We are jealous because of something we don’t have. We wish we could have what another person has and envy them for that, cuz WE don’t have that. For example the girl in the pic wants bigger boobs and it’s pretty obvious that she wants that cuz she’s looking at the woman with larger breasts.
Girls care too much about looks (in my opinion MORE than guys) cuz we are constantly being reminded of how we’ll be treated if we AREN’T pretty. Ex: Insta, Snapchat, Ads, Family etc. We’re living in a world where it’s you either have it or don’t. There’s nothing that could stop girls from getting jealous of another girl no matter WHAT kind of body positivity speech you give. We have that constant urge to look better than another girl in order to be adored and loved by who? IDK! Hahaha
Sometimes this jealousy can be good, sometimes bad. We always want to be the best we can be, and maybe this jealousy pushes us forward (or pushes us back and makes us hate ourselves). It’s all about WHEN a woman can accept herself, cuz I feel it’s time that helps a girl understand what true beauty is (cuz she’s experiencing life and sees what she’s hasn’t seen before cuz of her blindness). Tbh this answer is pretty straightforward when you think about it.
You see something you don’t have. You want it! Like when you’re a kid and you want that new toy everyone has. Or you want those new kicks that’s trendy. Or you want a bigger salary like your older siblings. Honestly instead of being jealous of not having what we want, we should be happy with what we have (cringey but true😂).
Ik a girl who’s reaaally pretty and she’s always wondering why i get attention from guys. My friends told me she talked shit about me and said “She’s not even that pretty!”. See? No matter WHAT a person has they ALWAYS want MORE. Really stupid.🙄
Sorry to push myself in, but in my opinion our society is so focused on having/aquiring more. Not as much enjoying what we have and looking at what others have, or we don't. I really like the comment above. Great insight.
@Zenurus thank you so much! 😊 but I did say the part about how we want more on the second last sentence. Not a lot but I’m did say it. thanks AGIAN LOL
I have personally been very very jealous of other girls and their appearance previously. I myself felt super useless and insecure. Since I was a child everyone commented and told my mom how dark I am, and grew up earning that dark is not beautiful, pale is. And pale, skinny girls with long hair are most admired while my own ex would tell me that I would look prettier if I was fair-skinned.
I would feel horrible. I was in crazy love with him and felt like, if I was pale and skinny then he would not treat me badly and cheat on me. That shit hurts a lot bruh I felt like I'm being punished for something beyond my control.
After I healed from our breakup and realized that so many of my girl friends like my appearance too, especially my eyes, many girls when they take pics with me, complain about how small their eyes look compared to mine. Even I say stuff like I look like a potato beside them. They look so glowy I look dead 😂
I came to the conclusion that we all have different kinds of beauty and we just feel like the grass is greener on the other side. In reality we don't realize how beautiful we ourselves are.
And I remember one day I complimented a girl's unibrow, she's so pretty but she told me she hates it. I was surprised cause I always wished I had unibrow. Sometimes it gets very confusing, what people find beautiful. Tall or petite, skinny or curvy, pale or dark... We all like to look the best and when different people like different features, it is impossible to be admired by everyone and somehow we are conditioned to believed that if we are pretty then everyone will admire us.
Because there are so many women with huge insecurities and they often show themselves through jealousy and subsequently, nastiness. But those insecurities can come from society in general and how they do not match the women shown on TV or in magazines.
That picture shown initially could be interpreted as jealousy but I view it more as she's not impressed about how much chest she's showing. I'd be looking the same way if a woman was practically showing all of her breasts like that! I have small boobs but have zero insecurities about them and I like them as they are, so it would not be a case of jealousy, so maybe what we view as jealousy could have been misinterpreted.
Those are double standards. Living in a society will make everyone have insecurities. "That guy has bigger biceps" (manly men example) To dismiss these insecurities we create double standards. Everyone does it and some more then others. "Hé has bigger biceps, because he has better genetics" or "because I don't Stay in the gym for 10 hours a day" I think jealousy happens when you don't dismiss your insecurity but project it to someone else.
The whole pic. www.famouspictures.org/.../...sfields-cleavage.jpg Jealousy was not the issue. Here's what Loren said In an interview: “She came right for my table. She knew everyone was watching,” Loren told Entertainment Weekly. “She sat down. And now, she was barely … Listen. Look at the picture. Where are my eyes? I’m staring at her nipples because I am afraid they are about to come onto my plate. In my face you can see the fear. I’m so frightened that everything in her dress is going to blow — BOOM! — and spill all over the table." From her memoir: "At that moment, Jayne Mansfield arrived. The crowd of guests parted to let her through as she headed straight for my table. She moved forward, swaying on her heels, perhaps not completely sober, with something grand and imperious about each step she took. She knew everyone had their eyes on her, and how could anyone not gape at her neckline, which was more than generous. It was as if she were saying: “Here comes Jayne Mansfield. The Blond Bombshell!” She sat next to me at the table and started talking — it was like a volcano erupting. As she got more and more worked up, suddenly I found one of her breasts on my plate. I looked up at her, terrified... One especially quick reporter took a picture of the scene, and the image went around the world. I refused to autograph it. Hidden behind Hollywood’s enchanted kingdom were some coarse and grotesque sides, which I refused to have anything to do with."
You have to define the context. In a relationship jealousy, for male or female, is a symptom of insecurity.
It sounds like you are referring not to that, but to the jealousy women have of other women, the kind of pettiness they often show. This is evolutionary and is about mating. It is still based on insecurity, but has a competitive aspect.
Women are always competing with each other for mates, even when they have one. They instinctively and unconsciously send signals to each other on the quality of themselves as a mate. For example, do you think men care that a woman has a $4,000 purse or a $10,000 diamond ring? No. But other women do. The one that has such things is sending a signal to other women that she is highly valuable as a mate (just look at the expensive frivolous things my mate gives to ME). Women whose mates don't give them those things then feel they are not as high a quality a mate, because if they were, they would have those things too.
It is ridiculous, but that is they women are hardwired.
Self esteem issues and lack of self value. I a not the prettiest girl but I don't get jealous of other women because my value lies in more than my looks. I actually felt bad and tried to be friends with prettier girls that people treat like shit.
But you live in a heartless world where the people who are the most evil think you're evil, the stupid think others are stupid and the narcs think others are narcs. I think a lot of ugly people are narcissists, there I said it. They think pretty people owe them something, and blame their nine issues on them, want what they have even though they have no use for it, the atrocious list goes on, this is why I do not fancy the facially challenged.
I wish I knew why people are so fucking mean. When I was painfully skinny in intermediate school, other girls mocked me and talked shit about me behind my back. After I matured physically and became attractive, girls were bitterly jealous of me and talked shit about me behind my back.
It's jealousy spurred by competition. I've met girls who were not very attractive physically but who had great spirits. They weren't jealous of anyone because they weren't trying to compete. They were just themselves, and I wish more people were like that.
woman become aware from a young age they are judged on their appearance more than men...
Men don't get the same scrutiny... I mean think of teenage boys running around in the same clothes for days getting dirty and having a good time, when did any of their friends turn round and mention that they had the same jeans on yesterday or that their t-shirt has a stain on it...
where as girls from a young age are told if they don't look this way or act this way... they won't get a boy...
Basically a guy can be a total slob not care what he looks like but if he is a nice guy/good personality he can still get a girl.
The same doesn't work in reverse men are visual creatures...
It's simple. There is a social hierarchy. Men compete with other men and women compete with other women within their respective gender-specific hierarchies. Both of those competitions are for a very simple biological aspect: Mating.
So men try to not only prove they are healthy, fit, good genetical material - but also capable to protect and provide. That isn't quite the case for women. They almost solely compete for the good genetical material (+ being nurturing by personality).
The problem with this is that you can't really improve your genetics. So while men compete to up each other and who is the best, women have their hand pretty much dealt. Yes, they can be healthy lifestyle wise and maybe use makeup here and there, but that's about it. The rest is set in stone. So instead of competing for the best, they also need to sabotage the competition.
Does every woman do that? No. But there are plenty of superficial women who do.
It only gets worse as you get older girl... Unfortunately, instead of women lifting each other up and having each other's backs like men tend to do, Most women let their insecurities and low self-esteem problems overshadow their entire life. Just know that not all females are like this. There are some women in the world that want to see you do well no matter what and that love that you look are beautiful and that you may have a better life than them. It's an inspiration when you have confidence in yourself. The jealous types are a misery to their partners, family, co-workers and friends, but even more to themselves. All you can do is try to uplift them or avoid them.
I don't know. Sometimes things not done out of jealousy will still be chalked up to jealousy, it seems because it's the simplest reason you can think of that other can agree with without asking too many questions and getting to the bottom of it. For example, I strongly disliked the way a beautiful friend treated her male best friend when she was drunk. I told her many times that it's not ok to treat him that way, and she should either drink less or not take him along if it bothers her so much that he's with us. Others who don't like me will probably tell her that I'm just jealous that she has the power to treat him like dirt and he still keeps coming back and doesn't stop loving her, which is not the case.
First things first. You ask why does a girl get jealous. I think the correct question is, why do people get jealous. Jealousy is a very natural feeling that comes not only to girls but to guys as well. It comes when you are insecure about something. The way you look for instance. The way the society works is so that you feel pressurized to look good, you want to look better than others. You want people to notice you.. I am not saying that all girls feel this way. But most of them do. May be even all of them.
It's partly due to social construct. From a young age we are shown, told and had enforced that to be the best is to be relevant. I remember at a young age learning the most beautiful girl gets the hot guy with the job and that was to be strived for; the "easy life."
Dont you want to look pretty? Dont you want guys to be attracted to you? Dont you want to make the other girls jealous?
I never cared, personally, but that made it a different ball game; as I got older, the "pretty girls" would all pick on me. When I was 12, my "best friend" and her friend had make up and the older friend of my friend was going to do ours and we would pretend to be Britney Spears in One More Time. We looked fucking beautiful, based on their make up. By the time photos were done and I looked in the mirror, I realized I looked like a clown.
It's more than human envy and desire. That is more like seeing a happy couple and wanting the happiness they share.
Women are naturally at war with each other because of science, it's all to do with being better so that they are better for a mate and are selected by an alpha male instead of the other female. To translate an attractive inside and out girl will get the most handsome, strong and most perfect personality in the guy or guys a. k. a the alpha male making them alpha female making them top of the food chain etc
Well, actually I believe women are more supportive towards other women, than any man will be.
It comes back to the patriarchy & sexism. Women are made to see their worth in looks, & how men rate them. This creates a competitive & jealous environment. It doesn't have to be that way tho. When you find your sisterhood, it's amazing!
Interesting picture. That was a party for Sophia Loren, and Jayne Mansfield (mother of Mariska Hargitay) decided to crash the party, getting attention by showing off her big jugs. Mansfield tried to be another Marilyn Monroe, but couldn't quite pull it off.
A lot of people are jealous of someone because they admire what that person has from the bottom of their heart. There is a sentence on the Internet, I think it is very good. In the quarter of a person at the same time your heart also told you to confirm him. Which means you're sure. everything he has. All he has is everything you want. In fact, we don't have to envy others. we are all unique. We don't have to look up to others, we are a landscape ourselves. 💕
It’s one thing I don’t feel, jealous of other people’s looks- I accept I’ll never be beautiful so why be jealous of someone who is beautiful? It’s a wasted emotion really You’re friend should not worry of other people’s inferiority complexes, it’s not her fault she was blessed.
I found out that this jealousy between girls is different from microsociety to another. Thankfuloly, in my uni, there is mostly no petty jealousy between girls. I've heard in another uni, how a girl was bullied because she was more beautiful.
But, in general, I'm proud to say that girls in our society are more kind toward each other. Why? because our society doesn't put that much importance over a woman's looks, but rather on her morals and behaviour.
I think it has always been bred into our society a deep competitive nature for women. For example, only pretty girls get the rich men hundreds of years ago, only the fittest get this, and this has translated and is constantly enforced by “pretty girls get everything and are treated differently” viewpoint that so many have. I think it just constantly rolls on and is slowly disappearing.
Depends. There are many reasons as to why. Jealousy is a package of life. Just whether we choose to act on it and let it grow or not. But generally usually we are jealous of people who are better than us because we feel like "Hey why wasn't I born like her:talented, smart, beautiful, etc?". If only I could be like her. A lot of ifs and wishing.
Gals are a little more outspoken when it comes to expressing their feelings & emotions. When it comes to "Jealously", Gals make it more obvious as compared to Guys. While Guys generally resolve to situation & kinda accept it, Gals are a little more competitive. But, again this varies from Gal to Gal depending on their personalities & its part of growing up, I guess.
It could be a number of reasons, girls jealous of other girls, guys jealous of other guys, a difficult question to answer in one sentence for sure. there's haters in all forms of life it's what makes the world spin. LMAO Wouldn't u hate to read someones mind when they gave a compliment, telling how gorgeous you look & thinking that bitch?
I never really or hardly ever had jealously on a woman's beauty. Most of the time I had been jealous of one's progress or achievements in life. Ex: an old friend of mine achieved in doing something I always dreamed in fully accomplishing in real life; learning Japanese and went to japan. I just heard this yesterday😭😣. Or when I heard my cousin was a valedictorian at her Highschool, and I wasn't because I only had a 3.4 gpa. But then again, I need to work hard for that if I truly want that🌟
Some girls in my college are jealous of me. but it there life that get ruin. most of time. they want what they can't have. been though a lot of jealous girl. when I was happy in a relationship in college. but I give up dating guys in college. some of my ex boyfriend are poo head.
Most of the time, girls are jealous of features they wish they had or are insecure about. If a girl has those things that she would die for, of course she’d be jealous. It’s a human mental thing, sadly.
Girls are born sociopathic. Girls say that guys are violent Neanderthals, but at least we rock the Neanderthal thing. We ask simple question, we give straightforward answers. Males skip the bullshit and get to the fighting. Girls on the other hand, can be insanely nasty and it's unbelievable to guys. Even when guys have their differences, they can usually just fight it out and solve the problem.
Parable to dogs when they see another dog that is their competition.. they start to bark or bark back.. Heard this is more common in porn industry because most hot girls compete & are afraid of other hot girls that can take her spotlight, fame, attention or even money.
Yet there is still a much stronger own gender solidarity between human females , than males. Nearly all women have a least one ultra close female friend , and will have strong support networks of both genders , most adult men do not have these , and are on their own in life. In my experience , women are much kinder to other women , than towards men , most women bash men behind their backs far more than other women.
The only true answer is that it all comes down to natural selection. Men are designed to go after the more attractive and suitable mate, so when girls see that they're not getting the man or that someone else they know is more suitable for most men, it's only natural to feel a sense of hate.
I believe that's something that develops in every person while growing up because of being teased, insulted, compared, etc. Even little things that are said or done without a bad intention may hurt and produce insecurity in the future. We all have insecurities but it shows a lot in some people.
Insecurity. A lot of times, us girls view each other as competition, rather than friends. Another reason is just jealousy! Lots of times we can be jealous of what others have, unaware that their good things also come with their own troubles. If we thought about the troubles other people go through, we might be a little less jealous and a lot less cut throat.
The way social media works is what's to blame. More girls are becoming insecure about the way they look because they are constantly being shown women who are above average, models, and celebrities. Hence more ladies hating on other ladies because of looks, style, or confidence.
Cuz human nature. Plus girls in general r more emotional so it makes sense. They get jealous easily. If u have low self esteem and u see someone has what u want , u would be jealous too
Because they don't blame themselves for the actions they blame everyone else, so because they don't believe it's there fault then there's no reason to change
Insecurity hits like a truck and makes her feel jealous. She'll constantly think 'why am I not like her?' Or 'I could've looked better if I was that way'. It often leads to frustration of how much it's affecting and lastly, jealousy... (personal experience, so no attacking on me if I'm wrong).
Perhaps your friend thinks it is just jealousy and doesn't know the real reason? Or can you confirm they are just jealous? I know it happens, but after so many girls you think maybe she could have upset them in another way?
Because the better looking means the more attention of men it's a status thing, I once had a super hot friend and you can bet your ass I kept him away from my boyfriend. Why? Fear of comparison.
And I was jealous because no woman is blind to another woman's beauty and how men will perceive that beauty and envy it because they know they are lower in status to men because men value looks more than women so they know it's competition just like David envy's josh for his huge boat and nice cars because men have a financial status more than looks. Kinda why my rich cousin has the hottest girl in town
Because girls need to compete against each other for the guys, who look for a perfect girl. We see others with thigh gaps, slim waists, or a pretty face and we all want that.
To simplify the answer. It is part of the biology of the female of or species. We haven't quite evolved away from tribal existence where all the women wanted the one alpha male and all the males wanted to usurp that male.
I don’t know man. I think jealousy and competition is human nature. Eventually I think we’ll move on but for now are animal sides still have SOME control.
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