Why can't I stop dreaming about her?

[Anonymous]

It sucks, it was a short term relationship and she ended it, its been 6 weeks and I still have feelings for her, although it isn't really as painful as it was originally. I liked her for like 6 months prior and we dated for 2 months, she ended it because I was too "clingy' and I was her first boyfriend. Few weeks ago I would dream that we were back together and wake up and feel like sh*t, but it would fade shortly. More recently I've been dreaming about her, but not in a romantic setting, just as friends, like hanging around her with mutual friends, talking to her 1 on 1 just as a friend and such. I wake up and feel even worse than before, since we were really close for 3 months and its been 6 weeks and she hasn't contacted me at all, so it's like I don't exist anymore. We still hang out in a group once a week and it does make it harder, but I want to see my other friends too. Why do I keep dreaming about her, why can't I get over her already!

[Rosesss]

It's your choice wether you dream about her or not. 'What are you crazy?! I can't control my dreams! ' .. lol that's what you might think but the truth is you only dream about something that's bothering you, causing you anxiety, something you choose to think about during the day even for just a while. Getting over someone/ a relationship is similar to grieving the death of a loved one. You might have fallen in love or deeply 'in like' with this girl at a fast pace and when you rush things, you're bound to fall hard in any case. You have to accept that she ended the relationship and you guys are not together anymore because deep down you don't want to let go of her. Talk to a close friend or two and get different opinions because just hearing different oppinions will make you feel better and talking about this to a close friend in person might feel a lot better than blogging online. I'm saying this because I've been through the same thing =/ .. this guy I couldn't stop dreaming about to the point when it got horrible and I had to do something about it.

But what I realized was that when I thought he just wanted to be friends I unconsciously dreamt about him just wanting to be friends and it hurt a lot.. Once I even dreamt that he was with another girl because unconsciously I thought he was going to get another girl in the real world. I'd wake up crying and in cold sweat.. yeah it was horrible.. but I realized letting go was the only option at least if you don't want to hurt anymore, after all it's your choice. Good luck :)

[Mixed28]

Wow its like looking into a mirror I also dated a girl for 2 months and got dumped for being too clingy (It was my first relationship) She didn't say I was too clingy but looking back I was. She got a new boyfriend 2 months after our breakup. But anyway yes I dreamed about her for like 2 months after the break up and eventually they stopped I started workingout and focused on friends and college and what not. It gets better but you have to cut her from your life and focus on yourself. Its been 4 months after my breakup and it still hurts a tiny bit especially when I see her.

[Asker]

that sucks. Was her first relationship though, not mine. I wasn't told I was clingy either, her best friend told me after, but she said I didn't come across as clingy at all.

[Mixed28]

Yeah it sucks. I was clingy in the phisical sense not call or texting all the time also I saw her like 3 times a week sometimes 4 because of college and her being a basket ball player so who knows if I was really that clingy. We can't no for sure, but next time we need to communicate to our partner. Set boundaries and what not.

[Asker]

i communicated with her, asked if she needed space and she said no. It's them who need to communicate with us haha.

[Mixed28]

Yeah I asked my ex if I was too lovey dovey during our relationship even towards the end and she said no so yeah. Its BS

[Anonymous]

it'll stop hurting the day you get another chick and start banging her. I promise you that. stop thinking about your stupid ex and get another chick. when you truly forget about ex, and don't give a sh*t...thats when she will want you back. till then you're just wasting precious time.

[Blakjackriley]

Been there, done that. Sux bigtime. Your still in love with her dude, until you don't think of her and don't care if you see her, you still r.