I think a lot of guys will say it's a turn-off. Most of my guy friends seem to spend a fair amount of time away from their wife/GF (though when they have kids they usually spend more time at home, which is good because children deserve to grow up in a household where both parents spend time with them). I think I'm more lenient than some people but I could be turned off by it in some cases.
I once changed a clutch in my AWD car, first time I had done one and told my girlfriend at the time that I'd be busy for the weekend. She got upset at me that I didn't call her on Friday or Saturday night (I did call her on Sunday). I had been working on my car until past midnight both nights. She didn't call me either but her mind was 100% made up that I was 100% in the wrong. That relationship lasted past this incident, but the next one broke it.
One of my friends currently has a girlfriend who wants to hang out nearly every night. Which in itself is not a bad thing. But what I really dislike about her is that when she tells him it's okay to go out, she literally texts him non-stop such that he's unable to really participate in the games we play sometimes because he won't put his damn phone down. What an annoying behaviour - though both my friend and his girlfriend are equally at fault for this rudeness. (Maybe I have to share some of the blame since I keep inviting him over regardless.)
Basically to me I would want to spend a LOT of time together but if someone was so clingy that they would get upset that I went more than 2 minutes without calling them, or if they constantly barraged me with texts, or they otherwise interfered with my ability to have friends, it would be too much. And to be clear, I'm not the type of person that separates guy friends and girlfriend. To me, most of the time, the two can be mixed if we're doing something that everyone is okay with doing.
It would be a turnoff to me to have a girlfriend that only wanted to see me once or twice a week, so heck, some women might actually call me clingy. Everyone has their own threshold for what defines too clingy/needy.
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First off these are the things you find out when dating. And as I've learned if you listen when s female is talking she will reveal things about herself that you won't even have to ask. Most of the time people who are needy clingy and seem pesty have resl deep rejection issues which usually they use to sabotage and then have a reason to go into that mode they won't break and that's not healthy for you at all. And whatever you do don't FUCK HER LET THAT ONE GO CAUSE IN THE LONGRUN ITS GONNA BE MORE BULLSHIT FOR YOU THAN HER. CAUSE THATS HER M O SO ITS NORMAL. That's how good guys get hemed up.
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To be honest, I would like that.
I feel that a lot of people these days tend to be on the cold, distant side, they almost seem to have a business attitude toward the whole thing, and I do not really want anything like that, I am a person who wants a lot of love and affection, to feel like she truly and deeply cares about me.
I want someone who would not let me out of her arms at night, who always loves on me and thinks about me, and would not mind me being the same way towards her, I want someone to give and receive a degree of love that most would probably be repulsed by.
Of course, I am talking about attachment rather than clingyness, but I want a woman who has a strong attachment to me rather than one who keeps me at a distance.If it got too extreme (I. E. invasion of privacy, stalking, being controlling or abusive etc.) then yes. If its minor stuff like jealousy and such then no mainly because it shows that she's not going to leave or betray me. But even then, it only goes so far.
it can be... the reverse is also true.
no one can handle a "clingy" person for very long, as we ALL need our space and some thought to ourselves..
when dating, one has to show some interest (which may be considered clingy) or the other person may feel like its an indifference, and they may not pursue the desire they had to get to know you..I donβt believe I would see it as desperate, but clingy and needy would be something I would consider it. It does become a bother, and can cause a guy to become distant, both need to have their space to do their own thing or it becomes boring and the relationship becomes a burden, most guys want each other to have their own lives outside of the relationship, not the relationship being their entire life
Being to attached or dependent on me emotionally is a huge turn off. It's a big reason I'll end things with someone.
I don't want to be the one to make you happy. I'll be happy you be happy and we can bring our happy together to grow. Emotions are okay and talking about them is good but don't rely on me to make you happy.For me it's not a turn-off at all. Actually, it'll make me more attracted to her. I'd love to know that the person I'm with gives the same (or a higher) level of interest, priority, attention and investment in me as I would give to them.
I don't like it. I like someone who has their thing and I have mine for half the time, the other we spend together. I can't deal with the same person 100% of the time, no matter how amazing they are.
Yes, for sure but these girls have usually been in your life for a while so you love them and make it okay, but sometimes it can make the guy want to be isolated from you
No, it's great to know that your girl loves/likes you. But if she starts needing to talk to you 24/7 instead of just looking forward to seeing you then it's annoying and if she's freaking out that you talk and hang around with girls still, then it's very concerning.
I really enjoy clingy and cuddles, but it can be a turn off if the girl always wants wants to rip my pants off
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