My ex boyfriend of 4 years cheated on me, and now that happened again! I thought my currently boyfriend was the 'perfect guy', but just found out he cheated on me! (I even feel like a dumb for have said he was perfect) =///
So, I don't know why is this keep happening with me again? What's wrong with me? Why would a guy cheat on his girlfriend? And why is that, the boyfriend behave so desperate, and beg for a 2nd chance, and say he loves you, but yet cheated before?
Please I'm very confused/sad... I need a guy's perspective!
This is a serious question... and thanks in advance.
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I personally have never cheated, and don't ever intend to. So I'll speak about this hypothetically, and logically, as possible. Mind you, the average person, is never rational, no matter how hard we try to be, or tell ourselves.
Heard of the saying, "It's not you, it's me". It's probably true; maybe it's them, or guys in general, or people in greater generality. We all look for something to spice up our life, so anything that's different, will probably entice us. Think about this - cereal. There are some people that can eat the same cereal day in and day out, with no issue. There are some that need a different type of cereal each day. It's all about variety, and the duration. Some people can have the same thing for a short period of time, and others can last years. Hate to boil it down to that type of analogy, but I think that's like people. It's not the fact that what they have, isn't good. It's the fact that what they have is the same, so they look for something different.
Or, it could be you. Don't take this the wrong way, just hear me out. Maybe you've changed over the period, and that's caused them to stray. You might not see it so apparent, but to someone else, you could be a totally different person. It's like when you put too much cologne / perfume / deodorant on; you can't tell if you have, but everyone else can tell. It's like that saying goes, 'You're not the same person I fell in love with all those years ago'. Again, this might not be the answer, but it's a possibility.
Remember I also said that people aren't rational? Well, it could be the possibility, that the guy is looking for a bit of drama, so he starts to stray. Maybe there's no feelings for the other girl, but he's straying to cause a bit of drama in your relationship, just for the heck of it. Some people like drama and conflict. It sound's counter intuitive, but it does happen. Maybe that could explain why they act so desperate for the 2nd chance. They wanted to cause the drama, just so they could go through the whole process of trying to win you back etc.
So it could be one of these, or all of these, or even other possibilities. Just remember, sometimes we think before we do, and sometimes we do before we think - even the same person. No one person is perfect. We all have flaws, and we all really are irrational. We just tell ourselves that we're logical and rational, just so we can feel comfortable for a period of time, until something like this comes up.