How is it so easy for girls to cry?

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Considering guys don't cry for years sometimes

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I believe it's due to two major factors: social conditioning and hormones.

Start with a toddler girl and toddler boy. Both fall down and start to cry. The toddler boy is told to withhold his tears, and that big boys don't cry. All the family around him encourages this message and it gets repeated over the years. If he cries as he gets older, he is made fun of, or bullied, or told again, that young men or men don't cry and so after years of this, he learns that even if he could cry at something---the outcome may be very negative for him so he sucks it up, suppresses that emotion, or cries in private where no one can see.

Then you have that toddler girl in the reverse of the toddler boy. She falls down and starts to cry and is instantly comforted by all the family around her. She is soothed when she cries. She feels comfortable enough expressing tears because not only do older family members back up that it's okay for her to cry, so do the male family members and friends around her. She is rarely told to just suck it up, but rather that she should talk it out until she feels better with family or friends. She is rarely if ever made fun of for crying and when she is, others might actually jump in to defend her. So as a teen girl or woman, she feels okay to express tears when something strikes a chord. Also on a biological level puberty shoots her with tons of hormones that do have an impact in her over that of her male counterpart when it comes to dropping tears.

One study reports that women cry 30 to 64 times a year, whereas men cry just 6 to 17 times per year whether in public or private.

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

For me, I guess it is because I'm an emotional person, and my emotions are usually pretty strong.

I used to be on antidepressants and anti anxiety medications and hardly ever cried, like maybe once a year max, and usually only if something really bad happened. Otherwise, I was mostly emotionally numb and nothing really affected me at all.

Once I finally got off of those (they made my life a living hell in multiple ways, but that's another story), I could finally feel the full strength of my emotions again rather than the emotionally numb zombie state with maybe a hint of emotion here and there that I was in before, and I became pretty emotional.

stepup20 · Accepted Answer

That is because society has taught men that it’s a weird thing for men to cry and that it’s not natural. Bcs of that men have developed some sort of emotional block that requires extremely stimulation to get a men crying. Also men tend to transfer there emotions into actions just so that the don’t have to cry.

It’s obviously different for everyone but I think this applies to quite a lot of people

13IsALuckyNumber · Accepted Answer

It’d not easy fir girls to cry. It’s just hard for guys to. Guys are taught that they are meant to be strong and that means they can’t show emotion or cry unless they want to be considered weak. I could go on for a while, but I don’t really want to so I’m just gonna leave it at that.

ClearerAtN1ght · Answer

I was actually raised in a family where crying was not encouraged. To the point when I started crying when I visited my grandfather in his deathbed I was removed from the room for upsetting every one else.
Some cultures are more accepting than others about crying for both men and women. I think it's natural to cry and people shouldn't be shamed for having emotions. Yes most women I know are more comfortable publicly crying but women in America are not judged the same way men are. That doesn't mean the men I know don't cry. They do just often in private
For me because of my upbringing I get physically ill when I cry because I've been so conditioned that it's bad. I have Italian cousins, where crying culturally is more acceptable, that cry all the time when they are emotional both male and female.
So I guess the short answer is it varies from girl to girl and woman to woman just as it does for men.

justawhiteman · Answer

The biggest factors are estrogen and pressure on men to never show emotion.. my whole life I've been told by my father and uncle that im a wimp/pussy and an ass for opening up about my feelings as a man! Honestly, im sick of it... whats so wrong about crying as a guy? Its okay to cry sometimes and im slowly but surely learning that!

Confusedmamma · Answer

A few things at play for this:
1: Men and women have different hormones, we have estrogen and we get especially emotional around our periods because of a surge in hormones. Men have testosterone which tends to make them angry if they have a surge or depressed if they have a drop.
2. From an early age guys are told that crying is for sissies, wussies and girls so they adapt over time and lose touch with some of theses emotions.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

Hormones and nurture explains it all. Meanwhile boys are told from an early age to be strong, girls are comforted.
Though I do remember being made fun of in 2nd grade for crying (that rarely happens in girls but I've experienced it) and ever since I wouldn't cry when getting bullied years later.

Cherokeehp · Answer

I cry often. Growing up I didn’t like to cry because it made me feel so weak. But at some point I realized just how relieving it felt. Having a cry is like taking a good shit. It gets everything out of your system. Now that I’m a bit older I just stopped trying to fight it. Now I’m able to cry on command if I want to.

BrokenMoon · Answer

I don't really feel emotions. I know what I'm feeling but I'm still emotionally numb. I don't really know how to explain it. It's like if I'm happy I know that I'm happy but I can't feel the effects so I don't react. So when I'm sad, I know I am but I can't feel the effects so I don't cry.

evm987 · Answer

Girls are brought up being told it's okay to cry, while boys are taught (often implicitly) that crying is not acceptable. This constant reinforcement of behaviour means that adult guys don't cry very often while girls do.

blondfrog · Answer

That's why I have such a hard time sympathizing for a woman who cries even if it's in public. They've cried wolf literally and figuratively so much now it's like you don't know when it's legit tears or not. They ruined it for women who actually are portraying emotional distress.

QueenTanya · Answer

I guess we're just more emotional, or guys do cry but just don't show it as often as girls do because society prohibits it. Or maybe stereotypes has led us to believe that we cry more often. Who knows?

Moonchild714 · Answer

Who said it's easy for girls to cry. I had to be taught to cry that it didn't mean I was weak. I'm 48 and just starting to cry but by no means is it easy. Some people in general cry easy and some don't.

Hamsteroids · Answer

Speak for yourself lol I rarely cry. The only time I cry is when I watch something like super heartwarming OR if I get to a breaking point and all my emotions just explode. That’s it lol I’m cold

texturesurprise · Answer

Depends on the girl really. My old roommate would never cry, she would have to fake it, if it was necessary.

19magic · Answer

I dunno I mostly only cry when I'm at my wits end or super stressed, and feel like I have no escape or when something really bad happens, which isn't too often maybe 1/2 a year

ImAnAngeL · Answer

I was raised not to cry or I got a beating so I find it hard to cry (on the outside, if that makes sense) .. from the age of 2/3yrs old until I moved out of the house at 18. Still to this day, if I start to show tears in my eyes, I’m slap on my leg and told to pull myself together.

rajni2699 · Answer

Because girls are soft hearted and they easily believe in others, if they broke there heart she broke in tears.

UglyestGuyEver · Answer

they extract moisture from their ever growing reservoir of water in their pussies and suck it up through their stomach... all the way to their eyes... giving them an unlimited supply of tear drops to expel whenever they desire

Ripper_E · Answer

They are more in touch with their emotions than men are, in general. It's not that mean don't experience the same emotions, they just tend to suppress them in order to appear more masculine.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Cause we connected with our emotions so it's easier to release them.

happyhedgehog · Answer

I don't know. I try not to because I hate crying in front of people, but sometimes I just can't help it. I wish I had more control over it

Fox101 · Answer

I'm pretty sure that it's either because girls r sorta more sensitive. Or it can be because guys r embarrassed or crying

Tressie · Answer

Guys also hurt, but they don't show their emotions.

Vangrubber · Answer

We’re more emotional and we have to deal with guys 😜

Mexicoman101 · Answer

They have far more success using it as a weapon to diffuse tense or high pressure circumstances.

Sarah44444 · Answer

Because our hormones are different and more things upset us then what guys get upset by.

saltybihh · Answer

Because mem dont face their feelings they ignore them and push it down. and women are more better at facing them that's why we can cry

Darkchylde_420 · Answer

Easier for a female than for a male.  Men are considered weak when they let othera see them cry in most circumstances

BeHappy1985 · Answer

This made me realize I haven't cried in maybe 10 years... I mean I did have an emotional onion moment here and there but not like sad crying for an hour and such.

Anonymous · Answer

Things just get to us easily and if we cry, people will comfort us. Also sometimes ya just need to cry.

nicegirl19 · Answer

Most girls it is easy to make cry but it hard to make me cry I haven't cry for 15 years

Anonymous · Answer

It's more of a hormonal thing. Prolactin, which women have more of, promotes crying. Testosterone, which men have more of, inhibits crying.

ACupOfFrosting · Answer

Because we know how to deal with our emotions and don't bottle things up.

Cybernizer · Answer

Nobody will shame them for it, men have to be as macho as possible to win in any situation.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m more prone to crying, even in very embarrassing situations (verbal confrontations). I HATE that about myself and I’ve worked on it over the years. It sucks.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Because we are not taught to supress the urge to cry. It is still not easy for a lot of women.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

They pluck a nose hair thus making their eyes water... They are sneaky buggers!

Anonymous · Answer

I cry when I want not because of emotions or shit. I am a person who has diffulties to have emphaty and to show emotions. I dont know why I am like this. When my grandma died I dont cry and did not feel anything.

CoffeeWC · Answer

Parents have raised boys not to cry and were often punished when they did. Girls have learned that crying opens doors for them.

Princeofaljaz · Answer

its in their dna, women will cry if they see 2 random kids hugging each other, thats just how women are.

ThatDarrenGuy · Answer

Women are more emotional as a whole than most men. It's their natural makeup. I wasn't even able to cry when my parents died. I wish I could and felt like I needed to, but I couldn't.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s pretty obvious to see girls are more emotional. And just cry easier. When is guys get sad and emotional we express it in different ways

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

They don't get humiliated but they get supports when they do that's why.

Nadim171 · Answer

Guys hold it in, which makes it worse for us. Since God created crying for a reason, to relief sadness.

SHREYASH007 · Answer

I am a guy and I cry if it touched me deep enough everything boils down to emotions associated.

ChefCurry · Answer

I cry all the time. I'm an emotional man. And there's nothing wrong with that.

jakeofalltrades · Answer

because girls are allowed to cry, guys are conditioned not to

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

They care about their looks more than trans do. Maybe that should be the other way around?

ask4any · Answer

Probably the same way it's easy for them to fake orgasms

IceBear21802 · Answer

From a young age men are told that if they cry there weak and need to man up

Anonymous · Answer

They are emotionally on the same level as children.

single_mom_42 · Answer

I am a very emotional person.

CuriousToodles · Answer

Because we feel so deeply... 💋

hahahmm · Answer

80% of the time their tears are fake

straightshooger · Answer

It’s just a lot of hormones

Aphrodite801 · Answer

We have more things to cry about that’s why

Piteka5 · Answer

Well, I cried today tbh

Omar5881 · Answer

Its very easy for me to cry

Furuok · Answer

Mid-life crisis doesn't happen to women.

LuWe22 · Answer

Hormones. I think of something sad I cry.

VIVANT · Answer

That is presumptions

SarahsSummer · Answer

estrogen

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