Would you be okay if a girl sat on your boyfriends lap or if your girlfriend sat on a guys lap?

[Anonymous]

So me and my boyfriend have been fighting for the past few months. We started fighting because he didn't make an effort in the relationship and instead of saying sorry and making up he ignored me for a month. We started talking again when a girl i hate came up to me to tell me she heard my boyfriend cheated on me with my friend. I know he didn't cheat but i was still angry because it was humiliating that that was going around. I was really angry at him for a good while but then he got me concert tickets to show he was sorry and wanted to make up. We started talking again and i asked him why he invited my friend out and not me and he lied and said he didn't invite her and they just met up. I asked him to prove it to me and he let me see their messages so i could see that's what happened but when i looked at them it turned out he did and he just lied. I have no problem with him going out with his friends and i do want him to have fun, but i wasn't okay with him going out when we were on bad terms. I chose to forgive him and we made up, but then i found out he was talking about having sex with my friends instead of trying to make it up to me and i got so angry i told him not to talk to me, so he didn't and ignored my birthday and when i spoke to him on the phone because he stood me up when we were meant to meet up and talk he kept shouting at me to shut up as if i did something wrong. he lie to me over small things after that and i told him i was going out to the same nightclub as he was with my friends and when i got there my friends came over to tell me there was girl sitting on his lap and he was going around kissing her and other girls on the forehead. He told me he only did it because he was drunk and took her seat so he let her sit on him. Do i have a right to be angry? I honestly felt humiliated. so he ignored me for a month, there was cheating rumors, lied, talked about fucking my friends, got angry at me for nothing and humiliated me in the nightclub.

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by the way were both 19 and have been together for almost 2 years.

[heavenly123]

I honestly think you're being too nice to him. He did try to make it up to you but he treats you like a dirt and expects you to still respect him. He has lied multiple times and yes he was drunk but that give him no right to go around kissing other girls. AND ALSO HE WAS THINKING ABOUT HAVING SEX WITH YOUR FRIEND!! If that's not a sign he's a bad boyfriend. Then I don't know what is. I wouldn't be okay at all if my boyfriend did that, he's done to many shit things in the past and I would be fed up with him. I hope I wasn't too offensive and hope this helps somehow!

[Cmasterson]

HELL NO.
I think he did or wants to cheat on you. He doesn't treat you right, he i unreliable and he lies to you. why the hell do you want to be with someone who makes an ass out of you. Leave and don't look back, in the future if you'd decide to date again make sure this person makes you happy, and treats you with respect. Think about how you treat people you love and want that in return.

[L_i_l_ly]

ehm...
it has complicated in the past?:D
i don't think the sitting thing is your biggest problem both of you need some respect for each other...

i have a boyfriend and from time to time when there is no other place anymore i sit one of my good friends and nobody cares in general...

[Asker]

I honestly don't think the issue is me not having respect, and i wouldn't have minded if he wasn't ignoring me for no reason, and had the maturity to apologise, which he didn't even bother with, honestly i feel i handled it with a lot of grace, I never said anything at the time or made a scene and just let it be. I only brought it up later to let him know I don't feel comfortable with it, because no everyone's going to be comfortable with something your comfortable with and I don't think it relates to how much respect for him.. i understand the whole sitting on a friends lap but she wasn't really a friend, let alone a good friend.

[L_i_l_ly]

it Sounds like he has no respect for you i think

[hahahmm]

The saying, 'actions speak louder than words' will save you a lot of trouble in life. Stop listening to his words and look only at what he does. And, while I can be very open minded, no I would not trust a girlfriend who sits in another guy's lap.

[darkknight91]

as far as I know I like only my girl to sit on my lap not some one to take tht place u jus b clear with it boyfriend bfre u like to continue it relationship

[Kitten967]

I wouldn't mind if a girl sat on my guys lap and I sit on my friends lap sometimes as well. But after reading your description you really need to break up with him. It clearly isn't working

[clove14]

girl move on in life and leave that lying jerk alone

[Anonymous]

Honestly why do you even care at this point? What's that "break up make up" thing for?

[Asker]

i guess I just wanted to make up because i have feelings for him still, can't help that, but of course i know deep down i shouldn't be treated like that which covers the break up part...

[Anonymous]

I would breakup with him if, I were you, he obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings if he is constantly lying to you and talking about having sex with your friends.

[Opinion Owner]

You dont derserve to be treated that way, I wish, I knew who he was so, I could tell him off, I hate liars!!!

[bree109]

Why would any person be cool with another guy/girl sitting on their boyfriend/girlfriend lap or whatever

[Gray_Wolf]

I'd be fuckin mad if I see my girl sitting on a guy's lap, you don't have any idea what would I do to both of them.

[TrollG0D]

Didn't read. You talk to much. He needs to get rid of you.

[NatalieIsHere]

No I wouldn't, unless it was his sister.

[Maxi1234]

Nope. I would get angry over it

[Maxi1234]

Sorry, I didn't read the description. listen, you should break up with him. That boyfriend of yours is totally fed up with you. if he starts to get angry over little stuff then he definitely gets irritated just by being around you. So now it's your turn to be angry for the right reasons and start ignoring him and move on

[johnnyboy1127]

no not unless it's mine

[alicia95]

break up with him

[Fk7676]

Never okay with that

[Anonymous]

omg no way