You're too young to have kids anyway. Neither r u expected to like them or even have them if u don't want to.
I don't see it the way u see it tho. I don't think society thinks of us as only baby makers because men have also a huge role in it, only that they can't get pregnant. If they could that would be a different story so it's natural that most comments go to the mother because she's the one who carries the baby/s for nine months.
As for stay at home mothers, I actually have a lot of respect for them, because they make the efforts to afford the love and attention their children need. They make sure to raise them on their own instead of throwing them to random nannies who can make things worse. But I would have to agree with you about the financial part, that if someone doesn't have enough money to spend on a child, they definitely shouldn't be having many babies.
So Yeah, don't feel pressured to do something u don't wanna do.. it's nice u have an opinion about it and remember, women are all different. Some like babies.. some don't. Some like make up. Some don't. Some like hooking up.. Some don't. I don't see why we have to criticize each other's over such things. We can just accept that we are different
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I’m 34 and I’m glad I haven’t had kids yet. You sound like me. I don’t mind if other women want to be stay at home moms but many of them aren’t happy. They are envious that I have more time, money, freedom, and sex than they do. It’s not for everyone.
Of course not! Women are also sandwich makers and cleaners, in society's eyes.
Seriously though, my wife and I decided not to have children and she has taken a whole lot of shit for it. From all four of our parents, from friends, from colleagues, etc.
The wifey has a Ph. D. and is a professor at a fairly prestigious business school. She's been published in the Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Fast Company, Scientific American, and a slew of academic journals. Fortune 500 companies throw money at her just to talk to them - last year, one of them gave her $35k for a week's worth of work.
Her brother's wife doesn't want kids either. She's a prosecutor in a major American city and she's currently being strongly urged by a lot of her colleagues to run for judge.
And you know what most of the family thinks? They're failures for not having kids.
first off this question is bait af, you know damn well that this society doesn't think woman are just "birthing machines", with all the feminists around we're clearly past that stage lol
i also disagree w your update, my mother stopped working after giving birth, and my dad was the main source of our income. Does that mean she is contributing nothing to the child's growth? No. She cooks, cleans, washes, nurtured, etc me and my siblings on a daily basis whilst growing up, and she's a tough woman for that, it isn't easy. Obviously, not every stay at home mum is a saint and does her job, but don't generalize.
If you wanna get technical, biologically, women usually seek males that can provide for and protect her and their offspring, so it isn't exactly abnormal for some woman to be a "stay at home mum".
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I think that women like yourself are kind of brainwashed to think this way. So many young women today think the same way - if they thought like this in the past we'd be extinct. Wanting a child is the most natural thing in the world, and for some reason so many see it as a negative thing. It's dysfunctional.
In a lot of discussions about this people seem to look down on young parents - and by young parents I mean people in their 20s. The thing is your 20s are your most fertile years, the years when you're the least likely to experience difficulties getting pregnant and carrying the baby.
But people today tend to encourage people to wait until their 30s, when you're less fertile. They tell you to focus on your career and money instead. Today I think people are more materialistic than ever, maybe this has something to do with the mentality.
I think a lot of the time people look down on young parents because we often hear about young irresponsible people who have kids they can't afford, maybe get pregnant through hook ups or whatever, and because of that they automatically assume that to be the case most of the time.
Add to that this materialistic mindset where the purpose of your life is to make as much money and buy as many nice things as you can - children are then seen as a burden.
Really, being a parent is one of the most important and most fulfilling jobs in the world. It's a lot more than being a "baby making machine" - a term that disgusts me.
We're young parents according to some. Some people were shocked when we had our first at 23/22 because to them we were too young. But we've done well, everyone says how great we are as parents. Our kids want for nothing. Our life is far from ruined, there's nothing better than coming home from work and having the kids run up to me to give me a hug. I wouldn't trade that for more money and things. I think there's something wrong with you if you live things more than people, especially children.To reply to your question , No. Women and men are humans we both love children and want to have kids. You can't have children without a man and a man can't have children without a woman. What's different is the responsibilities they share between each other. The toughest job in the world is raising your kids If you really are a hard worker then you will love doing it. There're many questions you should ask yourself such as Do you have enough time and money to afford having a child right now? If not then surely you have to postpone that matter until you reach a stable financial status. If you can afford having a child while you and your husband work and you both agree on who takes what responsibilities for the child and your partner is a dependable person then why not have a child?
Actually I understand where you are coming from. I find babies cute, but for an extended period of time I can't deal with them too well. The idea of motherhood and just giving birth frightens me as well. I see all the people I went to school with already having a one kid and more, and I can't imagine being a mom at only 20. I do think some people still have this POV, but I'm in a serious relationship and almost everyone tells me to wait and to focus on myself. A child is hard work though, and I don't a 100% agree with your view on them being lazy. A lot of house wives keep the house clean, when the children are very young they take a lot of time and attention, they cook and clean, some of them might have hobbies. Some house wives are lazy and don't do anything, but some do other things. It's also been proven that children who have a parent at home at all times typically are happier, so I don't see anything wrong. with it, despite I never want to be a stay at home parent.
I mean if the guy is fine with it and the woman is fine with it. It's really no one else's business.
I mean there are still guys weirdly who want that.
I personally don't think stay at home mom's are lazy. Maybe some but not all. I mean you understand how difficult children can be. There's no short cuts to get around that. There are people that would probably kill the kids day one. Though yeah I could see how it would be abused by some people. I mean you have the right to not want to have children and want others to respect that. Stay at home mother's have just as much right as well.
I've seen women who are very passionate about it. Though I honestly may never have kids myself. It's actually heartwarming to see. I'm not a big fan of the idea, but some do work hard to care for their children and husband.Some men think like that but at the same time there are women who only want a guy so she can have kids. Once she has the family she wants she dumps the guy for the child support payments which makes her seem just like a baby-maker and not much else in the eyes of a lot of people but that is justified. I know women who had kids purely for the child support and so she can stay at home and never have to work and most of them are terrible mothers.
Maybe in the 50s. I think we're still regarded as "homemakers" and raising children comes with the territory. But it's not like people are thinking that women exist for the sole purpose of carrying on a family name anymore. There certainly was a time when that was the case.
In general yes. Here is why. A man is worth nothing when he is born. He has to make money to have an economic value. Women are born with about (id estimate it to be) about $300,000 of equipment in between their legs (compare price of eggs and sperm donations). So until a woman is financially worth over $300k net worth, her reproductive and sexual assets far exceed anything else she does. It would be equivalent to if you saw a completely broke homeless man in a gutter who was wearing a $300k platinum diamond bling bling necklace. What do you think people would ask him about? Tell him to sell to make money? Be his friend so they could try it on and take pics... you get the idea.
So unless you make bank as a woman, you will always be seen for your assets in one way or another.
But would you prefer to be born broke? LolMy S/O feels exactly the same. It doesn't bother me at all.
Things can change over time, and you may feel different. But for now, your wishes should be respected. Your boyfriend should be listening to you and not be influenced by others.Obviously we’re not just baby makers nowadays. Like you, I’ve never been interested in kids, and those who find out act like it’s a huge deal. However, housewives and stay at home parents do hold some very large responsibilities and aren’t lazy. That being said, it’s your life so if you don’t want that lifestyle, don’t let anyone pressure you into it.
Not really no i’ve never seen girls as that. Tbh I think of both genders are baby makers after all both parents get morning sickness etc.
And even if so i’d be jealous and happy if I could be the baby carrier. And you girls do look good pregnant there’s no doubt it’s a new look it’s like girls like dad bods well for us that our mum bod 😂I'm 22 with 2 kids and my husband pays for it all. I don't think it's wrong for a man to support his family. I take care of my kids 24/7 with no help. It's your choice if u want a baby or not. But dont be this harsh towards sahm
You’re 21. You shouldn’t even think about having kids until close to 30 or older.
women are not only baby maker but they are the only babymakers lol
I think they just said that cause y'all been together for a long time and get along well.
After you find a true love you have babies lol don’t take it personally.
And yeah there’s no set time to have babies, have them when you want them actually.I kind of agree with this. Frankly i feel if a girl wants to be a stay at home mom, she really just wants to take advantage of the husband.
To most men, yes women are just baby makers in society's eyes.
You should really do a MyTake on these things, this would make a good article.Only for the next few years. Once artificial wombs are perfected, females will become obsolete
I feel the same towards kids, pregancy and motherhood tbh. I think when the question will pop I'll just say that I can't have children.
No, women are more of a market asset to society, you know, work for 40 hour work weeks for 40 years long and then get retired and thanked for making your boss a richer man.
Hope you like cats... cuz you're not going anywhere with the guys. It will always fail with your men-hating attitude. Oh well.
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