I believe it's due to two major factors: social conditioning and hormones.
Start with a toddler girl and toddler boy. Both fall down and start to cry. The toddler boy is told to withhold his tears, and that big boys don't cry. All the family around him encourages this message and it gets repeated over the years. If he cries as he gets older, he is made fun of, or bullied, or told again, that young men or men don't cry and so after years of this, he learns that even if he could cry at something---the outcome may be very negative for him so he sucks it up, suppresses that emotion, or cries in private where no one can see.
Then you have that toddler girl in the reverse of the toddler boy. She falls down and starts to cry and is instantly comforted by all the family around her. She is soothed when she cries. She feels comfortable enough expressing tears because not only do older family members back up that it's okay for her to cry, so do the male family members and friends around her. She is rarely told to just suck it up, but rather that she should talk it out until she feels better with family or friends. She is rarely if ever made fun of for crying and when she is, others might actually jump in to defend her. So as a teen girl or woman, she feels okay to express tears when something strikes a chord. Also on a biological level puberty shoots her with tons of hormones that do have an impact in her over that of her male counterpart when it comes to dropping tears.
One study reports that women cry 30 to 64 times a year, whereas men cry just 6 to 17 times per year whether in public or private.
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For me, I guess it is because I'm an emotional person, and my emotions are usually pretty strong.
I used to be on antidepressants and anti anxiety medications and hardly ever cried, like maybe once a year max, and usually only if something really bad happened. Otherwise, I was mostly emotionally numb and nothing really affected me at all.
Once I finally got off of those (they made my life a living hell in multiple ways, but that's another story), I could finally feel the full strength of my emotions again rather than the emotionally numb zombie state with maybe a hint of emotion here and there that I was in before, and I became pretty emotional.
That is because society has taught men that it’s a weird thing for men to cry and that it’s not natural. Bcs of that men have developed some sort of emotional block that requires extremely stimulation to get a men crying. Also men tend to transfer there emotions into actions just so that the don’t have to cry.
It’s obviously different for everyone but I think this applies to quite a lot of people
It’d not easy fir girls to cry. It’s just hard for guys to. Guys are taught that they are meant to be strong and that means they can’t show emotion or cry unless they want to be considered weak. I could go on for a while, but I don’t really want to so I’m just gonna leave it at that.
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I was actually raised in a family where crying was not encouraged. To the point when I started crying when I visited my grandfather in his deathbed I was removed from the room for upsetting every one else.
Some cultures are more accepting than others about crying for both men and women. I think it's natural to cry and people shouldn't be shamed for having emotions. Yes most women I know are more comfortable publicly crying but women in America are not judged the same way men are. That doesn't mean the men I know don't cry. They do just often in private
For me because of my upbringing I get physically ill when I cry because I've been so conditioned that it's bad. I have Italian cousins, where crying culturally is more acceptable, that cry all the time when they are emotional both male and female.
So I guess the short answer is it varies from girl to girl and woman to woman just as it does for men.A few things at play for this:
1: Men and women have different hormones, we have estrogen and we get especially emotional around our periods because of a surge in hormones. Men have testosterone which tends to make them angry if they have a surge or depressed if they have a drop.
2. From an early age guys are told that crying is for sissies, wussies and girls so they adapt over time and lose touch with some of theses emotions.The biggest factors are estrogen and pressure on men to never show emotion.. my whole life I've been told by my father and uncle that im a wimp/pussy and an ass for opening up about my feelings as a man! Honestly, im sick of it... whats so wrong about crying as a guy? Its okay to cry sometimes and im slowly but surely learning that!
Hormones and nurture explains it all. Meanwhile boys are told from an early age to be strong, girls are comforted.
Though I do remember being made fun of in 2nd grade for crying (that rarely happens in girls but I've experienced it) and ever since I wouldn't cry when getting bullied years later.I cry often. Growing up I didn’t like to cry because it made me feel so weak. But at some point I realized just how relieving it felt. Having a cry is like taking a good shit. It gets everything out of your system. Now that I’m a bit older I just stopped trying to fight it. Now I’m able to cry on command if I want to.
I don't really feel emotions. I know what I'm feeling but I'm still emotionally numb. I don't really know how to explain it. It's like if I'm happy I know that I'm happy but I can't feel the effects so I don't react. So when I'm sad, I know I am but I can't feel the effects so I don't cry.
Girls are brought up being told it's okay to cry, while boys are taught (often implicitly) that crying is not acceptable. This constant reinforcement of behaviour means that adult guys don't cry very often while girls do.
That's why I have such a hard time sympathizing for a woman who cries even if it's in public. They've cried wolf literally and figuratively so much now it's like you don't know when it's legit tears or not. They ruined it for women who actually are portraying emotional distress.
I guess we're just more emotional, or guys do cry but just don't show it as often as girls do because society prohibits it. Or maybe stereotypes has led us to believe that we cry more often. Who knows?
Who said it's easy for girls to cry. I had to be taught to cry that it didn't mean I was weak. I'm 48 and just starting to cry but by no means is it easy. Some people in general cry easy and some don't.
Speak for yourself lol I rarely cry. The only time I cry is when I watch something like super heartwarming OR if I get to a breaking point and all my emotions just explode. That’s it lol I’m cold
Depends on the girl really. My old roommate would never cry, she would have to fake it, if it was necessary.
I dunno I mostly only cry when I'm at my wits end or super stressed, and feel like I have no escape or when something really bad happens, which isn't too often maybe 1/2 a year
I was raised not to cry or I got a beating so I find it hard to cry (on the outside, if that makes sense) .. from the age of 2/3yrs old until I moved out of the house at 18. Still to this day, if I start to show tears in my eyes, I’m slap on my leg and told to pull myself together.
Because girls are soft hearted and they easily believe in others, if they broke there heart she broke in tears.
they extract moisture from their ever growing reservoir of water in their pussies and suck it up through their stomach... all the way to their eyes... giving them an unlimited supply of tear drops to expel whenever they desire
They are more in touch with their emotions than men are, in general. It's not that mean don't experience the same emotions, they just tend to suppress them in order to appear more masculine.
Cause we connected with our emotions so it's easier to release them.
I don't know. I try not to because I hate crying in front of people, but sometimes I just can't help it. I wish I had more control over it
I'm pretty sure that it's either because girls r sorta more sensitive. Or it can be because guys r embarrassed or crying
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