What does it mean when your ex boyfriend stares at you?

[supergirl2380]

It's been over for 15 months. I love him more than ever. We haven't spoken a word since the split and it was pretty ugly. I have seen him 5 times at the club since October. He just sits there staring at me all night. I pretend not to notice, but I do. I don't have the courage to talk to him because it still hurts. He kept walking past me and stood right in front, in back, and across from me the times I saw him. Why is he doing this?

[xxsassygirl]

lol, I understand this question and I find myself asking the same question. I broke up with my ex 6 mths ago and it was really bad but he still calls me even when he is now in a new relationship in which he is engaged. He does the same thing to me in which doesn't make any sense at all. Guys are really visual in the first place and I am pretty sure he is probably thinking on the lines of what it would be like to be with you again. Its the truth. He might still even care about you too but I think a lot has to do with seeing your reaction and observing your behavior to see if you are really over him plus a little sexual thinking too. Keep your head up chicky and never show this man any weakness, it will only boost his ego.

[brkadv]

I see a lot of questions like this on relationship boards where people want someone to interpret another person's behavior from very little information. We'd all love to be able to read minds, but there really is no way to know without talking to him. There are many reasons that can be imagined for why he is doing what he is doing. But only he knows the real reason. I think you'll have to decide whether finding out is worth asking him. One thing to consider is this: Would your behavior change depending on what he said his reason was? If it won't, then it may not be worth asking him. If it would, then perhaps you want to ask him.

It's never easy to make decisions like this but I don't see any way around that here.