Okay so my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months now. It’s been great this far. We communicate a lot and try our best to make each other happy. I trust him a lot but sometimes I can‘t help but feel uncomfortable and jealous over stupid things. For instance, he likes to sleep over a male friend of his every once in a while. There are also 2 of his best friends, all male, staying there. There is alcohol involved and my boyfriend always promises me to not drink much since I want him to have a cool head in case something happens. So he really tries his best to make me feel comfortable but I can’t help but dislike whenever he sleeps over. They also like to take walks outside in the middle of the night which I really don’t like. Of course I don’t try to keep him away from his friends and wouldn’t want him to stop having sleepovers as it is important to still have your own life. I don’t want to control him and I just don’t know why I feel this way in the first place. Do you have any idea why? Or might have any tips?
No offense intended but you ain’t jealous, you just afraid of loosing control over him, you said it yourself you don’t wanna control him but it’s contradictory of the same telling him how much to drink or what to or not do, you can’t tell a grown ass man what to do, you will loose him, you can’t own or control another human being otherwise shit gets ugly with time.
You say you don't want to control him, but deep down, you do. That's why you get upset when he dies things that you have no control over. And that's a fairly common trait among women.
There's nothing wrong with feeling jealous, but don't let it run your life.
