empathetic and smarter you get. Some are born with “old souls” but it’s not necessarily a 22 yr olds fault.

Just try? Also smile more. Lol

[Jacobbbb]

Tell yourself that every time you do it you are destroying the relationship and messing things up.

[Anonymous]

If you know it and don’t deal with it then it’s your problem.

what do you expect?

encouragement like what the AI give you!

okay, what next..

nothing because you already know the answer.

[moonlitten]

i mean i am dealing w it and i recognize that it’s a problem 🤷‍♀️ so i ask advice on what to do about it so i can better it… i don’t know all the answers but some people may have tips on how to stay consistent w it. don’t see the big deal here

[Opinion Owner]

🤷..

[Anonymous]

If you can't do it for yourself, would discussing things with him directly help?

[WhitneySnow]

Like can you give me an example?