Like if some women do, since they are young they want to become a mother in their future, regardless of the hassles they can ran into their lives as they grow up (bad relationships, bad marriages bad partners, among many other many reasons) but still they have that instict that they want to be a mom and they have that feeling that they need to fullfill that..
I give my opinion. Im 47 and i dont have kids and never had one. I dont know if I want to have kids in the rest of my years 1. For my age having kids becomes very dangerous 2. Im not dating or have a boyfriend or seeing a guy im totally single, and also when I was much younger I never dated either or had a boyfriend or guys ask me out so in the long run a guy could be a potential partner to get married and form a family so I won't have kids if there is noone next to me and I wotn like the idea of rasing a kid on my own, life is too convulsed and difficult now to bring kids into this world. Kids needs the support of both parents and I dont like to be a single mom either. 3. Im not anti social around babies or small kids they are very cute but I dotn know if having a baby is for me so I dont even know if I have that maternal instict or If I ever had it, I dont really know.
If I ever date a guy in my near future I know it won't be for the purpose of having a kid with ath guy especially when conceiving natural at my age, the chances are very low!!! but im not ready financially, emotinally and much less physically to beocme a mother at my current age anyway.
I believe that women are born with motherly instincts. It is part of their genes that are transmitted since dawn of mankind, just like with every creed.
However, this instinct develops differently with each person. A majority of girls will further develop this instinct and want to procreate and have children of their own. This is nature and this instinct is the fuel for a continuation of the species. The same applies to all animals except that the human is the sole mammal that has the power of mind to reject that natural drive.
Many factors do influence this natural instinct. The upbringing and education, religion, social pressure, poverty and ultimately the state of our planet also.
Many girls are not willing to have children in a place that has no future for them.
Whatever the reason for not having children, women bear the sole responsibility of what they want to do with their body and should never be pressured into having children against their will.
Most definitely not. I've hated kids from before I can even remember, and the sentiment still stands. Having a kid would be like my personal kind of hell, and it'd in no way, shape or form be any good for the kid either.
That's why the woman don't have only the maternal instinct, 1st she dreams of a man to make him her entire life and he becomes her husband, than she wants a baby from him which will be the seed of their love...
Will the baby ever become the 1st priority for the mother, i don't think so since the husband is always thr 1st priority to a wife but the baby will reach the 1st priority for couple of years because he needs his mother a lot... than things will return to where they should belong...
A baby always needs a father and a mother because thr mother needs her husband and the husband needs the wife and thr baby needs both, it's amlike a network where they all need each other...
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I think the part where you say that the usband is 1st priority over the kid, you are mistaken. Kids will always come first regarldess if they are young or not. Husbands are 2nd priority
how can your own children wotn be yur priority? Ohh yes you are a guy that si right. Kids will always be your kids, a man can come and go anytime. You will always have your kids anyway.
I won't change my mind and I will never be with a guy who believes that my kids are not important and he has to be #1. That is way too selfish. If you are with me and want to be with me and you know I have kids you better know that my kids will come first if you want me to be in your life.
No thanks i don't want you to be in my life or anyone like you, also not all men come and go, how dare you say this, many women come and go too...
I'm a man who will never leave his future wife and kids, they are both my 1st priority but at some point whwn they grow up, they will become number w again because my future wife is MY WIFE... we are one, i can't be one with my kids or parents or anyone else...
A marriage is sacred and blessed by god between the husband and wife only...
My wife is my responsibility forever and my everything while the kids will grow up to have their own life...
As for the wife, who was there with you before your kids came in? Your married to who, husband or kids? Who gave you these kids? Who's raising you, providing for you and taking care of you to be a housewife? Who's going to be with you until your last day, your husband i think, right?
The unity between your man and yourself and spiritually and physically... while others are just spiritually...
Who will warm you at night, take care of you when your sick and be always there for you, YEAH THE MAN OF YOUR LIFE!
Don't you think it's a shame to keep thinking that kids comes 1st...😏
I would say "most" women have that instinct, but not all. I never really wanted to raise children so it limited my dating opportunities in the past. In earlier years I found that most women wanted to find a guy to father their children. So I was not on the same page as that. Now that I'm into middle age, there are women with adult children, often with major problems and issues.
Much like the mechanisms of the hunger instinct, it must be awakened. Some instincts are only awakened through going to strong sensory input. A soldier's combat instincts sometimes stay after the war and it never leaves him, he always stays a soldier. Military training serves the purpose of conditioning mind and body for war, but also awakening the instincts needed for survival. Similarly to mother instincts it must be activated through exposure and training.
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