Girls, would you let your guy friends sit on your lap like your female friends do? Have guy friends ever sat on your lap before? Explain?

[gingerxx]

Does it really matter what gender friend sits on your lap?

[BrileyCat]

i live with 7 other fun girls and guys off campus in student housing .
sitting on or laying across laps happens a lot . some times we just pile it on .
either horsing around . having quiet friendly conversation . studying .
or watching nf . i love the relaxed atmosphere with my amazing roomies .

[gingerxx]

haha what do you mean by piling it on and what do you mean when having quiet friendly conversation, studying, and watching nf. Why would someone sit on your lap while you were studying?

would you offer your lap first if you saw one of your guy friends without a seat or something and what would you say in your offer? Would hug them if they sat on your lap?

Could your guy friends sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

Do you have a specific experience in mind? and what situations do your guy friends normally sit on your lap?

[BrileyCat]

tnx gingerxx . or .

[Anonymous]

Yeah i wouldn't mind and I've had guy friends do it before tho usually its just a joke since im small compared to them. One of them actually had to sneak in this movie with me cuz there was only one seat left and he just sat in my lap.

[gingerxx]

would you offer your lap first if you saw one of your guy friends without a seat or somethingand what would you say in your offer? Would hug them if they sat on your lap?

Could your guy friends sit on your lap without asking you (your permission)?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

During the movie why did he sit on your lap? how did that situation transpire?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah i've offered my lap before and like i'll rest my face on their back and hug them loosely.
They could and it is a little different tbh because girls are usually more comfortable with sitting in a lap while guys will just joke about it especially if its a girls lap and especially if the girl is smaller than them.
I didn't want to sit in his because i wanted to play with his hair during it and i did offer if he wanted me to sit on his and he was like no its fine.

[gingerxx]

why did you want to play with his hair at the movies? Did he sit on you for the whole duration of the film?

[Opinion Owner]

Because thats just what i would do with him, i play with his hair a lot since he asks me to a lot so it became a habit but he didn't mind. And he didn't really sit on me but actually between my legs and would like lay on my chest. He stayed there the whole movie pretty much.

[gingerxx]

If he actually sat on your lap instead of in between your legs would that be alright too? Would you let him sit on you without permission? or anytime there were no chairs? Also will you always hug him every time he sits on your lap?

Lets say you are sitting and talking to friends and there are no chairs left and he sits on your lap without asking you? What would you do? Would you be ok with that and his he allowed to do that if there are no seats left?

Also what would you do and say in your offer? Would you pat your lap?

[Opinion Owner]

I would let him and be fine if he sat in my lap without permission for any scenario and just he probably wouldn't be able to sit for long on my lap because it would get uncomfortable. I would hug him each time tho and i dont really know what i say or do when i offer i can't remember sorry.

[gingerxx]

why would you be fine if he sat on your lap without permission? Even if there were seats left you would let him sit on your lap? Why wouldn't you kick him off?

[Opinion Owner]

i just dont care if somebody sits in my lap if im close friends with them regardless of gender.

[gingerxx]

So lets say there are two situations:

1. You are sitting with friends talking or whatever there are no more seats left and they guy friend sits on your lap without permission? Would you be ok with this and what would you do or say? Would you find it weird?

2. You are also sitting with friends talking or whatever and you see your guy friend standing near you or a couple feet away and there are not seats left? What would you do? (he could be talking you but he is standing) What would you do or say in this scenario?

[Opinion Owner]

I already answered this i wouldn't care as long as im good friends with the person. Permission or without permission and i dont find it weird. I dont know exactly what I'd do in the scenario because i dont think about that kinda stuff, really its just in the moment please stop asking.

[ChronicThinker]

No, because my male friends are huge and will fucking crush me.

[elegantprincess]

personally most of my guy friends are tall and some are heavier than me so probably not the best idea! If I were to sit on their lap, I personally wouldn't mind- as long as it's strictly platonic and a brother & sister type of thing. I would be uncomfortable if they tried anything more or got the wrong idea.

[gingerxx]

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

Do you have a specific experience in mind? and what situations do your guy friends normally sit on your lap?

So lets say there are two situations:

1. You are sitting with friends talking or whatever there are no more seats left and they guy friend sits on your lap without permission? Would you be ok with this and what would you do or say? Would you find it weird?

2. You are also sitting with friends talking or whatever and you see your guy friend standing near you or a couple feet away and there are not seats left? What would you do? (he could be talking you but he is standing) What would you do or say in this scenario?

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[gingerxx]

also when you say a brother & sister type of thing what do you mean have other girlfriend's sat on your lap?

[ZiZi_Bell]

Oh yeah I've had guy friends sit on my lap before.
I've mentioned my one friend in several other posts (the one with the below average penis), he does this all the time. Mainly when he's "mad" at his girlfriend and needs fake emotional support. Haha

There's also another guy friend I have that does this, but he's literally a foot taller than me and twice my weight, so he does it just because he enjoys hearing me go "Oof!" Haha

I think it's hilarious. No problems there. Lol

[gingerxx]

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

Do you have a specific experience in mind? and what situations do your guy friends normally sit on your lap?

[ZiZi_Bell]

My big huge friend I would not offer. He's far too heavy. Haha
But if he was without a seat I'd offer my seat and then sit in his lap. Lol

My other friend yeah. I've offered it to him even if there are other seats available. Haha
Like if he's looking like he's in a bad mood I'll just pat my lap and go "Come to momma. Tell me your problems." That'll usually get a smile out of him and he'll come sit on my lap.

Yeah I'll wrap my arms around his waist, or tickle him if I'm feeling feisty. Haha

[ZiZi_Bell]

Sent too early.
I'd wrap my arms around him mainly because we're very comfortable with each other.

He can and has sat on my lap without asking. Haha
No different if it was a girl. Except I might get a bit more handsy. Hahaha

[gingerxx]

what do you mean by more handsy

So lets say there are two situations:

1. You are sitting with friends talking or whatever there are no more seats left and they guy friend sits on your lap without permission? Would you be ok with this and what would you do or say? Would you find it weird?

2. You are also sitting with friends talking or whatever and you see your guy friend standing near you or a couple feet away and there are not seats left? What would you do? (he could be talking you but he is standing) What would you do or say in this scenario?

[gingerxx]

do you pat your lap for your female friends to sit as well?

[ZiZi_Bell]

I mean, like, I'd maybe be more touchy depending on who the girl was. Haha

1. If it was a friend and he wasn't too heavy, then I wouldn't mind. If he just sat on me and didn't acknowledge me, just used me as a seat I'd probably poke his side's really hard. Lol
If it was a random dude and he just sat on my lap without permission, there would be problems.

2. Again, if it wasn't my giant friend, I'd probably say "You're making me nervous, sit down." And then offer my lap. Lol

I don't really pat my lap for anyone to sit except that one friend. Mainly because it's just a thing we do. Lol

[gingerxx]

why would you say "You're making me nervous, sit down."?

so that one friend (the one who you pat your lap for) aren't you really touch with him when he sits on your lap?

why do you tickle him if you are feeling feisty

so in these situations if it was him sitting on your lap what else would you do (your close guy who you let sit on your lap when he is in a bad mood)
1. You are sitting with friends talking or whatever there are no more seats left and they guy friend sits on your lap without permission? Would you be ok with this and what would you do or say? Would you find it weird?

2. You are also sitting with friends talking or whatever and you see your guy friend standing near you or a couple feet away and there are not seats left? What would you do? (he could be talking you but he is standing) What would you do or say in this scenario?

what else will you say when you offer besides come to momma?

[ZiZi_Bell]

Because it makes me nervous when people are looming over me. Haha
I don't like people standing next to me when I'm sitting. Makes me feel vulnerable.

I'm kinda touchy with him but it's more innocent. I tickle him because he has the stupidest laugh every. Hahaha

1. If it was him I'd have absolutely no problem with him just sitting down. That's just how our friendship works.

2. I'd do my whole thing of patting my lap and making a big deal out of him standing up. I'd pretty much act like a concerned mother because it kinda embarrasses him and that's just something we do to each other. Lol

Ummm. I don't know. If I'm not trying to cheer him up or embarrass him I'll just comment that he looks tired or something. I usually don't offer unless I have a reason to.

[gingerxx]

do you always wrap your arms around him and hug him when he sits on your lap?

so you said you are kinda touchy with him but its more innocent how so?
When you said that you offer only If you are trying to cheer him up or embarrass what things will you say in either scenario?
Why embarrass him?

What do you mean by I usually don't offer unless I have a reason to? What reasons do you have when you usually offer

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[ZiZi_Bell]

I'll hug him when he sits down but I also hug him in the hallways whenever I see him. Lol

Like, if it's a girl that I'm comfortable with I'll touch her in probably a slightly more sexual way. Rubbing her sides, her legs, etc.
With him I'll just poke him or something. Haha

I've pretty much already said what I'll say in those scenarios. Lol
I embarrass him because it's just what we do. We always try to say things to embarrass each other. Lol

As I said before, if he looks tired or upset I'll offer, but otherwise he's usually the one to just sit on my lap. Lol

And I don't have IG sorry.

[gingerxx]

but what I don't understand is how you would embarrass?

"Like, if it's a girl that I'm comfortable with I'll touch her in probably a slightly more sexual way. Rubbing her sides, her legs, etc.
With him I'll just poke him or something. Haha"

with this why would you rub a girl that your are comfortable with? What does it show

Also why do you poke him?

Im doing a study on social interactions so thats why I'm delving deeply on this
I hope you don't mind my questions?

[ZiZi_Bell]

Like, I'll treat him like a baby, or I'll make fun of him, etc.
He does similar things to me.

I don't know, girls are just more fun to touch. We're softer. Hahaha

I poke him because it annoys him and he makes these funny yip noises. Haha

I don't mind. Lol

[gingerxx]

so when a girl friend you are close with sits on your lap will you wrap your arms around her waist also? When do you start rubbing her thighs and legs explain that to me? I don't understand how that is sexual?

[gingerxx]

also why do you rub her what does that show?

[VaIiant]

I’ve done it. When I was in high school a group of friends (three guys, one other girl) and I loaded into one of our golf carts and decided to head to McDonalds. Sadly, it started pouring so the guys in the front gave us their seats for me and the other girl. We didn’t want them out in the rain so we let them sit on our laps.

I don’t recommend it, the driver slammed on the breaks as a joke and one of the guys went flying through the window. We broke the damn golf cart.

[gingerxx]

would you offer your lap first if you saw one of your guy friends without a seat or somethingand what would you say in your offer? Would hug them if they sat on your lap?

Could your guy friends sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

Also

So lets say there are two situations:

1. You are sitting with friends talking or whatever there are no more seats left and they guy friend sits on your lap without permission? Would you be ok with this and what would you do or say? Would you find it weird?

2. You are also sitting with friends talking or whatever and you see your guy friend standing near you or a couple feet away and there are not seats left? What would you do? (he could be talking you but he is standing) What would you do or say in this scenario?

I'm doing a social interactions project between genders for my school so I am just asking these types of questions... Thats why I'm delving into this deeply

[VaIiant]

Without permission no. In that situation it was kind of a jokey, funny thing- we were kids and we thought we were hysterical. It is different with a girlfriend, simply cause we probably would have a closer, more physical relationship and society wouldn’t look on it differently. If we were out in public I wouldn’t let him sit on my lap like that, and I wouldn’t sit on his.

[Elaine_17]

It's weird when a female friend of mine sits on my lap, so it would be weird if a guy sits on my lap too because I'm not used to it, and it makes me feel weirded out.

[gingerxx]

do your female friends sit on your lap often and why Is it weird?
Do they usually ask to sit on your lap, do you offer, or do they sit on you lap without asking?
What situations will they sit on your lap in?

[Elaine_17]

No, my female friends don't sit on my lap often. It's weird because I never see most females sitting in other female laps. It's unusual to see that happen especially in public since I don't see other females sitting in other female laps. I've never had anyone ask to sit on my lap. Never offered for anyone to sit in my lap. Never had anyone sit in my lap without asking. The only situation I can think of that would allow someone to sit on my lap is if there were no chairs and someone needed to sit somewhere, but I have never had a female friend nor a male friend ask, offer , or forcefully sit on my lap.

[Arctic_Fox]

I don’t think they ever have, unless it were a joke. They’re usually bigger than me so I wouldn’t really like it because it would probably hurt. I was more likely sitting on their lap, if I were single.

[gingerxx]

but would you be ok with it?

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

[Felinegirl]

Gender doesn't matter, but I prefer to sit on someone else's lap anyways.

Size and weight matter though so I'd let a girl set on my lap more easilyas they're smaller than me more often.

[gingerxx]

would you be ok with it though if he was close

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

Do you have a specific experience in mind? and what situations do your guy friends normally sit on your lap?

so you would let a girlfriend sit on your lap?

[Felinegirl]

Wow lots of questions
I'm generally okay with people sitting on my lap, but if they are very heavy, it's uncomfortable and I'd rather swap.
It would be polite to ask.

[Excite]

Really it only matters how you feel about that type of situation, clearly everyone is different with there own opinion. If i may ask, whats your opinion on your own question?

[gingerxx]

I would be okay with it how about you?

[Excite]

I personally dont see anything wrong with it but im a very reserved person so i dont usually tend to get along with friends like that.

[chunkycheeks]

My guy friends sit on my lap all the time, I don't think there's anything wrong with it bc their asses aren't gonna turn me on. Now if it were a guy with a girl on the lap I think thats different.

[gingerxx]

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

Do you have a specific experience in mind? and what situations do your guy friends normally sit on your lap?

[gingerxx]

So lets say there are two situations:

1. You are sitting with friends talking or whatever there are no more seats left and they guy friend sits on your lap without permission? Would you be ok with this and what would you do or say? Would you find it weird?

2. You are also sitting with friends talking or whatever and you see your guy friend standing near you or a couple feet away and there are not seats left? What would you do? (he could be talking you but he is standing) What would you do or say in this scenario?

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[chunkycheeks]

I would offer but in a joking manner, if they take the offer then cool if not then it doesn't really matter. Definitely not wrap my arms around them bc I feel like thats when it becomes a little weird.
He could definitely sit on my lap without asking, it doesn't matter to me.
Its the same thing with girls.
Back in high school I had my best friend (guy) in reading class always just randomly sit on my lap, it didn't bother me.
At work we have to take a shuttle to our area and sometimes there's no seats so my guy friends sit on my lap all the time.
N ok following now.

[D_day_dreamer]

Honestly I would only care if it hurt 😅 I don't care what gender my friends are, a friend is a friend. If you're ok with him sitting on your lap, that's all that matters. 😊

[gingerxx]

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

Do you have a specific experience in mind? and what situations do your guy friends normally sit on your lap?

So lets say there are two situations:

1. You are sitting with friends talking or whatever there are no more seats left and they guy friend sits on your lap without permission? Would you be ok with this and what would you do or say? Would you find it weird?

2. You are also sitting with friends talking or whatever and you see your guy friend standing near you or a couple feet away and there are not seats left? What would you do? (he could be talking you but he is standing) What would you do or say in this scenario

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[D_day_dreamer]

AHH thanks 😊 well to number 1 situation I would say unless you guys are really close and he knows you wouldn't mind him sitting on your lap, he really should ask for your permission before sitting on your lap.

Now #2 again if I knew the guy wouldn't feel weird about me letting him sit on my lap I would ask him, if he wanted to sit on my lap. 😊 Its all bout being mutually considerate, and you shouldn't care what the other people think it's 21st century tell them to grow up if they say anything. 😅