What makes a girl lose interest in a guy she likes?

[Cnelson12345ceo]

Something like this seems to be happening to me right now so a little backstory here first

For about a year before she started talking to me she would stare at me a lot as would her friend and sometimes they would talk about me. I had a crush on one of her other friends and I talked to her but sort of failed, never talked to her again. She randomly started to ignore me after talking to her for two weeks and her bestfriend looked pissed at me. I tried to texting her if we could talk so I could ask if she was ok but she kept making excuses not to meet me and eventually ignored my message. Was finally able to talk to her in person but she wouldn't tell me what was wrong she just told me she was busy

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can't seem to be able to talk to her but it looks kinda like her friend is calming down I guess?

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I don't know now we just exchanging hellos and shit

[btbc92]

Oh that's easy. Finding out things about you when your not around her. Were checking, testing and screening you out all the time. If found out something that goes against or standards, morals, beliefs, etc.

And you started talking to one of her friends of course you're going to ignore you. You come off as a player.

[jennifer_bloom]

Because you liked her friend first - a normal girl will never date somebody who was previously interested in her friend and only choose her because the friend was not interested. Girls feel disrespected when you don't act like them you want them but still express interest in dating them.

[MissRomantic]

From personal experience, it’s possible that she heard rumours about you from other people depicting you as weird. I’m not saying you’re weird. I’m saying it’s possible and plus that judgment is subjective. Some people are more judgmental or maybe she liked you and told a friend about it and her friend might have told her that she thinks she’s way out of your league. Hopefully not though. Another possible thing was that she only liked you as a friend but noticed you having an interest in being more so she backed off to send you the message. Sorry about that man, but I hope you find out!

[Cnelson12345ceo]

Yeah but it csnt be the second one I didn't really do anything more than she did, infact it was her that was coming off more honestly

[Majesty101]

I would say, it's probably because you liked her friend first. Girls don't like that sh**, it's like you're second pick. And when you tried to talk to her, if it didn't go well like you said it did, that would definitely put the icing on the cake. She might feel hurt, first of all, in which she probably liked you too, and just wanted you to make more effort to interacting with her. She hasn't gotten over it yet or else she wouldn't make an excuse not to meet you. It's best to let her calm down and if you really like her make an effort. And if she only responds to your texts, express remorse in those texts. She has to forgive you first, in order to confront you again.

[Cnelson12345ceo]

She won't even tell me what's wrong tho I dont wanna just assume that's what it is and apologize to her for that

[Majesty101]

That's why I set it is best to let her cool first. Eventually more will come to the surface, and I should have said if you honestly feel that or resonate with the fact that she might be upset about you liking her friend... only then should you bring it up or show remorse. But you're right, she hasn't said anything yet, so I wouldn't want to give you conclusions, so the best options is to just wait a while and give her some time. Hopefully she'll come around.

[DestinyElizabeth04]

It almost sounds like she found something out about you that pissed her off. Women are weird.. see, we will test you for weeks before making a final decision on whether or not we see you as a potential suitor. Women won't tell you if you "failed" their test either. Which is probably why she won't talk to you and just says she is busy. I would move on from this on because I honestly dont think there's a chance to recover. Not sure what could have pissed her off unless she found out that you had tried getting with her friend first. She might feel used or wonder why you would go after her friend instead of her. Could be a number of reasons, really. Also, if a woman is kind of "up in the air" about you and not really sure if they see a future with you, it doesn't take much to make them throw in the towel and lose interest almost immediately. I would move on. I dont think there is any real chance of you ever figuring out what went wrong.

[Gibbby]

Honestly I would suggest not caring about it. Of she doesn't want to talk about it now just ignore it. I mean you probably have other friends or family members you can spend your time with. Instead of trying to figure out these mind games she's playing.

Make use of your time, if she eventually comes around and asks/tells you about it, then that's great. But if she doesn't come around you already were busy about your own goals that to notice that.

Too old to be playing childish highschool games

[bbycakes101]

It could be anything from you doing something to make her see you in a different way, or even just that she loses her attraction for you. Sometimes they don't like you that much to begin with, so they stop liking you for no reason really. Everyone has a different reason for not liking someone, but usually I stop liking someone if our conversations become boring and repetitive, they start distancing themselves from me without stating why, etc.
Although, if I like them a lot, I don't stop liking them for a long time. Even if I break up with them for the reasons I stated above. But yeah everyone is different, maybe just ask her.

[TeAmo_20]

1. She heard something about you
2. You didn't ask her out soon enough and she got mad (most likely) she thinks you're playing games just chatting
3. One of her friends likes you and is talking bad about you to her...

If I were you, unless you really want her as a girlfriend I'd leave her alone. She's seems immature , she can't even communicate with you. What will she be like when something goes wrong in a relationship?

[TeAmo_20]

So I'm raking the comments and I think after seeing everyone's responses, you might be able to get with this girl if you talk to her friend about everything and have her friend let her know what you said ;)

Tell her friend you agree interested in that girl, and if she mentions you liking her come up with a clever excuse that she will run and tell her friend about... then try texting the girl again

[Cnelson12345ceo]

I don't know her bff is really pissed

[Medlife]

Omg im 43 this is highschool maybe college i have absolutely no idea what chicks these days do. If a man likes me we talk if he is a douche ill simply tell him to fuck off and vice versa. The older u get the less drive for games u have. Past 35 u simply become unimpressed by a lot of shit. Women and men my age we dont do games no more its either yes or no. No wasting eachothers time sorry not much help to ya

[Tiffany27]

Nobody wants to be second choice. I’m sure her friend told her what happened. I lose interest when a guy seems desperate and will take whatever he can get. If you really like her, than prove it. Send her message saying I’m sorry if I did something wrong or offended you anyway. I really would like to talk to you but if you’re not interested I understand. That way there’s no pressure on her. Also, maybe you said something that turned her off.

[DellBell]

It's because you had a thing for one of her friends but you talked to her? Doesn't come off as a good impression... if you were interested in her other friend then you should of talked to her and things would of been grand. Women get turned off when a guy acts they he is interested in one girl but talks to another girl..

[DellBell]

You could talk to your crush and ask her out :)

[1Sophisticatedme]

Depending on how you come across with your behavior towards the girl you are interested in. In this case, you made one a priority and not the other and some girls are very sensitive when liking a person... try again but with a different girl but be confident and be your self and be honest with your feelings whenever you want to have a relationship, otherwise you'll have girls really mad at you. Sometimes it is what it is; if its meant to be would be, if not then let it go. Have a sweet day. 🙂

[Gorlll]

She must of realise you like the friend and so did the friend. As you talked to both they thought you were being greedy and weren’t being loyal as you talked to both, these girls tho same like they took the scenario way out of hand tho and got way to mad

[HartleyB]

Are you just spamming her with messages when she doesn't respond instantly? Because that Is a real big frustration when guys just sent 10 messages bleeding insecurity just because I Went offline to have a 5 minute shower or something 😅

[aWes0MeNeSs]

It sounds like they may have been upset about you talking to her friend. If not, who knows what they're upset about? But, if it's something you can't even think of and she's that quick to go hot and cold on you, you probably didn't miss out on much.

[pinkcandyfloss]

Maybe she found out that you are not interested in her , so to protect her feelings she tried to maintain distance from you? It hurts tho if you find out that the guy you have a crush on for so long, has a crush on your friend :/

[SexualChocolate85]

At first it looks like your weren't showing enough interest in her then out of nowhere after you ran out of options you started showing interest in her. Her and her friend picked up on that. I've been in her situation before, it doesn't feel good being someone's consolation prise.

[katiek00]

That’s a tough one, my guess is that the girl you like was only trying to help out her friend who was probably the one who was interested in you. When your interest turned to your crush instead she backed off because she didn’t want her friend to be hurt. Is her friend shy around you- or was she?

[katiek00]

Another thought is that she maybe heard something about you that seriously made her rethink or think badly of you. In any case, I know it’s a sensitive subject but she should’ve told you when you gave her the opportunity.

[Cnelson12345ceo]

I dont know if her friend is shy but after I talked to her she didn't talk to me again so I didn't bother with her, as for the girl I like now I really didn't show any real signs of interest besides being her friend in all

[katiek00]

Hmmm- guess I’m confused too. I think we all hate the complications of relationships yet all end up in them 🤦‍♀️
If she’s reacting like that, it’s probably I well over in her side, but if your persistent, patient and carefully let her know you like her... I know it would make me think twice.

[Secret6620]

He only talks about sex... I didn't spend all my money getting educated to just talk about "what I am wearing" or if "I'm wet"... In a relationship... Sex isn't everything...

[bubbles328]

For me it's respect. If you disrespect me it chips away at the respect I have for you.

[Cnelson12345ceo]

You were supposed to read the description

[I-am-a-nobody]

I'd say being boring. The guy drives the fun in the relationship generally.

[Gwenhwyfar]

What happened right before she started ignoring you?

[Cnelson12345ceo]

Literally nothing she was just taking me home I'm positive I didn't say anything that would offend her

[Gwenhwyfar]

Something you did pissed her off and made her lose interest. No clue what.

Maybe she thought you were hitting on someone else. Maybe her bff? That REALLY pisses a girl off.

[Cnelson12345ceo]

Nah never talked to here bff but I did talk to one of her other friends I liked a few weeks ago but I failed I don't know everyone says that's why but I dont see why that's bad really

[Gwenhwyfar]

That’s why!!!