There are some people who just see the world as so stacked on favor of men they feel the need to act as though they're on the 'womens' side of the picket line, where women can either do no wrong or can't transgress in the same way men can. They run on double standards, whereas most people try to examine themselves & limit the double standards of their life on account of how gauche hypocrisy like that looks.
because they think women having "rights" means they can demand whatever they want.
i'll be honest though, a lot of men nowadays encourage them to behave this way because a lot of us are too pussyhipped to give them a dose of their own medicine.
I just don't think the guy should specifically say it to their face, but he can think it and tell his buddies about it. Being 5'10, there are many guys who talk to me that are my height or an inch shorter that I am plainly not attracted to- but I Never say it's because of their height. Let them down easy! hope this helps=
Everyone has their own dating preferences and no one should be shamed for declining someone that doesn’t fit within them.
However, I’ve rarely seen either gender “make fun” of someone being short or fat when rejecting them. That’s usually done when the person is as asshole
That’s a statistical improbability hun. That every woman you meet is an asshole. If all the women you want are assholes then maybe it’s time to open the possibility to different types of women, widen the dating pool
Well we must admit most wome are Heightist, who mis use the word preference, mainly to reject guys on there height, if we dated randomly , every eight relationship had a woman tallest , but IRL only every 128 couple have a woman tallest, so the guys have a point, when they say we hate shoter guys, and why society still haven't started to get any kind of sanctions against those horrible mindset, where we wome still are allowed to simply hate shorter me , by telling we just have a preference it's outrageous and ofcauce them of us who do should be ponishsd
I was more trying to make the point that women with height standards who say they want a guy "XYZ" tall get mad when, after asking a guys height, take umbrance when he replies with "how much do you weigh?"
I'm not rejecting anybody, merely trying to prove a point that women who state a preference for height are being hypocritical over something that doesn't matter by having a lifestyle choice that does matter reflected back to show how petty those women's behavior is.
Me when I see a question that says "Women" or "Men" implying that either is "all/majority/most of/all the time" and they don't offer any other hint of any real number backing that claim other than a personal very limited experience in a very small sample of the population...
Yeah your completely wrong. Its assumed that the vast majority of women want tell men because the vast majority of women want tall men which is backed by not only the anecdotal experiences of pretty much every man (which is why so many men mention it) or by the fact that the majority of women fully admit to it as can be seen with the comments (other then you not one of them has suggested this was untrue and several have admitted they preffer taller men) but also because we actually have studies that show it: www.huffingtonpost.ca/.../...r-men-_n_4774256.html
yep. Personally if a woman wants a tall guy I don't really care but she needs to be honest and she cannot complain when a guy doesn't want to date a woman because she is fat. Its the hypocrisy that I find frustrating.
@hellionthesagereborn Hm that is a big change in the OP, it was, as I understand, being hurt while hurting someone, not dating someone. I still stand on the idea that "women" is such a lousy argument, because without any scientific proof that "women" as a majority, behave that way, and I mean, hurting and then playing feeling hurt. That is only stupid and immature. Now on your idea that dating is hypocritical, I tend to agree with you. Men that don't like overweight women are only expressing a difference, the same way that women that don't like short guys are expressing their preferences. Making fun of either is stupid behaviour.
But we do have scientific proof, as I pointed out we have surveys showing it, its cross cultural so its innate. The current reasoning is that it probably has to do with resource acquisition as nutrition plays a very big part in height and this would in turn suggest greater ability and health. Judging a woman because she is fat is much the same thing in that they have greater weight and thus higher risk to their health making them less appealing as a mate (to what degree has been shown to depend on the level of poverty, the more impoverished the more inclined towards thicker women, the less impoverished the more the inclination towards thinner women as fat deposit is far more useful then detrimental if you have to worry about starvation. Its a prioritization, short term survival vs. long term and which is more likely to be an issue.). As for asking a woman her weight, that is simply applying the same standards back to her to prove a point.
The fact is society pressures men to lower their standards for women while encouraging women to have much higher standards. By applying his standards to her when she shows that she is concerned about the superficial he is essentially evening the playing field. A woman has no more right to judge a man then a man has to judge a woman ergo either she is superficial and he is superficial for it and its wrong, or neither of them are doing something wrong. But that's not what women say in general, that is most definitely not what society says, they make exceptions for women and try and shame men who do the same thing that women (in general) do all the time. It has nothing to do with being hurt and everything with holding her accountable for her statements. Why should I as a man have to lower my standards because they are "superficial" while simultaneously being forced to accept the superficiality of women? Its not fair, that is a double standard.
He is not saying that you should act this way, what he is saying is that if she asks you about height then she has forfeited her right to be upset when you ask her about her weight. Its about accountability and holding people to the same standard that they hold you to.
I think you are confused Height and weight are completely different Weight - is something a person can change Height - is something you can't change If a women have height requirements I don't blame her, because of a few factors such as height is a trait passed genetically to kids while fat is not. Also, I assure you not many women gets rejected because they are fat! Maybe you did but you don't count as a statistics You are 1.
So your saying ist acceptable to judge some one on something that is immutable vs. judging some one on something they absolutely can change/avoid? Thats seems backwards.
I am not saying what is acceptable and what is not acceptable I am just saying you can't compare weight with height I am a girl so I know better what attracts girls to guys physically at first glance... is height Height is a huge factor... if it's not acceptable or not I am not here to convince you.
So why do you think its different? Not being fat is attractive to guys, height to girls. If its okay for a woman to judge a man on height then why would it not be okay for him to judge her on her weight? That sounds like a huge double standard.
It's fine to judge a girl if she is fat. It's fine to judge a girl if she is skinny it's fine to judge a guy if he is short it's fine to judge a guy if he is tall Do what your heart wants that's not my point... Where did I write is bad to call a girl she is fat? Can you tell me...
anyways I still remain at my opinion which is Height doesn't change so height is an important factor.
You said it was not an irony to judge some one then to turn around and get upset when you are judged, you also tried to claim that they are different the implication being that because of this one was more reasonable then the other. If that was not the implication then I don't understand what you where getting at as yes their are differences but they are not really note worthy beyond stating that judging some one on something they have no control over and has no over all effect on them or any one else is far more shallow then judging some one on something that is primarily based upon their choices and has a negative effect on them. Again, if that is not what you are arguing then what are you arguing?
It's a retort to her questioning his height. Answering petty back with petty. See your response is perfect because you state your preference without being exclusive or shallow yet you leave it open ended. Well said.
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