That is one thing I like about Hispanic women. They tend to have themselves looking nice even when just at home with their man. They actually put in effort for the one that is supposed to matter the most to them.
When in a relationship, even if I am going to be home for days/off work/etc. I still shaved every day, fixed my hair, and wore my regular clothes. I don't look like a raggedy bum. lol
"When in a relationship, even if I am going to be home for days/off work/etc. I still shaved every day, fixed my hair, and wore my regular clothes. I don't look like a raggedy bum. lol" - he complains about a woman wear regular clothes aka comfortable clothes
@kim45456 By "regular clothes" I mean the same kinds of clothes I use when going out in public or going to work. So the woman has no excuse to be a bum at home either. Plus if she only dresses up to go places to impress others then that means she is trying to get someone else and is a cheater.
When someone quits putting in effort for their partner then they no longer care about/value the relationship. If anything, doing things for their partner should matter MORE than doing things for anyone else.
So you are lazy to change your clothes when you are at home? Do you expect her go out like a homeless person? You know every place has different dress codes. If you go to beach, you dont wear you winter clothes, or if you go to sleep, you dont wear your " regular" clothes, So at home people usually wear comfortable clothes and women ususlly take her make up off and wear something comfortable things. Why dont care about your well partners being? Women usually wear comfortable clothes and take their make up off but men realize that when live together.
So you are lazy to change your clothes when you are at home? Do you expect her go out like a homeless person? You know every place has different dress codes. If you go to beach, you dont wear you winter clothes, or if you go to sleep, you dont wear your " regular" clothes, So at home people usually wear comfortable clothes and women ususlly take their make up off and wear something comfortable things. Why dont care about your partner well being? Women usually wear comfortable clothes and take their make up off at home but men realize that when live together.**
@kim45456 I get it. You dress up for stranger men to impress them because you are a slut and want their attention. I totally get that. Now go be a slut like you are and treat strangers better than an SO. Seriously, you are just scum.
@kim45456 I don't wear suits at work either. But the difference is that I prioritize an SO more than others. You prioritize others more than an SO. That means you are messed up and are bad for relationships. It shows where your priorities are.
"I don't wear suits at work either. But the difference is that I prioritize an SO more than others. You prioritize others more than an SO. That means you are messed up and are bad for relationships. It shows where your priorities are." I am not. I dont care about the clothes my SO wears because i am not shallow
I've had a similar issue & its a strange subject. After being together for awhile some women get so comfortable they just stop but I've heard it's the same for a lot of men. I'm half German & dress up for absolutely everything from the club to the gas station
Question is... Why do you mind it? If you are hot you want her without clothes, if you aren't let her being confortable at home. Let her to wear a mask with other people and be sincere to you, what you shouldn't let is that passion dies just for that.
I've always found it helpful to see a gal at her worst to see how pretty she is inside and out before going too far. This helps in lessening the shock and disappointment factors later. Haven't dated one yet that has really need all the trappings to look good.
Hi. But she still looks great with the food stain. Jeremy, did you give her a reason to get dressed up, or stay dressed up? But when she got dressed up, there was a limit with you on how well she got dressed up. So you wanted a happy medium, apparently. We're you decked out in your Friday night best occasionally? Or did you help create an atmosphere, a vibe, a reason to just where a bath towel when she would come home and shower. ( start romantic or porn music now) Good luck
I stopped “dressing up” after high school. You better like how i look casual cause thats what you're gonna get out of me 99% of the time. Im not into dresses, makeup, nunna that. And im not into the suit/tie type of guy
Because they already own their men. So about validation from them they could care less. On the other hand feeling sexy and getting compliments and attention from strangers is a instant dopamine reward. They are overall ungreatfull and don't respect their men
These women you speak of are attention whoring sluts. Their men are no longer of. any interest to them, because they have already got their attention. Now they need to dress up and flirt in order to get attention from other men. Quite frankly, I don't understand how any man could be desperate enough to stay witj such a woman for more than a fling.
"These women you speak of are attention whoring sluts. Their men are no longer of. any interest to them, because they have already got their attention. " - I dont understand , why should woman wear uncomfortable clothes at home or any make up? Do you wear sexy clothes at home?
" Quite frankly, I don't understand how any man could be desperate enough to stay witj such a woman for more than a fling" do you think the same if a woman who to same thing and have only fling with such a guy?
Please pay attention, Kim. He specifically spoke about women who dress sexy for others, but not for their men. If it's uncomfortable - don't wear it. And yeah, if a guy puts in the effort to dress up for other women but not his woman - he's the same trash.
Because you're a cuck. Tell your woman to dress nice for you or not at all you going to throw her clothes out and not allow her to buy new ones. If you pay for them she wears them for you. Did you also pay for sex toys that she used with other men and not you? Smh.
I just ADORE the women that dress for their comfort, and don't care what anyone thinks!! They ROCK!! I love that confidence, and respect them for just choosing to be who they are, and not just bow to social Bullshit!!
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Because home is the place where she can relax and not be judged by her appearance... or so she thought.
Being dressed up 24/7 is hard work, especially for women.
She probably just wants to feel comfortable. Maybe you could encourage her to just a look a teeny bit nicer by buying her some pretty comfy clothes as a gift? Like a pair of silk shorts, they look sexy and are very comfortable.
" do guys always wear their best clothes at home" I do - there is however difference between comfortable and looking frumpy what he is complaining about.
You should be able to be comfortable in the privacy of your own home. If my man expected me to be all dolled up when I’m trying to do the dishes or watching a movie, I’d tell him to go put a suit on.
I think women are more self conscious about self image then guys are. And I think women tend to let themselves go a bit once they get comfortable. Like there's not a need to get all done up for someone whose seen you sick, and in pajamas, naked, first thing in the morning etc.
Women dress to boost their self-confidence. When they get comfortable and secure with you, they don't need that crutch to feel good about themselves when they are with you.
Why am I expected to dress up for my man? He should love me unconditionally. No one should have the pressure to always look good just for a man. That’s ridiculous.
Female entitlement at its finest. "I'm entitled to his eternal love and devotion until the end of time, just because I'm ME, and I DESERVE it from MY MAN! No matter what I do or don't do, and no matter how I treat him! But he isn't entitled to SHIT from me, and never will be, no matter what he does or doesn't do, and no matter how he treats me! Because I'm ME, and he's HIM, and he doesn't deserve ANYTHING, cause I'll NEVER be 'his woman'! I'm no man's possession- they're MY possessions!"
@DevilsAdvocator I wouldn’t expect my guy to dress up for me. That’s a possessive way of thinking. We’re all individuals. I want him to dress up for himself. Bc it makes him feel good. If I’m with you it’s bc of your personality also bc I’m attracted to you. So even if you aren’t done up, I’m still attracted you. Guys expect too much. They want us to slave away cooking & cleaning & also look perfect while doing it. I’d honestly rather be single.
@DevilsAdvocator The original poster is complaining bc she looks a mess AROUND THE HOUSE. That’s insane. I You’re just a man, not God. Calm down. You won’t find any woman willing to be dolled up 24/7 for a man unless he’s paying her well. Maybe try guys if it’s such a big deal. Can’t always have your cake and eat it too.
So you'd be accepting guys unconditionally too, not giving you compliments not telling you you're pretty as don't what to put effort in anyway. Not be romantic etc. Goes both ways right.
Putting effort in appearance is also substance. What matters is desires. Women focus on emotional aspects men on physical. Women love romance novels. Its physical that propels men to put emotional effort. How are men suppose to seduce if you don't put effort into be seduced.
If women wanted men to put effort in appearance men would gladly do it. I definitely do it. You don't have to put effort in but you're going to get same effort in return.
@kim45456 Must've touched a nerve Lol 1- I don't want a romance with you, did I ask? 2- Would not date someone with negative attitude 3- I already have a girlfriend
@kim45456 Well, that's really mature, now isn't it? You're the one complaining about "why should I expected to maintain good hygiene, he should love me unconditionally no matter how much I stink". But hey, go figure.
What "ridiculous expectations" might those be, then? Have I once mentioned any expectations whatsoever? No, I haven't. So stop projecting your shallow-as-fuck, materialistic demands and expectations on me, and on men in general. I don't know shit about you, other than that you're a vocal, irrational gaslighting 32yo female who, from the sounds of it, seems to be a virgin who's never had a boyfriend in her life, and most likely never will given her attitudes towards men. I'd never expect a woman who sounds the way you do to "always look good"- I'd expect you to be plain, average at the very most; more likely, fat and ugly. And I'd never expect you to do anything for "your" man- obviously, you'd never have one. My highest expectations for you wouldn't extend any further than treating your pet cats well.
I don't think women dress up for others.. it's just their thinking that women dress up for others but for my opinion we women dress up for ourselves to empress our own self cos we dress according to what we know is nice or good for us
At home we dress up who we are without any judgement from others... And of course going out with others without dress up,, who the hell wants to be a laughing stuff outside..
So you are basically saying that strangers matter more than an SO does. Put in effort for strangers and not an SO? Good way to get them to end a relationship. Now go cheat because that is the mentality of a cheater looking for attention from others.
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That is one thing I like about Hispanic women. They tend to have themselves looking nice even when just at home with their man. They actually put in effort for the one that is supposed to matter the most to them.
Lol. Probably down voted by some lazy White women that do exactly what your sample pictures suggest.
When in a relationship, even if I am going to be home for days/off work/etc. I still shaved every day, fixed my hair, and wore my regular clothes. I don't look like a raggedy bum. lol
"When in a relationship, even if I am going to be home for days/off work/etc. I still shaved every day, fixed my hair, and wore my regular clothes. I don't look like a raggedy bum. lol" - he complains about a woman wear regular clothes aka comfortable clothes
@kim45456 By "regular clothes" I mean the same kinds of clothes I use when going out in public or going to work. So the woman has no excuse to be a bum at home either. Plus if she only dresses up to go places to impress others then that means she is trying to get someone else and is a cheater.
When someone quits putting in effort for their partner then they no longer care about/value the relationship. If anything, doing things for their partner should matter MORE than doing things for anyone else.
So you are lazy to change your clothes when you are at home? Do you expect her go out like a homeless person? You know every place has different dress codes. If you go to beach, you dont wear you winter clothes, or if you go to sleep, you dont wear your " regular" clothes, So at home people usually wear comfortable clothes and women ususlly take her make up off and wear something comfortable things. Why dont care about your well partners being? Women usually wear comfortable clothes and take their make up off but men realize that when live together.
So you are lazy to change your clothes when you are at home? Do you expect her go out like a homeless person? You know every place has different dress codes. If you go to beach, you dont wear you winter clothes, or if you go to sleep, you dont wear your " regular" clothes, So at home people usually wear comfortable clothes and women ususlly take their make up off and wear something comfortable things. Why dont care about your partner well being? Women usually wear comfortable clothes and take their make up off at home but men realize that when live together.**
@kim45456 I get it. You dress up for stranger men to impress them because you are a slut and want their attention. I totally get that. Now go be a slut like you are and treat strangers better than an SO.
Seriously, you are just scum.
Hahaha look at tge incel who gets mad at me just becsuse i state facts
Society except from women to look good. Have you ever seen a non shaved women outside while men literally walk like monkeys
@kim45456 What facts? That you are a dumb slut that puts effort in for strange men instead of an SO? You're such a scumbag.
You can't go to work with your regular aka everyday clothes. You need to wear make up, high heels, etc. You also dont wear suits at home?
@kim45456 I don't wear suits at work either. But the difference is that I prioritize an SO more than others. You prioritize others more than an SO. That means you are messed up and are bad for relationships. It shows where your priorities are.
"I don't wear suits at work either. But the difference is that I prioritize an SO more than others. You prioritize others more than an SO. That means you are messed up and are bad for relationships. It shows where your priorities are." I am not. I dont care about the clothes my SO wears because i am not shallow
I've had a similar issue & its a strange subject. After being together for awhile some women get so comfortable they just stop but I've heard it's the same for a lot of men. I'm half German & dress up for absolutely everything from the club to the gas station
Why do you mention your race?
Part of the reason I dress up for everything, European men usually get more into men's style then American guys do
And it was brought up in one of the other comments
Question is... Why do you mind it? If you are hot you want her without clothes, if you aren't let her being confortable at home.
Let her to wear a mask with other people and be sincere to you, what you shouldn't let is that passion dies just for that.
I've always found it helpful to see a gal at her worst to see how pretty she is inside and out before going too far. This helps in lessening the shock and disappointment factors later. Haven't dated one yet that has really need all the trappings to look good.
Hi. But she still looks great with the food stain.
Jeremy, did you give her a reason to get dressed up, or stay dressed up? But when she got dressed up, there was a limit with you on how well she got dressed up. So you wanted a happy medium, apparently. We're you decked out in your Friday night best occasionally?
Or did you help create an atmosphere, a vibe, a reason to just where a bath towel when she would come home and shower. ( start romantic or porn music now)
Good luck
I stopped “dressing up” after high school. You better like how i look casual cause thats what you're gonna get out of me 99% of the time. Im not into dresses, makeup, nunna that. And im not into the suit/tie type of guy
Because they already own their men. So about validation from them they could care less. On the other hand feeling sexy and getting compliments and attention from strangers is a instant dopamine reward. They are overall ungreatfull and don't respect their men
These women you speak of are attention whoring sluts. Their men are no longer of. any interest to them, because they have already got their attention. Now they need to dress up and flirt in order to get attention from other men. Quite frankly, I don't understand how any man could be desperate enough to stay witj such a woman for more than a fling.
"These women you speak of are attention whoring sluts. Their men are no longer of. any interest to them, because they have already got their attention. " - I dont understand , why should woman wear uncomfortable clothes at home or any make up? Do you wear sexy clothes at home?
" Quite frankly, I don't understand how any man could be desperate enough to stay witj such a woman for more than a fling" do you think the same if a woman who to same thing and have only fling with such a guy?
Please pay attention, Kim. He specifically spoke about women who dress sexy for others, but not for their men. If it's uncomfortable - don't wear it.
And yeah, if a guy puts in the effort to dress up for other women but not his woman - he's the same trash.
What about make up? Many women have to wear make up at work. It is a dress code. Do you except wear it at home too?
Really? Where exactly, besides an escort service, brothel, strip club or an actual make up stand, is make up part of the official dress code?
Because you're a cuck. Tell your woman to dress nice for you or not at all you going to throw her clothes out and not allow her to buy new ones. If you pay for them she wears them for you. Did you also pay for sex toys that she used with other men and not you? Smh.
I just ADORE the women that dress for their comfort, and don't care what anyone thinks!! They ROCK!! I love that confidence, and respect them for just choosing to be who they are, and not just bow to social Bullshit!!
Because home is the place where she can relax and not be judged by her appearance... or so she thought.
Being dressed up 24/7 is hard work, especially for women.
She probably just wants to feel comfortable. Maybe you could encourage her to just a look a teeny bit nicer by buying her some pretty comfy clothes as a gift? Like a pair of silk shorts, they look sexy and are very comfortable.
Not everything can be about y’all, that’s why. A lot of men aren’t even appreciative of fashion anyway.
Wrong, one of the most common complaints men make.
Most people don't dress up when they're at home. I mean, do guys always wear their best clothes at home, no they don't, so don't expect girls to
" do guys always wear their best clothes at home"
I do - there is however difference between comfortable and looking frumpy what he is complaining about.
You should be able to be comfortable in the privacy of your own home. If my man expected me to be all dolled up when I’m trying to do the dishes or watching a movie, I’d tell him to go put a suit on.
I want to always look good and dress up for my guy.
I think women are more self conscious about self image then guys are. And I think women tend to let themselves go a bit once they get comfortable. Like there's not a need to get all done up for someone whose seen you sick, and in pajamas, naked, first thing in the morning etc.
Women dress to boost their self-confidence. When they get comfortable and secure with you, they don't need that crutch to feel good about themselves when they are with you.
Why am I expected to dress up for my man? He should love me unconditionally. No one should have the pressure to always look good just for a man. That’s ridiculous.
Unconditional love? Lol
Female entitlement at its finest. "I'm entitled to his eternal love and devotion until the end of time, just because I'm ME, and I DESERVE it from MY MAN! No matter what I do or don't do, and no matter how I treat him! But he isn't entitled to SHIT from me, and never will be, no matter what he does or doesn't do, and no matter how he treats me! Because I'm ME, and he's HIM, and he doesn't deserve ANYTHING, cause I'll NEVER be 'his woman'! I'm no man's possession- they're MY possessions!"
@DevilsAdvocator I wouldn’t expect my guy to dress up for me. That’s a possessive way of thinking. We’re all individuals. I want him to dress up for himself. Bc it makes him feel good. If I’m with you it’s bc of your personality also bc I’m attracted to you. So even if you aren’t done up, I’m still attracted you. Guys expect too much. They want us to slave away cooking & cleaning & also look perfect while doing it. I’d honestly rather be single.
@DevilsAdvocator The original poster is complaining bc she looks a mess AROUND THE HOUSE. That’s insane. I You’re just a man, not God. Calm down. You won’t find any woman willing to be dolled up 24/7 for a man unless he’s paying her well. Maybe try guys if it’s such a big deal. Can’t always have your cake and eat it too.
Wasn't talking about the OP, I was talking about you.
So you'd be accepting guys unconditionally too, not giving you compliments not telling you you're pretty as don't what to put effort in anyway. Not be romantic etc. Goes both ways right.
@Oram52 what you’re mentioning are things of substance. Things that actually matter. Guys aren’t expected to dress up 24/7 but we are. Why?
Putting effort in appearance is also substance. What matters is desires. Women focus on emotional aspects men on physical. Women love romance novels. Its physical that propels men to put emotional effort. How are men suppose to seduce if you don't put effort into be seduced.
If women wanted men to put effort in appearance men would gladly do it. I definitely do it. You don't have to put effort in but you're going to get same effort in return.
@Oram52 again the original poster is complaining bc his wife would dress up when they’d go out but get comfortable & look bad when they were home.
So you think it’s reasonable for a woman to dress up 24/7 just for a man?
You don't have to dress up 24/7, but at least make a choice that looks good.
From the question itself, "tie up her nice curly hair and put on the ugliest outfit she could find"
@Oram52 shut tf up. I dont want any romance from a man who looks ugly
We care about appearence too
@DevilsAdvocator typical incel
@kim45456 Must've touched a nerve Lol
1- I don't want a romance with you, did I ask?
2- Would not date someone with negative attitude
3- I already have a girlfriend
Your girlfriend probably cheated on you. No girl would stay with an ugly guy like you.
@kim45456 Oh I appreciate the concern. Sweetheart instead of raging why don't you put some effort in so you can find a decent boyfriend.
Yes, i want a decent guy, not a shallow one
@kim45456 Well, that's really mature, now isn't it? You're the one complaining about "why should I expected to maintain good hygiene, he should love me unconditionally no matter how much I stink". But hey, go figure.
No, i think both should try to put effort in appearance
@DevilsAdvocator we aren’t speaking of hygiene & you know it. We’re speaking of your ridiculous expectations. She’s right, you’re shallow af.
What "ridiculous expectations" might those be, then? Have I once mentioned any expectations whatsoever? No, I haven't. So stop projecting your shallow-as-fuck, materialistic demands and expectations on me, and on men in general. I don't know shit about you, other than that you're a vocal, irrational gaslighting 32yo female who, from the sounds of it, seems to be a virgin who's never had a boyfriend in her life, and most likely never will given her attitudes towards men. I'd never expect a woman who sounds the way you do to "always look good"- I'd expect you to be plain, average at the very most; more likely, fat and ugly. And I'd never expect you to do anything for "your" man- obviously, you'd never have one. My highest expectations for you wouldn't extend any further than treating your pet cats well.
@DevilsAdvocator if you saw me you’d feel like an idiot 😂 I’ve never had an issue getting guys
Riiiight. Keep telling your cats that, hun.
I don't think women dress up for others.. it's just their thinking that women dress up for others but for my opinion we women dress up for ourselves to empress our own self cos we dress according to what we know is nice or good for us
If that was the case then they would dress up "for themselves" at home too, not just when going somewhere with other men without their SO.
Why would we need to dress up at home? What possible benefit is there?
At home we dress up who we are without any judgement from others... And of course going out with others without dress up,, who the hell wants to be a laughing stuff outside..
So you are basically saying that strangers matter more than an SO does. Put in effort for strangers and not an SO? Good way to get them to end a relationship. Now go cheat because that is the mentality of a cheater looking for attention from others.
I mean, you must be so high maintenance if you expect so much from everyone.
Oh well not everyone is cheater... And all women are just seeking for attention