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When I was very young in elementary I have. Because of how he must of felt if he was genuine. However, stupidly, believing that I may have went too far, they already having a girlfriend the next day! It was no mistake to me. They didn't respect my views, and I said about me not able to date till 18. And waiting for marriage to have sex, but would like to be friends first to see if we would be compatible for romance. But Nope. I don't regret it one bit as I got older. If I reject somebody, is because I already KNOW what they are about, observing their behavior and sensing thing spiritually about that my spirit isn't comfortable with. I don't regret my decisions. Because those same guys are screwing around and fooling around with other girls, messing up their life.
Overall, I cannot speak on how your describing it. If a guy doesn't want to be friends first, as that is the best way to start a relationship or just try to be friends, I wouldn't bother with him. Because he's selfish with his emotions and feelings, he more and likely don't understand what real love is. If you say you want to in a serious long term committed relationship, especially one that will lead to marriage, your partner NEEDS to learn how to be your BEST FRIEND. If they can't be on my level psychologically and mentally, then they need to be with somebody else.
I haven't done any of that. I've been there for her, asked about her kids, tried to support her when she needed it in little things, be patient, never wanted her for sex etc. Maybe I was just too nice and she didn't care in the end. Only she knows because I don't.
My guess is she already knows what your about and isn't interested in attempting to try. If you have conflicting views, normally that's it. If she has children, 9/10x people with children won't have time for a relationship, or they don't want to have one because their still in love with their ex, or their not ready, or perhaps too bitter. If she isn't attracted to you , period. Then there is nothing that you can do.
That's the point I don't know what it is. Everything felt real all the signs everything. So I don't know. I've left her well a lone. I guess time will tell. She obviously feels I don't need to know.
What it is is that she was doing it out on a whim, because of her emotions. Not thinking rationally. Women mostly go by feelings and the moment. We sometimes don't think what our actions currently is doing to us or that person. Sorry to say. She's not going to say anything because she's scared and embarrassed what you will think. So ghosting you is her way to expressing her insecurities.
I get that she may have issues. From what she's had in her past most people would have issues. I agree she can be scared of telling someone. Does that mean can't have feelings? Doesn't have them or never will? Or just that she had them and found them hard to deal with? I've never had a woman do anything on a whim like that. I've never had a situation where it seemed to go so well and there seemed to be feeling there then nothing. Everything from her looked and felt genuine so I trusted it. Hell other people remarked on it and noticed it so something must have been obvious right?
At this point you have to remember that a relationship is mutual. Feelings are fleeting. Relationships a more a rational decision. If this is something she personally didn't want to do, don't expect her to allow it to go further. It's within her right to say yes or no. Her not responding means that. She might have felt pressured by her emotions and having people comment about the way you two are together. That is enough to scare anybody who is commitment phobic.
How do you mean pressured by her emotions? It wasn't me that hurt her why should I be punished for what other men did. Are you saying emotionally she might want to but in her head because of her issues she won't do it? So she's stopping it before it goes further? Then why does she still want me in her life. I have to do a charity run for her in may 18 I can't back out she's serious about it. Surely she must know friendship would end? I have to protect myself too.
Well she doesn't know that unless you tell her. Yes, she is afraid of getting into another relationship. Most of us are just happy being friends, but if your just as selfish wanting a relationship that would obviously turn sexual, remember it's the sex thats scares us off from dating. So unless your waiting till marriage, you can forget it.
There was one instance in which I regret rejecting a guy. I had been pursuing someone that was never going to give me the time of day, but I was hopelessly falling for him. That's when another guy came around and he was better than the one I had currently liked, for he was kind and an all around good guy. Looking back, I should've been with him rather than the douche that led me on.
Did you ever contact him again?
Yeah I rejected this guy because I thought to myself there was no way in hell he would like me by my looks. I never have him a chance because I thought to myself why would he want to date me? I felt ugly and fat. But he was really cute but I'm glad he's happy now
Did you ever go back and talk to him?
Suppose he wouldn't do that if he didn't feel something. Who knows I don't. Pretty much the only chance I've got is if she comes to speak to me. Odds are against that I think.
Give it time maybe there's still a chance for you and him.
I don't think I can name any specific incidents, but yeah i feel bad, but like I know that he is strong and resilient and there's a girl out there who would love to go out with him but I'm not that person. I've never done it in a mean way so that helps
What made him not for you? If you can see his value or how good he is what is it puts you off in those situations?
Yeah once. Went on a blind date with this guy, I was so shallow when I was a teenager and he had too many spots.. I saw him years later and my God he was beautiful lol. Moral of the story, don't be a shallow bitch
Did you approach him again?
Is it too late now? I don't have any regrets about rejections. It's more chances missed. Like when a woman's liked me and I've brushed it off ignored it or just blown it. Like snatching defeat from the jaws of victory and sabotaging myself lol!
So you've pulled back from him? Or you just haven't asked him? How can a guy tell the difference between a women pushing him away and rejecting him.. it's hard in my experience it all looks the same. Like when you start talking someone and it moves fast one of you is scared so backs off.. it's hard to know if it's rejection or just they like you and are scared.
I've pulled back a bit and im not too invested in him, and not asked him cos I'm scared to. I Just didn't message him for a couple of days to get my head together cos I freaked out. I think we are both scared, but we both keep coming back,. You would know if they are rejecting you I think. It's tough l
That's just it I can't tell right now with the one I'm talking to. Only she knows and she's not opening up. So who came back first? Did you pull back and contact him when you were ready? Right now I'm taking it as rejection to protect myself. I've deleted her number and won't contact her again. Guess I'll really know in time. She is ok face to face but not text. So we shall see, unfortunately I became invested in her which isn't like me. I wasn't looking for anyone due to bad experiences when I've rejected women they caused issues so I stopped dating then I saw her it was different. Like there was real potential and she got to me. Can't deny that.
All you can do is slow it down and if he responds and is willing you knows he's genuine. Tell him how you feel so you're not lying and be clear with expectations for the situation and the future. If he accepts that's great then observe his actions see if they match his words.
Thank you I doubt I will though to be honest. Not sure if she cares or is even thinking of me at all right now. I have no way of knowing.
Well our last contact was when she flagged me down on the street to tell me she was busy and not ignoring me. She then text and called the same night. I couldn't reply u Tim the next day. Our last conversation was her telling me she was ok and about work. She has this habit now of not replying after my second text. That's as far as it goes then i leave it.
Ask her how she feels? I have no idea if that's possible. I've made it clear how I feel there's been plenty of chances for her to bring it up. My plan is to suggest a meeting if she contacts me again. Only use texts for definite plans.
What star sign are you by the way? I have the same trouble with the guy I'm seeing, he doesn't tell me how he feels and it's that that makes me insecure. Here's a question, he told me he's going away for work in February for a month, would he tell me that if he didn't see me in the future, I don't like the uncertainty 😂 drives me crazy
I'm a Virgo.
Well yea he would. Everything you've told me says he is being honest so far. I'm sure you'll both discuss it when the time is right for you both.
If he sees you in the future he'll be honest like he has been. He's told you that and you both continue then yea I'd say he still wants you there.
Not very long really about 2 months. I've been trying to get her to move things forward but she isn't really. Because a lot of things came up and a lot of situations not appropriate for talking about dating. So I have no idea where she's at I guess you're right I've never really asked.
So what do you see from my sign? lol I'm going to guess you're a Taurus or possibly a Leo
I don't normally let people in and she got to me more than I thought. Guess I probably got too serious too quick.
Oh really what made you think water sign?
Pisces unusual I get on with a Pisces hhmmmm lol.
Yea only she knows and all I can do is wait see if she contacts me. Busy can be an excuse though right? She was busy before which is what raises the alarm bells but didn't have the second job.
Wish I could tell her she doesn't need to be. She can tell me anything and I'd prefer it. any attempt by me show her that would have the opposite effect but then if she was interested she'd tell me right? Yea it is the uncertainty the fact there's no clear solution. Or at least she hasn't confirmed anything verbally.
Well I'll take that as a compliment.. most people assume I'm an Aries lol
YES one guy in middle school. I still feel bad about it I was a jerk and a moron. Too shy to return his feelings even though he was friggin perfect. I hate past me lol
Maybe things will come back around and you'll see him again?
Haha, nah I don't think so. I'm going to a high school in a different city, I only knew his first name and I haven't heard anything of him in over five years. Not to mention he said he'd be gay by the time he was 18 lol.
I reject a lot of guys depending on their personality, I do have one fatal flaw in my being and that is high standards. I can't lower the bar no matter how much I try, so this leads to much less guys that want to be with me.
Yes because he was 8 years older then me. Already has a music career and I'm still in high school. because of the age gap, I friend zoned him even tho he was the guy of my dreams.
my college boyfriend was a lovely human being and I was a fickle bitch at the time. He and I don't ever communicate and it makes me sad cuz it's all me. U?
I do t regret rejections but I regret chances I've missed. My rejections have been clear. I regret this situation I'm in now as I miss her a lot but it's the waiting game I guess.
I won't I guess I'll know in a couple of weeks if she reaches out first
Well I thought the brother of a friend was cute, but i had just left the relationship with my ex and his last attempt at romance ended up with a huge fuck up (she was 3 timing him) so I let it be.
Maybe go back after times passed? See how he is?
Nah I have a boyfriend now and unfortunately my girl friends are either taken or with issues.
Not at all. I have strong reasons for rejecting a guy, and I can't compromise on my mental stability.
No, because I don't take these things lightly. I make sure to carefully think before rejecting someone.
no i don't reject to many guys cause they don't come after me like that.
Yes😹😹😹
It's like every time I reject a guy they immediately glow up🚶🏻🚶🏻
No I've never regretted that. I have regretted not making the first move and being more bold.
Sometimes but the bad still outweighs the good so I won't go back
yeah, i rejected a lot of interesting guys when i was younger due to shyness.
I regret not rejecting more guys 😂
Yea I can see how that might happen.. wish i rejected some of my mistakes but we live and learn haha
Lol why did that get so many thumbs down? 😂
No idea lol.. we've all made bad decisions and dated idiots which we wish we could have picked up on before hand
True that 👌 learning with baby steps 😋
More like blows to the face haha for me anyway
Haha yeah, I very seldom reject people because I always want to give them a chance...
Wish more women were like you to be honest. I feel like I've not had a proper chance here. I really don't know if she was genuine or not. Who knows only she does.
Don't get many genuine people
No you don't there's too many fakes out there to be honest.. guess it's hard to judge these days
No. I can't say as I have ever done that.
no , I've felt bad though
Never
Not Really.
no never
Nope
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