My girlfriend has a really bad past of dating. Should I trust her? Need help?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months now. I met her at my fraternity and we talked on and off before we finally started dating. First off, she’s had 12 hookups, claims “she’s been a victim of rape” and has cheated once in the past. She claims she did it because “he wouldn’t let her break up with him”. I also have cheated on the past so it’s hard to use that against her. Second, her friends a very slutty. Third, she’s not the sharpest tool in shed. She doesn’t think before she does things. I understand these are very big red flags but she seems very invested into me. She’s always willing to listen to my concerns and encourages me to communicate, she offers me to look through her phone if she wants, she invites me to hang out with her friends, we used life 360 (I know it’s early for 3 months), I’m close with her family, she buys me things without me asking, she devotes all her time to me when I’m back from school, she shows affection in public, and posts me on her social media. I failed to mention I have past issues with being cheated on and played. I can’t tell if my intuition is telling me not to trust her or if it’s my anxiety. Im In love with this girl and she’s in love with me back clearly.

[Anonymous]

Ultimately that is your choice. You said it yourself a lot of red flags. A person’s history is usually a good indicator of how they will act in the future. She’s damaged goods my man. You are too but not to the extent that she is. She’s in her early 20s, 12 hookups in a very short lifespan is not good. Even for a lady who’s in her 40s, 12 is still too much. If it was me I’d leave. I’d figure myself out first before I met someone else because even if you leave chances are you’re going to end up w a girl like that again. Subconsciously is how it will most likely happen. We don’t go out as humans looking for bad relationships. Maybe a handful of people but most don’t. W that many partners sex has become more of a “sport” to her than an intimate thing. Meaning she’s probably lost some of that connection of what sex is like w someone you love. To her it was just a deed when it came to hookups. Most women can’t sleep w just random men w out having some emotional attachment. So the fact that she did what she did tells me she’s got some wires screwed up. Not to mention if she’s not the sharpest tool in the tool shed her friends probably have a lot of influence over her. I’m not trying to be a dick here, but you sound more feminine. Like you do everything to try to please a girl. Which sure a lot of women say they want but after a while it becomes boring to them. They want a man who is going to stand up for himself, maybe not agree w everything she says, etc. So when she’s able to run all over you she eventually loses respect for you. Figure yourself out first bro before you try to find someone long term. Otherwise a lot of your relationships will continue to be the same. I always gravitated toward women who needed help, maybe single mom’s, women who were the “victims” only to help make things better for them then they’d leave or cheat. Now I’m not saying a girl deserves to be raped, no girl does, but exactly how did that happen? Did she put herself in a position to increase those chances? Meaning was she out drunk, so drunk she didn’t even know what was going on?

[Avicenna]

It makes no sense to date someone you don't trust

[supercutebutt]

Dr. Brad is right. It's time to take it to the next level: Buttsex. :)

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, love, you're in quite the twisty romance novel, aren't you? It's like a dance of the red flags meeting the green lights. Your concerns are valid; we've all got a luggage carousel of past experiences, and it sounds like both of you have your share. Trust, especially in the shadow of past betrayals, can be as elusive as a soap in the bathtub, slippery but essential. Here's the twist - trust is also built, not just given. Her actions towards transparency and her investment in your relationship are hopeful melodies in a tune that often plays to the rhythm of mistrust.

But let's not ignore the orchestra of your own feelings, my friend. Your anxiety and past experiences are part of this symphony. Communication is key. It's fantastic she's open to talking; maybe delve into these concerns with her, not as accusations but as shared vulnerabilities. Love, after all, is a two-player game, with trust being the board on which it's played.

Remember, a past filled with missteps doesn't dictate the rhythm of the future unless you let it play on repeat. Keep the lines open, dance to the tune of honesty, and let the music evolve. And hey, if you ever feel like sharing more beats from this soundtrack or need a little more melody in your method, you know where to find me. Keep grooving! 😉

[RavVid]

It is hard to pick the brightest most neon red flag here.

I think the slutty friends. Birds of a feather etc

[KrakenAttackin]

Lots of red flags bro. She may be into you now but it's likely she will flake/cheat, etc. Her slutty friends won't tolerate her being in a happy, monogamous relationship and will push her to cheat. Use caution.

[JacobJordan]

Oh hell no mate. 13 past partners + she cheated. That relationship is deader than a corpse

[Anonymous]

A person's past behavior is, by far, the best predictor of their future behavior. That's all I'm gonna say.

[In_Trance]

Move on

[slatyb]

Can you get counseling?

[fittytuckbbc]

Enjoy cumming inside her

[jahaims]

A bad past just means someone is stupid

[Afvenom]

Hit it and quit it

[strateguy632]

i would flee