How do I "cool down" a relationship with someone I really like?

[Anonymous]

I have been seeing this guy for a month now, but we were previously good friends. He recently said that he likes me, but he wants things to chill out a bit between us.

[vmw2008]

It's going a little faster than he's ready for. But if you want me to tell it to you straight, it means he's having second thoughts about you and the relationship. If he was positive he was into you he'd be enjoying the intensity of it as its only been a month. You're still in the butterflies stage. However, that doesn't mean you can't get the intensity back. If I were you I'd do exactly what he suggested, "cool down." Tell him that he's right, you should cool down a little and then see him rarely if at all, don't initiate any calls/texts, but don't act mad and get an attitude either. Be polite and happy when you hear from him. Basically, you want to give him the "I miss you" factor that he apparently needs since he suggested the whole thing. It also gives him the reassurance that you don't need him (not clingy). You can be fine and happy without being in contact with him much. This will also increase the attraction. More than likely he'll want to pick up where you guys left off fairly quickly, and if not, he wasn't that into you.

[Anonymous]

You just have to give him space until he knows what he wants to do