Why do a lot of women lie to a guy they're not interested in & lead him on?

[Anonymous]

It's cruel to just lie about your interests towards a guy & lead him on. Rejection is the honest truth. Do a lot of girls do this to mess with a guy? Does it feel good to mess with a guy like that?

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+1 y

"Don't tell me a sweet to protect my feelings. Tell me the bitter truth so that i can accept reality"

[alligatorblues]

Yeah, it's just because girls are non-confrontational. They don't want to harm others or appear shallow, and they don't want to make decisions. So, if a guy is in that situation, it's a golden opportunity to prove there's a lot more to him than it appears.

I would advise learning the Rosary. Then, take your next date to a Catholic Church sanctuary when it's empty--might need to go to the parish office to gain entrance, and teach her the Rosary. When girl sees a guy with devotion to Jesus and the virgin Mary, she wants to have his baby.

[spartan55]

I don't think it's always to necessarily 'mess with' the guy, but more fear of making the guy upset. If you pay attention to this forum at all you will notice that most girls have a deep seated need to make sure NO ONE is upset with them. Could be anyone, doesn't matter.

[ChronicThinker]

K, here's the issue: guys can INFER feelings where there are none and then claim we're "lying about being interested" when in actuality, we never have been. No one is "lying" to you unless they're outright saying: "I like you" and then they don't.

But, to give you the benefit of the doubt: if a girl is all over you, making out with you, trying to fuck you, cuddling with you, clearly flirting... then she's just an attention-seeking bitch. Otherwise, you could be misinterpreting.

I can see it from both sides is my point.

[Asker]

So you're saying no girl has ever lied about being interested?

[purplepenguin1]

1. Yes many do this to mess with them.
2. It usually doesn’t matter at all because since there are no feelings toward them girls don’t care.
You will just have to get use to it and know the signs and try to stop it from happening to yourself. Because girls will take all they can get from you and that’s not going to change.
That’s not every single girl on earth of course but just saying they are out there.

[Asker]

It's nice behaviour huh? Should i start messing with girl's heads too & show no empathy anymore?

[purplepenguin1]

I don’t think I stated anywhere it’s “nice behavior” so not sure where that came from. I said if a girl has no feelings for you then she’s not going to care about messing with you.
Should you do the same, that’s up to you and your personality. Men usually do show more empathy than women do so that might be harder for you to live with.

[Asker]

Meh i can do it. Girls get away with way too much anyway

[purplepenguin1]

Ya I definitely done my fair share of horrible shit to guys. 😆

[Asker]

Is it wrong when guys mess with girls heads & lead them on?

[halloweenkween]

I think it’s the same reason why guys also do it to girls.

1.) They are too afraid to reject you and hurt your feelings so they avoid ending things

2.) They are keeping you on the back burner for attention and wait until the right person comes along to end things with you. Which is why you shouldn’t wait for a girl to end things if she’s not giving you the time or day.

3.) Still wants something from you and will stick around until they get it.

[Asker]

Honest rejection hurts. But lying hurts 10x more.

[halloweenkween]

Totally! You have every right to be hurt. I think you should end things with this person if they are causing you pain and self doubt.

[iwannaply2]

I live by this quote I created years ago.. I will hurt your feeling with the truth rather than break your heart getting caught in a lie... yep that's mine

[Jellenders]

I do it because I don’t want to hurt them. Most guys flip out if I reject them in the beginning or in the end. It just makes them feel better to blame the girl for either leading them on or being too cruel to reject them without giving them a chance. And It’s just better to tell them later bc at least we can have decent conversations before he flips out

[Asker]

Yeah but lying hurts more. A sweet lie verses the bitter truth. Which one do you prefer?

[Jellenders]

What I’m saying it hurts either way, it really depends on the situation. If the guy is very close, or hard reject will most likely get lie because it’s best toward the girl and guy at the same time.

[Asker]

Lying is for cowards though. Honest truth is reality, sweet lie is a delusion

[Rose00]

Yea we are broken inside and not perfect we screw up. Except it, learn from it and move on. There so many reason why people lie only asking that person you will know. If you ask people on here they will give you their opinion and you might not like it. Ask your buddies why they do to females. It goes for all people not just the female population. At the end of the day you have to know you deserve better and make sure you find someone who you can trust. Period.

[Liam_Hayden]

1. Didn't intend to, but somewhere along the way lost interest.
2. Intended to put you in reserve in case the guy she really wanted rejects her.
3. In order to manipulate you into providing her something.

[Anonymous]

I can't speak for everyone but it's almost never a nice feeling to reject someone. It's awkward, so some girls would just try to make her disinterest known in some other ways. Or others do reject straightforwardly, but there are guys who just can't take no for an answer so they just let them be.

[Asker]

But those guys are in the minority. A no is a lot more honey & has more integrity than lying

[Piteka5]

People always want to have a backup, women usually are better at it and can be very charming, they can do this sometimes without even truly knowing it is with that intention, and it's something that has been found in pretty much every culture, so it's a universal thing

[ecfresh]

They feel bad rejecting you or are afraid of how you will react to the rejection.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

I don't personally, normally I'm upfront and honest. Of o don't tell you flat out I do it as nicely as I can. Regardless I get called a bitch for rejecting them

[JSmuve]

Because they suck at communication, can't deal with confrontation, don't want to make the guy feel bad, and they like the attention.

[Anonymous]

I was flirting back and forth with a girl who I think actually liked me but since I didn't ever make a move anytime four years into our friendship she got a boyfriend.
I'm actually happy for her because he's a decent guy and I couldn't see myself marrying her because we don't share my strongest opinions

[leahzrc]

because those guys are into girls that do that, it's there choice just as much as it is the girl's.

[Asker]

That makes no damn sense. And you're defending that behaviour

[leahzrc]

maybe im just good at reading people, but i know when to stop communicating with a person if they are a player

[lacie235]

probably may be because he disturb her often and she feels something god about him. but sometimes it also leads to something good

[beatcoock]

Hey, @lacie235 , You look amazing 😍

[Asker]

Your opinion makes no damn sense

[ManOnFire]

It is often done to make another guy jealous who you probably knew nothing about.

[MountAverage]

I don't remember something like this ever happening to me. Maybe try going after different types of women?

[captain_voidwalker]

Because they can get him to spend money on her
You have to understand to a woman a man isn't a human bieng he is a tool to be used and discarded

[gangbang101]

because they are bitches who need attention.

[Anonymous]

I think most girls who do this may just do it because rejection can actually be kind of painful for both parties, even though a clean break is the best and most honest way to do things.

[ikEVERYTHING]

They choose not to hurt their feelings... which is wrong

[MeatPuppet]

Because either fear of the guy's reaction or out of concern for the guy's feelings.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women love the ego boost of leading a guy on than crushing him.

[lolcraft]

Fear of rejection. Plausible deniability can be a powerful tool.

[Anonymous]

how did she lead you on?

did you misunderstand her?

[Anonymous]

To be polite, I guess
and sometimes, out of boredom

[JohnWickman]

Because women are EVIL!

[Anonymous]

Guys do it too. I wish I knew the answer.

[Asker]

Cliche answer. We're taking about women here. Not men

[Opinion Owner]

You’re an idiot then. Nice spelling.

[Asker]

Grammar nazi made one mistake. And id this was about men i wouldn't use the cliche girls do that too shit

[Opinion Owner]

Wow you really do know how to spell and use grammar. Nice one!

[Asker]

I know im retarded. I need a helmet

[venusdays]

Because they are immature

[Anonymous]

They love the attention.

[Gwenhwyfar]

I don’t do that

[elly91]

The same reason men do the exact same thing...

[Asker]

Cliche answer. Women do it more though

[elly91]

You would say that... you have to defend your own gender... but in my opinion there isn't a gender that does it more... people do it... it's human nature... and there may be good reasons or bad as to why they do...

[Asker]

Actually there is. When it comes to strength, men are stronger. When it comes to emotions, women are more emotional. When it comes to avoiding danger or confrontation to protect themselves, women do it more

[Rivelet13]

@Asker that is very true. But there are very rare cases. Some girls would tell you they don't love you back and would kiss and even accept to f**k. Some of them are very strong and when you are too much into them, they will leave you emotionally weak

[VIVANT]

@ anon

If you are going to drAw a comparison ,

The juxtaposition would be “ men are physically stronger”

“Women are emotionally stronger”

If you have more of Something it isn’t a weakness.

And anyone can lead people on. Gender doesn’t dictate that.

[Asker]

@VIVANT yes but there's always a gender that does something more.

[George090]

Explain women !

[Numbnuts89]

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[Hotboy_booblover]

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