Is it bad to seek attention?

Question

I feed on it constantly

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm annoyed with girls or boys who need attention from the opposite sex, constantly. And most of the people who are attention seekers, from my experiences w/ people, have low self esteem and have some form of depression. Not saying everyone is.

Like this e-girl I used to know, loves the attention of boys. She has all these losers going after her but she's depressed and she always want more attention from guys. She used to flirt with my abusive ex while knowing he was taken. That's how desperate she was. She even cries when someone tells her she can't play well during online games. Then she goes to these guys online and cries to them even when she has a boyfriend. They start getting confused and have feelings for her and then she gets confused all while she has a boyfriend who she claims she loves.

I'm not jealous because I don't need attention. But it's annoying. Like if you have a boyfriend then why do you keep letting guys flirt with you and spend so many hours everyday together? Most smart guys would ignore girls like that and vice versa.

Eve93 · Accepted Answer

It depends on the kind of attention you seek... Of course e many people like to tell others attention whores and the like but let's be honest and say that most people like attention... And I don't mean crowds attention but every kind of attention... From you teachers, peers, parents, the opposite (or same) sex and so on... Liking attention isn't bad its normal... What you have to be careful is in how you seek attention on from whom... Doing something because it's "in" or because a group you want to be in does it and by doing it you will get noticed doesn't benefit you at all...
Be an attentiin seeker? Yes but carefully so you don't fall into a pit you cannot get out of... After all everybody loves attention... It's just that ones more than the others

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Depends on how you get it and why you want it. If you think you need it, you have a problem just like someone that needs drugs/alcohol. So...

How do you get the attention?

Why do you want the attention?

... also it could be a current little phase. Like I went through when I first started getting buff. Instead of increasing my shirt size to maintain the comfort I once valued, I dropped a shirt size and dealt with t-shirts jammed uncomfortably in my armpits just to show off the muscle. I was posting pics like the one I'm using for my profile pic here on my facebook where my Grandma can even see them... just for the likes from the girls at work. It was a phase though... thank god because I like loose t-shirts better. How about you though, is it a new thing or a lifelong quest for the attention?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Bad not inherently. Annoying YES! We all desire to be acknowledged, cared for and about. In my opinion attention seekers tend to be the worst kind of people because they often lack compassion. The world is about fulfilling their needs no matter the discomfort it may cause others. What makes it annoying is that it's rarely actually satisfying. Attention is not connection. It gets people to look at you but not understand or care. So to me Attention seekers are annoying precisely because they're unconcerned for others while pursuing something that won't even actually help them. It's creating so much useless pain!

PinkMichae · Answer

There good and bad ways of seeking attention. But everyone does it. Even those who stick their nose in the air at others because they don't understand that they seek attention too. Whether it's the attention of your parents or teachers for getting a good grade, wanting a kiss from your lover, having a party to celebrate your birthday, showing pics of your kids, selfies, dressing up, etc... The list goes on and on. So for anyone who wants to say how annoying or insecure behavior, really look at all the things you do. Even if it's just being a big giant a$$hole you love the feeling it gives you to piss people off.

GetzRekt · Answer

It depends on how you seek it. The problem with seeking attention is that you tend to get the kind of attention that you seek, not the kind of attention that you really want. For instance, let's say you show a lot of cleavage and you get a load of men lusting over you. They're interested in your tits, not your feelings. Is that attention worth anything? Or does it make you no better than meat?

You should place the most value on the attention that you get for your most worthwhile attribues.

MovingOnAgain · Answer

I don't think it's bad to seek it for as long as your happiness is not dependent on it. If your happiness depends on you, you will always have complete control of your happiness. If your happiness depends on others, you won't have as much control of it.

k92k92 · Answer

I don't think it's bad to seek attention as long as you're not lying about things all the time, especially lies that harm other people. If it's not hurting anyone else, it might be annoying to some, but I don't believe it's bad or wrong necessarily. Then again, if you do things to seek attention and it's a habit for you, you might find that your friends start to resent you because everyone likes the spotlight once in awhile; you have to share it! Lol.

achezc · Answer

That depends on your own perception the meaning of doing it is that you feel ignored, at some point of your life by someone important, and that created a sort of trauma in you, making you feel insecure which ended up in trying to compensate by looking for similar people's attention,

TheAllure · Answer

Remember, it's easy to tell a girl a compliment, but what's more important is telling her something thats nice that she may think something about her isn't right. Take the song by John Legend, All Of Me... ---- the line"... Your Perfect Imperpections..."

And again, that pic was hot and sexy... I don't care what anyone says.

Nik1hil · Answer

its not bad...
its bad if you say i do not want attention.. but then do things that get you attention...
admit to yourself and accept that you like attention..
and we will give you all the attention you need...
and you are sexy enough that no men will get bored even if he look at you for hrs..

JoshuaJones · Answer

Yes and no? Honestly just do it if it makes you happy! Just be careful not to attract the wrong kind of attention and don't go too crazy. Got a friend who seeks attention and she's going the wrong way about it, her obsession is turning a lot of people away. It's really off putting!

iknoweverything1998 · Answer

It is bad... Sometimes. It becomes really bad when it starts replacing attention from your best friends & family. With 'it' I refer to attention from social media :d
You should try to do one week (or even 1 day if you're addicted af) to do without the constant sadisfaction. Such a constant sadisfaction could get really unhealthy

Silver158 · Answer

personally I can't stand attention seeking girls. And, by that I mean the types who will flirt with everyone, lead guys on etc. So trying to get attention from someone you actually like isn't a bad thing, it's pretty normal. seeking attention or validation from anyone and everyone is a bad thing and is probably a sign of a deeper issue

VaIiant · Answer

Personally, attention seeking girls are the bane of everyone’s existence. It’s pathetic.

ScottieO · Answer

I think it's kind of hot myself, as long as she doesn't cross a line if we're dating. Show off, flirt with other guys, that doenst bother me. Just don't cross the line ;D Which we'd have to talk about in private if she's into that kind of thing.

lomimore · Answer

Its normal to seek attention, the important thing is the ways you use to get attention as long as they are not negative go ahead and feed on it all you want.

ImSoSquishy · Answer

it gets really annoying if the attention seeking is very constant and often, and sometimes makes people feel like you have nothing better to do in your life.

Riggers · Answer

I don't know about bad, but, its certainly annoying as fuck for everyone else, And it shows a great deal of insecurity and feeling validation from others.

yeeeeeeeet · Answer

Everyone needs attention. People that say they don't are lying. Just don't hurt the people around you or make them uncomfortable. There's nothing wrong with seeking attention as long as you're not an asshole about it.

normalice · Answer

Perhaps a little, but it's so common that there isn't really anyone out there that will seriously call you out on it, unless you are getting attention and they're not.

fuctt · Answer

Depends how you go about doing it. I think generally it's fine as long as you're not denying seeking attention while actively fishing for it

Arialbomb · Answer

You really had me going there for a little while. Was looking forward to it. What happened? -- @TheAllure

titania21 · Answer

If you are happy with your life without depending on anyone's attention it's good. if you think you are happy only when you get others attention , then you need help.

alsalman007 · Answer

And you just reminded me of song Attention by Charlie Puth. Am gonna go listen to it and I think it got ur answer too.. 😋

ak667 · Answer

The key as I see it is to become the center of attention without too blatantly seeming like you're seeking it. I find that being naked helps.

ReachingNirvana · Answer

Only if it hurts someone, like yourself, or others... if not, then no.

Guanfei · Answer

Depends on how, and how much. We all want attention, but some people do absolutly anything to get it. I knew a girl who went into the "adult industry" because she liked the attention she got from it.

Malita55 · Answer

I think its bad if you seek it in outrageous ways. But most people love getting positive attention

Manhart1999 · Answer

If u feel the need to do so then u are unsatisfied about something in life which void u are trying to fill with this. This is not healthy u urself. And many times & commonly as well it can lead to complications.

Knowbetternow1 · Answer

Attention from other people can be satisfying. It’s probably more about wanting affirmation of some kind. I’d caution you though, learn to be happy with yourself and by yourself. There’s no one that can make you happy, long term, except for you

Trancer1 · Answer

It's good to a certain extent. HOw bad do you feed on it?

augustsmomma · Answer

As long as you're not hurting anyone I dont see why it would be a problem

Kabluie · Answer

It's not bad, just depends on who it's from and for the right reasons. More friends, seeking similar interests, etc.

sharingwithu · Answer

Not bad at all, I love attention too. It makes us feel wanted and needed.

Red_Arrow · Answer

I love it when gals seek attention and I give it gladly!

Daechir · Answer

No. Attention seeking is a way that people who feel emotionally dissatisfied can get people to fulfill that emotional need. As with all things, though, moderation is key.

Journeyman11 · Answer

Is an alcohol addiction or obsessive eating bad? You can do with your body and mind whatever you want, but I think it is more wise to seek acknowledgement and happiness from within.

JayJay29 · Answer

Attention is something i dont get. If i dont initiate convo i can post an talk till blue in the face an when i stop im like a ghost to them

audaciter85 · Answer

Nope, I do it too. I'm always taking pics of myself in my wife's underwear and sending it to people for attention

Dzokson00 · Answer

Its not bad, every sociable licing being likes attention! Its only bad when the way you trying to get it is just dumb

genericname85 · Answer

everyone needs some attention one in a while. if it gets out of hands, consider getting professional help.

MedicalAdventure · Answer

I stay away from girls who do that. That might be good for you now because you are still Young and fresh but as you’ll get older (and uglier) it won’t work anymore and you’ll get depressed.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Nope that's not a bad thing at all it's only bad when you start doing things that are crazy to get attention I mean things that are really off the wall that you shouldn't be doing

Mr-Nice · Answer

Yes. People think you're an attention seeker. And it's a sign of weak character to feed on attention. A stronger character can be confident without other people's input

elizamichale1 · Answer

No i don't think so I love to be centre of attention

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Oh you like attention beautiful? No problem with it !!! <3

neverminditstess · Answer

Tbh, not really. It depends on what you're willing to do for that attention.

Odysseas · Answer

Can we all agree here... that by simply answering to her question, we are giving her attention? :P

Pauliho · Answer

It's not bad for others, but in terms of gaining respect it's bad for the attention seeker. People will value modesty more

Smegskull · Answer

It's narcissistic and unhealthy. It's practically bad but not morally (that would depend on how you seek attention)

torwulf · Answer

Not inheritly. But it can be a sign of insecurity, a need for external validation which is quite an unhealthy mindset.

Lance1965 · Answer

Not bad in itself. Everyone wants and needs some attention. It is how you try to get that attention that is the issue.

Hyo_YeRin · Answer

Yes if u crave attention then u MIGHT have some mental problems

Landshrk0068 · Answer

Depends on how you go about seeking that attention.

Serious_lurker · Answer

It's not good to feed on it. Wanting it sometimes is find, though.

winterfox10 · Answer

Yes, if you do it too often. It just makes people hesitant about wanting to be around you.

herguy · Answer

Nope there will always be people willing to give it, so if you want it, go ahead! :)

LilHamsterVert · Answer

No it's not bad but if it's always about you than that's a problem, you have to be considerate about others too

Afaq135 · Answer

Nope its totally Normal And Its Ok Everyone wants attention but the difference is that not everyone shows it

kakaloo · Answer

It's a natural thing to want attention and be heard. However, you should know how and when to tone it down too.

Anonymous · Answer

I think everyone does this on some level so no if it gets out of hand you should go see a therapist

emberstorm · Answer

Personally someone who seeks attention is a good thing to a point. If you wanting to be the center of attention all the time thats bad. If your ok with other things being the focus its fine

fayazshaik · Answer

Dont seek attention from someone... if u dont get the attention you wanted it wil be disappointing. just be urself if they like you they will pay attention to you

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