Why am I suddenly so jealous?

[Anonymous]

I've never been a very jealous person, and I trust my boyfriend with all my heart... but lately, any girl that he talks to or texts, I get really weird about. So many different things run through my mind... 'Does he find them attractive?', 'Would he rather spend time with them?', 'Did he just check them out?', 'Is he paying them more attention that me?' and so on. It's so annoying because I really don't want to turn into the jealous, over possessive type, because that's the type of person who I wouldn't wanna be with myself. I keep trying to convince myself that he loves me and just wouldn't be with me if he felt any different, but I can't help but get so insecure and paranoid... I can't bring myself to talk to him about this because I'm scared he'd think I was changing... I really don't want this to ruin my relationship, what can I do?

[Hot_vampiress]

ive got the same problem as u, but for me my boyfriend was spending a lot of time with a mutual female friend, which can't be helped since they both renting rooms in the same house. I had been getting crabby and he asked me if something was wrong, I told him that I need my alone time with just him not with him an our friend. just try to think about what about the girls he's talkin an texting to is bothering u. is it taking away from your time with him?

[Seraphine]

Just calm down. There's no need to feel so insecure or threatened. There's no evidence of him cheating on you or anything like that; you're just overreacting. Unless he's been acting more and more distant over time I wouldn't worry about it...Who's to say they aren't just his friends? I'm sure you have friends that are guys, too.

[Ellis]

Hi, I used to be insecure in my past, basically you just have to trust the person, if they leave you they leave you there's nothing you can do about it, I've learned that you can't control that person or tell them what to do, you just have to trust and not focus to much on it ok?. Hope that helps because insecure/jealousy can kill a relationship.