What do you think about traditional/feminine women?

Question

I’ve always liked wearing dresses and skirts, and my main priority is getting married and making my future husband happy. Is this wrong? I don’t condemn other people’s choices, I just personally feel like this is what I want.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I'm trying to figure out how to say this.

On one hand women who look and act delicate, demure, soft and feminine are the most attractive of all. I'm going to quote part of something that I wrote before.

Men love it when their woman tries to look her best for them. He feels ten feet tall when she slips her little hand trustingly into his, or wraps her hand around his arm and snuggles close when they walk together, as if she thinks he is her knight in shining armor and is proud to be seen with him. He feels manly when asked to open a jar, fix something, lift something, or reach something down from a high shelf for her. He melts when she smiles brightly or looks up searchingly into his eyes. These are all unspoken compliments. But spoken compliments are equally desired.

Women are the only ones who can make us feel warm and fuzzy, as well as horny and tingly. That's particularly true of women who look and act feminine.

It's also admirable to want to get married, have babies and do your best to be a wonderful wife and mother.

The only thing I would warn against is being a Stepford Wife or getting trapped in traditional gender roles. You'll wind up bitter or disappointed if you allow yourself to be completely controlled or dependent on someone else for your livelihood and happiness. You need to be your own boss. And that doesn't mean you can't still be tender-hearted, openhearted, nurturing and giving.

Loyalty, trust and communication are essential for both parties in a relationship. It's a two way street.

Don't be a doormat. A fully functional woman knows her own mind. If you would have respect for your husband, he should also have respect for you. He should value your wisdom, knowledge and intuition. He should respect your needs, desires and values.

I recommend that you develop some valuable skill (s) beyond pleasing your husband and mothering. Those skills will give you a sense of worth and fulfillment in your life, and they will help you to survive if something should happen to your husband. Stuff happens. You need contingencies. Life isn't a "happily ever after" fairy tale.

Aakash_Hangargi · Accepted Answer

Just a reality check, even in marriage its not always sunshine and roses, so would suggest you to have some skill sets to gain some monetary advantage that you can get a job if you ever needed it, you have to learn self dependence incase anything goes wrong, I am not saying if something would go wrong or it's wrong but we need to be prepared in any case, I am sure you would make a good wife or girlfriend and I wish you all the best, but also if you have put down a question its my obligation to give some opinion that may help you so here it goes.
1. Love as much as you can, but save something for you always as only for you and nobody else can touch it.
2. Learn to be self dependent and courageous you would definetly need it someday.
3. While being a house wife is good, but in future you may ask yourself what's your identity as an individual so do something on partime basis or something you like for example you can have a flower boutique and what ever you like.
4. Put 30% of your money into some savings it will help you in future.
5. invest your money carefully.
6. To be honest with you being a house wife is kinda under appreciated you may not always be complemented for the work you do at home so teach your children equally how to behave in home like they should do all the work and without making it as gender basis, because work in reality doesnot have a gender.
7. Remember you are a human and not God do be selfish for yourselves at times and take sometime for yourself to have a healthy mind.
8. Enjoy your life even outside of family with friends you need some time away from it so you can again want to go back to them with love.
I don't know how much this would help to you but I felt like I should tell you these things only to give some heads up I wish you the best life and hapiness❤️😁😊

SamtheDnDgirl · Accepted Answer

There is nothing wrong with wanting to live your life this way. There is nothing wrong with a man wanting to be a provider and working hard to make those he loves happy. Those are perfectly fine ways to live your lives.

However, there should be nothing wrong with a woman enjoyed more "manly" things and wanting to work. There should nothing wrong with a man getting in touch with his feminine side. Nothing wrong with a man wanting to be stay at home dad because he wants to be with his kids.

There is something wrong with people being forced into roles because of what happens to be between their legs. There is something wrong with saying someone can't do something because they have a penis/vagina.

People should be allowed to live their lives the way they want as long as it doesn't harm anyone.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Nothing wrong with them. Keep one thing in mind though, you're still going and when I was of your age I also thought that I knew what I exactly wanted in life. Now I know that what I truly want is way different from what I wanted earlier on, so be open-minded and don't stress too much. If your main goal is indeed to be a wife and a mother, you're still way too young for that.

Goma15 · Answer

I think people should do what makes them happy. I think women should wear what makes them happy. In my opinion feminism and women's right should be about freedom, not introducing a new but opposite set of gender norms to obey.

That being said, I think it's worth exploring these things a bit before making a definitive choice. Maybe if you explore you'll just feel re-affirmed in what you already wanted to do and you'll be happier for it. Or maybe you'll find new things that make you even happier. So I wouldn't make a choice on this stuff too early, try on some things for size and see how they fit. At the end of the day it's all about finding happiness.

And I hope you find happiness whatever you decide. =)

naturallywonderful · Answer

I love wearing dresses and skirts, too. However, I genuinely can’t relate to just wanting to find a husband and being a more traditional woman. There is nothing wrong with that, though. Quite frankly, it saddens me that you’re even asking that on GaG because it gives me the impression that people have made you feel like that’s wrong. If it’s something that you genuinely want, go for it.

Anonymous · Answer

A looot of men love this kind of woman, trust me lol

A lot of men do nothing but complain about modern women like me (not at all submissive or oriented to be a housewife, very assertive, lean dominant, etc). They like submissive and for a woman to be focused mostly on them and raising children. If you're not pursuing a career, you're less of a threat to their sense of masculinity and dominance. If that's what you want, okay. Just keep your eyes open and learn about emotional abuse and self-respect. That's all I really want women like you to keep in mind. When you're not very assertive, you're might be more likely to attract a certain kind of man that will put you down, dismiss your feelings for him to have the upper hand, and not treat you very well. I've had friends like this that have had multiple abusive relationships that have really damaged their self esteem more than it already was. Do what makes you happy, just be careful and nurture yourself as well.

nelly83 · Answer

I think it’s sexist to just assume that traditional means feminine. I love to wear skirts , heels, and dresses. I’m a stylish lady who loves masculine men. But I am also a career woman. Just because I am a career woman, it doesn’t mean I can’t be feminine.

In my opinion, I think the people that support gender roles are the real sexist ones. Saying that any one other than housewives can’t be feminine.
And by the way, housewives are unaffordable for most men nowadays, so unless you marry a rich man, you will suffer immensely being a housewife

Shamalien · Answer

Gimme gimme XD I wantz one. I don't have my heart set on any particular dressing style or even personality really, but a girl who wants to raise a family and take care of em, make her husband happy and strives for that, that is fking rare

most girls nowadays are just ME ME ME ME ME ME 24 fucking 7 most selfish creatures on the face of the earth. Won't ever miss a chance to virtue signal though, but it's all just to look good, although most of em aren't honest enough with themselves to know their true motivations...

Anonymous · Answer

I really like the "traditional/feminine" aesthetic when it comes to physical appearance. I think skirts and dresses are way too rare nowadays, especially those skirts that are wider and loose and not firm like someone sewed pants together.

I would like someone like that to not have outdated views on the world from the 1930s or something. Like the woman MUST stay home, cook, do cleaning, watch for the kids and the man MUST work and provide for the family. Those are just stupid rules that never made sense in the first place. If you want to do it like that and you're both okay with it it's fine, but it really shouldn't be a general rule and if you think it should be then that's quite a turn-off.

Also religion is kinda lame tbh.

Anonymous · Answer

There is nothing wrong with any of that, in fact it is the ideal woman for most "desirable men".

But do yourself a favor and get an education and acquire some life skills too. The happiest women in this world BY FAR are the ones who get married and dedicate themselves to their families, then once the kids are old enough they go back to their careers or do something that gives them purpose beyond just parenting and homemaking.

So the best thing you can do is get a good education while you're young, and start a career, but make finding a good man and getting married a high priority.

Women who wait too long to settle down put themselves in a very difficult position. It's not impossible to be successful that way, but the odds are just much lower.

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer them over the obnoxious “strong independent woman” stereotype. But seeing all these women now come out and wanting to be homemakers and be “traditional” isn’t going to fly either. Being a homemaker in today’s day and age is not the same as it was in the past. I can make my own meals, I can do my own laundry, I can clean my own house. Much like many other jobs, technology has made homemaking obsolete. If you want to be “traditional” to what extent we can, then that’s okay, but if that is meant to mean being a homemaker then that doesn’t seem reasonable. Homemaking in 2020 is a fake job and just seems like weaseling out of a real contribution.

slatyb · Answer

If that's your plan you better choose your partner very carefully. Marriages fail and women with children and no marketable skills have a very difficult time after a divorce. Probably a good plan to not marry until you are at least 25 and after a courtship of at least a year. In the meantime meet as many guys as you can so you know what's available before you choose.

TheLittleInnocent · Answer

OMG I LOVE DRESSES TOO (ღˇ◡ˇღ) they make me feel so elegant and dainty, like a pretty little princess without a care in the world. (＾ｕ＾) I like how they sway with each step. They were the only reason I liked going to church when I was little, my mum would dress me up in all sorts of beautiful dresses... she'd do my hair too, then I'd slip on some lovely shoes and I'd be off with a spring in my step because I knew I looked pretty (๑• . •๑)

Hermes-Paris · Answer

Its a great time to be on the planet for a woman because you can choose to be so much more than women 50 years ago. If you choose to be a traditional and feminine women the path you walk is just as valid as a woman who chooses to be a career professional. Wear your dresses and skirts as I'm sure look great in them. Make a good plan and have a great life! Buenos deseos desde Colombia.

Anonymous · Answer

You can be both. I also love to wear dresses and I'm of that people that loves to spoil others (my niece, my brother, etc). Yet, in my job, in a male-surrounded field you have to stand by yourself and be a bit cold to make them respect you.

It's about balance.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Well I’m the same and I think it’s great! I don’t like jeans/trousers because I find them masculine. I love to be girly and feminine but I do still want to work at least part time after marriage because I want my own money that I can spend on whatever I want instead of having to ask my husband for money everytime I want a new pair of shoes or cosmetics etc.

Sensmind · Answer

As you say in your introduction that is your choice and you respect other peoples' choices, which is okay by me and I agree to your question, I honestly don't know, my gut feeling is that person would not be "My Type" if I believed in types but in romance nothing surprises me even me falling for someone outside my type. My further thoughts would be that the girl/woman may have a preference for a more traditional/conservative man which I am not so choice may be taken out of my hands haha

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I'm not currently at a point in life where I'm ready to settle down, but I have great admiration for women who prefer to be traditional and feminine. I also admire women who go out into the world and forge their own path. Both ends of the spectrum can be of value to a man, depending where he's at in life, and maybe also his general disposition.

SenseiSeptred · Answer

Little lady, those women that you are talking about are almost becoming a thing of the past, and it really is a shame that it is happening like that because there is a standard of women's beauty and being traditional that is not common here in America that I exemplify for wanting even as a man here in America.

winterfox10 · Answer

I'm not big on the whole "traditional" thing, as I think the time for traditional ideas and practices has passed. Perhaps we will find ourselves going back to the old ways now that we've seen COVID-19 (which was like the straw that broke the camel's back, honestly) prove that absolutely NONE of our modern approaches to do anything work. We've seen this happening in other non-critical areas; like the modern approach to dating which does nothing but make everyone miserable.

loveslongnails · Answer

Nothing wrong with that, just be sure you bring something to the table as well, and choose your man wisely. If you don't, you'll end up being treated as nothing more than a reproductive system and sex toy, and possibly worse. Choose carefully, take your time, and be as certain as you can be.

Anonymous · Answer

If she is that way out of a moral compunction, especially one that sees other girls as immoral for not being so traditional or feminine, then I don't like it.

If it's who she is because it appeals to her and makes her happy... then I like it a lot.

The difference is whether it's her holding herself back and judging others, or if it's just what she wants and it makes her happy.

gunducci · Answer

You do you. People's opinions are something you can listen to and think about, but certainly not an obligation for you to follow. Having said that, you are young, let life enrich your views. You have a lot of life to live before you fixate on a lifestyle choice. 😊

lucas262 · Answer

Nothing wrong at all,

I'm my book no one should give me than they get tho,

If your gonna be that kind of wife then you should have expectations of your man as well.

Everyone wants to get married but few know how or want to be wives.

Few men understand and will take up the responsibility of being a husband.

Ihatesociety00 · Answer

I think it's all just a stupid pathetic act. If you all really were traditional you would revoke all of your voting rights and let men run shit.

Kegan4142 · Answer

I am not into girls. But I have always found the beauty of a woman to be feminine, delicate, and elegant. with perhaps a little fire in her soul here and there. But femenine, petite, mature women are priceless. :)

CherryRoseChampange · Answer

It's not wrong at all. Glad you know what you like hun 💖💞 that lifestyle is just a tad too vanilla for me 💀💀. It's very mature, I need some explicit in my life. A good mix of everything too 🤷🏽‍♀️

Jenniferloveee20 · Answer

A lot of girls act in slutty ways nowadays. Like it or not. It’s cheap and unfeminine. I think guys truly a feminine and soft spoken woman. That doesn’t mean you don’t stand your ground, but so many women are in their masculine energy nowadays. There’s a reason my men and women are different. We have different strengths and different weaknesses. Sure a lot of guys sleep around with many girls but it’s usually the girls they fall in love with, I’m taking true love, are the ones who don’t behave in that way. I’m not a feminist though, so this is my opinion.

askmewhy66 · Answer

I do very much agree ! Andvi also prefer a traditional life style with a lady,. not this keep up with the Joneses bull crap!
Every girl is able to be or do whatever makes them happy. I'm not into conforming with societies ideals... " Be who you is"" not what you are not!" Is my motto. like me as I am or go F yourself.

kev_alpha · Answer

I love a traditional women. They are the real feminine women I fall in love with.. I don't like the modern feminist gals. they don't know who they are and what they want from life.. traditional women do. Bless them

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

I see nothing wrong with that, as long as he is traditional their is nothing wrong with you being traditional as well (in fact studies show that traditional relationships and roles make people the happiest).

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I like your ways and ideas that is why 12 Males gave you thumbs up this is a great question and dresses/skirts make you look like a real young lady that's what i look for when I'm seeking a Woman

CupcakeKiller · Answer

Of course it's not wrong. You're completely entitled to your own values and goals. If anyone says otherwise they're just being an asshole.

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

There is nothing wrong with it. I also want to make my future husband happy. But I don't wear feminine clothes or makeup. I will wear clothes made for women for the new era.

whydoweneedausername · Answer

If that’s your opinion and you’re not forcing your values onto another, there’s nothing wrong with having traditional values or practicing traditional values

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

You do you. Don't try to be what some bossy cat lady says you should be like. What kind of man would she attact anyways, and compare it to what kind you would.

egarcia1360 · Answer

If that's the choice you want to make for yourself, you're happy that way, and you're not hurting anyone else for the sake of those goals, then there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Levin · Answer

Women delicate soft, with feminine features, sure. Also, that women there is nice in that picture.

mayesham · Answer

Do what you want and dont let nobody tell you what you should be doing. If your priority is that then focus on it if that make you happy.

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

Nope it's not wrong at all, it's your choice. As long as you're happy that's all that matters. :) <3 :)

AngelAimée · Answer

Do what you want but I don't believe in the lifestyle choice personally but then again I'm not the type to ever settle down.

sdtabot · Answer

We have our own preferences. You have the right to want that. There is nothing wrong with what you want, as well as with what others want. 😊

Jellenders · Answer

It’s not wrong, I think that’s just what you believe your purpose is most related to. I also like skirts and give off a little feminine touch, and yes modern day people just classify it as stereotypes, but I think some stereotypes are good

Cherokeehp · Answer

I think they’re just as pretty and valuable as non-traditional women. Live your life. Do what you wanna do.

Barbaric · Answer

As others have mentioned, that's what most men want anyway. It's mainly male feminist pansies who don't.

Bose12 · Answer

That's really your dream so better not compromise just because others like it or not.
But if I were to ask, I'd rather be interested in someone who's ambitious and has dreams for herself to grow in her life.

zoeadams3 · Answer

When I was in high school I was really focused on college, career, and all that until my senior year. That was when I decided that I would much rather be a traditional wife and mother. I haven’t looked back since.

lydiadianeh · Answer

Thats not wrong! You will evolve in many areas of your emotions and your life, but if you still want to be a wife and mother then shoot for the stars girl :)

Honestyyy · Answer

I mean you can be how ever you want but personally i think its kinda outdated i see it as something that made sense more in the past but it might be acceptable in some areas like towns or something

Phoenix98 · Answer

I like traditional and feminine women yeah. And if that's what you want for yourself go for it.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Most men would absolutely kill to be with a real, feminine, woman. Modern women have become very "masculine" in all of the worst ways. Don't change for anyone and you will absolutely have your pick of men when you are ready.

Numbnuts89 · Answer

let me guess , you also expect a man to make all the money in the house?

Torari · Answer

I love them. I don't mind more modern career women ofc, but something just turns me on about women who want to be homemakers. And dresses are simultaneously cute, beautiful and sexy so they're a no brainer.

CheezyPizza · Answer

You dont need snyones approvel, as long as you are happy and make your guy happy, who gives a fuck what anyone else thinks

Liadon · Answer

That's completely fine, I guess this just leads into other things about personality and other priorities such as your career.

Lstratt1984 · Answer

That's a virtuous woman and truly appreciated by a good man! Don't change!

ScienceWoman · Answer

Its not wrong if that makes YOU happy. Its your life, you have to decide for yourself and not care about what other think about your decision.

ankushjangra · Answer

Yeah traditional dress are very beautiful , females looks gorgeous in traditional cloths  They just grab your attention automatically...

Unit1 · Answer

I'll pass (since I'm practical and need a career woman, not a housewife, who believes in gender roles) but plenty of men would gladly take you.

mattmanyah2 · Answer

Nothing wrong with it but I would still pick up a skill that makes money

archiz · Answer

Is it what you want? Or what "they" thought you to want? In the end I am not here to judge people's actions if it's driven by their own beliefs.

MzAsh · Answer

It’s not wrong. My desires are much more complex though.

MrTuxedo · Answer

Of course it's not wrong. I think many guys are up for that.

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