Do you worry about your boobs pressing up against someone when you hug, or their bone pressing up against you?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend started out nervous of pressing her breasts against my chest. We talked and now she is better but she is still occasionally hugging weird and keeping her hips back away from me occasionally. It is so noticeable cause she pulls me back when she does it and I have to try not to fall.

Is it she is nervous about it but at other times she is happy to press up against me what do you think?

[btbc92]

She doesn't wamt you to get the erong idea. MOST girls press on guys like that intentionally to get him sexually aroused or to list after her. They same way she is pushing you back, because she doesn't want you doing the same thing to her. Whether intentionally or not. She is being very respectful in that manner. I would do the same because I don't agree with sexual touches before marriage. If she feels she can't control herself, it would make since. she is not used to that. So try to respect how she views it.

[Asker]

Interesting point it could be all of those. I'm a real hugger so it kind of bothers me when she deliberately does that. Especially when she sometimes does fully hug me and hold me close.
I did not think that it could be those things thanks.
Though why would she still huh like the pominanites's image?

[btbc92]

Again, because she is not used to that. You can say you trust her, but can she trust herself? We have yo be responsible for how we allow things to be. Let her make her own decisions. She has to learn to trust you as well as herself. But she has the right to pullback.

[btbc92]

to be responsible *

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice she might have to learn to trust herself.

[btbc92]

That's it, because you can't do it for her. It doesn't work that way. Eventually you'll just frustrate yourself. But also be very honest with yourself as well. If you can't handle it, don't pursue it. But if you have the patience then don't worry about it.

[Asker]

If she is wondering should I encourage her or just let her give up?
That is also for something she might be learning or trying. Usually things that I'm showing her that I can easily do. Or something we are both trying out.

[btbc92]

Just don't. She has to make up her mind what us good for her and what is not. Otherwise you could get blamed for that if God forbid this doesn't work out.

[btbc92]

You continue to talk her and ask her questions. Find out more about her. That is what dating is for. Verbal communication is key. But at the same time, you don't want to enforce your views on her either.

[Asker]

I meant like something we do for a date like trying ice skating, learning to swim, Stuff like that not life decisions.

[btbc92]

Yeah, even if it's just that. You still have to take your time. It's all a new experience for her. She's like a toddler still learning how to walk, talk and listen.

[Asker]

Alright

[Pomegranate139]

I have no boobs to press 😂 Plus I hardly hug people and when I do it's one of these:
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[CheckPlease]

Why do you do one of those? She also sometimes does that?

[CheckPlease]

Sorry my girl usually also does that to me. It drives me nuts cause it pulls on my back.

[Pomegranate139]

@CheckPlease I just always had problems with contact. It's more a me thing. I've only recently been able to hug my mom and brother properly.

[Asker]

How is it a you thing? Is there a way that I can help comfort her and help her fully get over it if she has one?

[Pomegranate139]

Honestly I've hardly met people who have trouble with getting close to someone. It's a me thing because I wouldn't date because the thought of someone touching me was appalling, and the fact she is dating you shows she is probably nowhere near my mental state 😂

[Pomegranate139]

Anyway is this a new relationship? If she doesn't like contact it might take some getting used to for her to be close to you but she'll get closer over time

[Asker]

Ok but she was fairly close with her touch barrier it took a while for her to get used to it. Even holding hands took time.

[Pomegranate139]

Exactly. For me I could sit close to someone because I'm a way that no longer counts as awkward because I sit beside random people on the bus all the time and complaining would get me kicked off. For her it might be the same. Sitting close has no worry anymore, but more intimate things like hand holding and close hugging gets a bit too close than what she's used to

[Wonderer89]

No, they’re just boobs. It’s only a problem if you make it one

[Asker]

Lol a few times I mentioned it to my female friends and they got self contious about it for a bit.
It got my friends crush to notice her change in behavoir and that she liked him. Now they are dating.

[Wonderer89]

Because you’re making it a problem 😛 why would you bring it up?

[Asker]

For kicks and to see how they react. It is only something I can do once with them.

[Wonderer89]

But it just re-enforces the fact that some people take it sexually, so they’re self conscious when giving physical affection or comfort to others

[CheckPlease]

Well it depends on if she is up for feeling your bone. I guess you meant to say boner. At times she might not feel like mentally going there. Others she is happy to feel you on her. As for the boobs it depends some girls do. Mine does occasionally cause she is really self confidence about her so she does not like me feeling them on me.

[RedThread]

I don't even think about it. If it was a naked hug I'd definitely think about it.

[CHARismatic110]

Ummm... unless I air hug everyone, my boobs are going to press against people when hugging. In fact, every girls boobs will press against the other person when they hug. No matter how big or small. That's the craziest thing to worry about.

[zazuun]

I don't worry, I know it's gonna happen. I simply only hug family, SO, and girl friends (for girls it's usually side hugs unless I am too excited)

[Alanamarie]

No. That's strange behavior especially when you're dating. Unless you're teenagers I could understand

[Anonymous]

Seems strange, most girls don’t think about it, breasts aren’t supposed to be so sexualized but unfortunately they are

[DodgersGM]

How old are you guys?

[Asker]

25 this is her first relationship. From a homeschool girl.

[DodgersGM]

I see. Well, she'll get over it eventually. Probably sooner rather than later.

I'm guessing the relationship is relatively new?

[Asker]

Yup it is.

[Anonymous]

I worry about it