Are quiet people really the insecure ones?

[lost_soul]

I mean maybe quiet people are quiet because they don't feel the need to say a lot and are comfortable with silence and aren't actually insecure.

Loud people however, obviously talk a lot and sometimes its like they don't want to be 'forgotten' or left out. Like they are more insecure.

Im a quiet person and don't feel that insecure about myself. I accept who I am.

what I'm asking is this. Are quiet people really that insecure? or are loud people more insecure than quiet people?

[madcat44]

no, quiet people are not insecure and yes there are some that are quiet/shy because they're self-conscious but people confuse shyness/being insecure with introversion/quietness. Introverted people gain energy from being alone, people overwhelm them...they like talking to people but as they're talking to them they lose physical energy. Extraverted people like talking to people because they gain energy talking to them...it gets them going. Extraverted can also be shy and at times quiet because they're insecure. so, no not every quiet person is insecure...

[CherryWill]

you're right. no, not all quiet people are really insecure. some people just prefer to be left alone or enjoy silence. Are a lot of the reasons many people are quiet are, in fact, rooted to some form of insecurity, most likely.

we all have our insecurities, but if you're comfortable with yourself, the people who judge you will rarely get to you, right?

[kdizzleforizzle91]

I'm quiet most of the time, but can be loud at times too. I'm also half and half on the security issue. I think the loud people are sometimes more insecure, which is why they talk so much, because they want to be noticed. Quiet people aren't always so insecure, they just might not have much to say.

[alltheabove1212]

I'm quiet but it's definitely not because I'm insecure. Most of the time I just don't feel like talking. Especially in large groups.

[lost_soul]

I'm exactly the same I guess. At times I feel like I don't have a lot of confidence but in large groups I mainly listen as it can be hard to 'get a word in edge-ways'

[alltheabove1212]

Yeah we're probably pretty similar. In groups of about 5 I'll contribute but I've just never been one to talk a lot in groups. It seems pointless and the obnoxious loud guys always talk.

[lost_soul]

Yeah it's annoying and it always seems to be what they want to do. Like my friends. If they need to go to class then we'll all go. But if I need to go anywhere they don't even bother. I'm not overly concerned it just p****d me off a bit.

[alltheabove1212]

Ha well luckily for me; The friends of mine that are like that also don't do well in school. So I'll be making decisions later in life if you know what I mean haha.

[bornloser]

loud people are annoying-most people are lucky to get 10 words a day out of me

[zaoco]

And look at your name....

[allieland]

When I'm quiet it's because I don't have anything to say to people. That's it. I'm extremely secure with myself, so I don't see the need to be loud and abnoxious. I find it's the loud, party people who are insecure with themselves. They feel the need to be the center of attention, it's like they're constantly seeking justification that people like them.

[alltheabove1212]

I'm the same way :). It just annoys me that I don't quite get the attention they do from women. Because they are loud, they are fun I guess. I'm just as fun I just don't talk as much.

[lost_soul]

Yeah that's what I was meaning. Like they could be more insecure than us quiet people.

[TornApart]

i think they are. and it does not necessarily mean a bad thing. just means ya have to work on a few things. but then again load people can be insecure as well.. I don't know, you can go so many ways on this post. its a hard question to answer, but at the same time, you never know...

[MsPinkUnicorn]

Well I'm an introvert and I am insecure

[Anonymous]

im quiet and an introvert. I'm happy.