Is she mad at me?

[MrCKF]

We are students at Uni. There's a shy girl we went on a date in Christmas eve very well, she told me although she likes me, so much, she thinks I am perfect in all ways, I don't seem to be serious enough to her and that turn her off. There's a guy she likes in her home country, but she is not sure if she wants to start a relationship with her, and that guy has texted her for 2 years without asking her for a relationship. And I told her I dont exactly like her, but she does has something quality to attract me and draw my attention. But we have continued texting each other, she replies so quick when she is free or even during midnight.

I brought up the topic about the transportation once. So she asked me to send her off to London airport (international student, going home for 2 weeks during holiday), but I told her I dont feel like spending more time and money on her. Last midnight before she went I brought up the topic again, she asked me again if I would go with her, I told her i will only go if she will buy me a return ticket. Meanwhile, she was worried how will she be able to manage her assignments after new years break, so I kind of teased her a bit saying something like "you are completely nothing and hopeless without me", and she said " thats why I need you.".

So after she has settled everything (buying tickets back home and preparing for assignments) She told me she does not need me to send her off anymore, she will no longer require my assistance. Before she goes this morning, I told her I really miss her in some way can I by chance go with her, she replied something like "no, just no".

[ThatJarHead]

I would have to agree with @Darkfairie17 personally. It doesn't seem like you really like her all that much.

It definitely seems like there is some sort of connection between you but it hasn't had it's chance to grow into anything more than a mutual interest.

I would say she is probably a little hurt that you would be so... blunt? But there is definitely an interest. I would say apologize for not jumping on the plane with her and then explain to her that you couldn't afford it or didn't want to spend that kind of money for her so soon. If she's worth a relationship, dollars to donuts says she will understand.

Good luck Man!

Cheers!

Jarhead

[OlderAndWiser]

It sounds as if neither of you have been honest about your feelings, you have said some unkind things to her, you disappointed her and then hurt her, and she has had her revenge on you.

[MrCKF]

When she mentioned she likes a guy who has chased her for 2 years from her home country, I immediately warn myself to step away from her. And to be honest, I am a bit salty as well, I feel like she is playing with me. I was like why did you even go out with me then?

[OlderAndWiser]

You both played with each other so perhaps you both got what you deserved. Have you learned any lesson from this experience?

[MrCKF]

Are you suggesting she likes me?

[OlderAndWiser]

Why does it matter now?

[MrCKF]

The only reason I back off because she doesn't seem like me. If she likes me, it is still worth a try.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't think you can recover from the mess you have already created.

[Darkfairie17]

Do you actually like this girl or are you just liking the idea of her? It sounds to me like you are not head over heels in love with her. You just sort of kind of like her.

In my opinion, you should hold off until you find a girl who you are head over heels for. Someone you are excited to see and want to be around.

[MrCKF]

I've got her number 2 months ago, but I have never actually contacted her except when she asked me to help her sign her attendance. I have only started contacting her since 4 days ago, I saw her took a pic on instagram saying she was alone at library, so I instinctively asked her out on Christmas eve.

So do I love her in just 4 days of contact? I think that would be a very irrational thing to do so. Am I attracted to her? I think it is worth a try.

[Darkfairie17]

I suggest then getting to know her a bit. See how things go. Maybe you will find you love her after spending more time with her, or maybe you won't.

[MrCKF]

Are you suggesting she likes me so I should go for it?

[coolbreeze]

Yes she might be mad at you because you didn't listen to her about the ticket part. She could be mad because she didn't have her way with you.

[AustinMan]

Give up! She was playing you for money.

[MrCKF]

Can you explain a bit further?

[AustinMan]

When you told her no firmly to the money issue, she essentially disappeared.

[pervertedjester]

Yeah it seems she's mad.

[MrCKF]

Whats the reason though? Let's have a guess.

[pervertedjester]

"I told her I don't feel like spending more time on her."