What makes you lose interest in a girl?

[Anonymous]

Also what makes you lose interest in a girl after she tells you she likes you?

[Finchie40]

If she is very selfish and only thinks about herself , she makes decisions without including you but she expects you to include her when it comes to decisions, Another turn off is a girl that can’t keep her mouth shut , when you tell her something and you tell her not to say anything to anyone else , but she does anyways, to her so called best friend , so I will lose respect for her and feel I can’t trust her , it shows her true colors that she only thinks about herself. So I mainly lose interest in girl’s that do not know how to be respectful in a relationship, , when she doesn’t make me her top priority she is best just to move on because she won’t be my top priority for long , I won’t stay committed to a girl that doesn’t know what it means to be in a relationship, That doesn’t wear my shoes like she expects me to wear hers , when she prioritizes everyone else, but me , she is best to move on cuz I am probably already moving on myself , A commitment takes 2 people to remove selfishness for each other , to prioritize each other , that’s the only way love grows , without that you have nothing , you are just a convenience , I want a girl that makes me feel wanted and respected the same way I do for her , When intimacy and affection with each other becomes a struggle then the relationship is going to fall apart , When she feels like she is the only one that can initiate it , but denies me when I try initiating it constantly , little does she realize she is damaging the relationship we choice to be in together, by making it all about herself , she shouldn’t be surprised if she gets dumped or cheated on because she only thinks of herself , No relationship is perfect , but when you learn how to remove your inner selfishness for someone that should be doing the same for you that’s where love grows other than that it’s just a waste of time

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Being too much like my mother. Had a date with Tara. She was cute, a little older than myself. The only thing I knew going in was that she was a reporter for a local paper and the tenant of a friend of mine. During the course of the date, she never let me get a word in or would steer the conversation back to herself. She talked in length about her exes after finding out I was acquaintances with several of them at the time, her elderly parents, suggested I go to the church with her, and genuinely seemed interested in dating me despite not knowing much about me.

At the end, she suggested we go out again. At the time I wasn't feeling good, so I said I'll give you a call.

I helped her landlord the following weekend and found out much more about her. That was her sixth reporter job in three years, she was always late to work, half the time she'd come in her pajamas. She had her parents move her in, never did laundry as she'd bring it to her parents, would have taken out every day, and regularly had the heat up to eighty degrees in the winter.

I'm glad I didn't bother asking her out for a second date. I thought ahead and figured we wouldn't be compatible.

[Anonymous]

I can tell you what makes me lose interest in guys since I'm hetero, but I assume it's the same for hetero guys. I'm hugely turned off by inconsistency and lack of advances. And on the opposite I am very turned on by guys who are quick at making moves, like giving compliments, asking out, and just being very clear about their intentions. Happened just recently I met a guy at an event, we vibed so good, exhanged numbers and were talking for few days. I realized he wasn't going to make a move any time soon so I asked him out. He said he was currently busy with work project but we could after. Then after that he went on a trip. Then after the trip he had another work project, lol. It's been a month now. But he made sure to call me and text me every day. I don't know if it's BS but it's def a turn off for me. In the meantime I met another guy who asked me out for the very next day we met and we did and then for the next as well, and so on for 10 days because he was interested and enjoying. Sadly he was just a tourist but a great guy who reminded me how someone acts when they are really interested.

[Mewzinc]

What if those two guys knew each other. The first one acted busy so you could give his friend a chance which he later approached you? Lol sorry I'm not that paranoid but I was thinking like what if? That would be crazy...

[Guy13]

Nasty and self-absorbed personality towards others that cross their path.

[OlderAndWiser]

Lack of effort or lack of consistency from her.

[Oldschool1981]

Met a girl who had been single 4.5 years since the death of her fiancee. ALone in the city, dead end job, no social lide. Dated three months. The only thing she wanted to do was go to Starbucks and talk about her dead fiancee. Anyway, she quickly develops feelings for me and starts talking more relationship stuff, while constantly circling back to the dead fiancee she clearly wasn't over. Anyway, after six weeks, I suggest we spend the night at her place. It was a sharp rejection because her roommates might hear her. She was 31 years old at the time. Anyway, six more weeks go by. She's planning the wedding in her head, telling me about all the nice things she wants me to do for her and her family. At this stage of the game, there has still been zero physical interaction betweens us - not even a high five. So, I suggest we spend the night at my place. She angrily rejected the idea, saying she wasn't going to sleep with me until I rented an apartment in a part of the city where she lived.

I was out the door and gone.

I honestly couldn't believe it. It was wide open and she couldn't close the deal. I've never seen a woman fail with a man so tremendously. She had three months and couldn't close the deal.

She forgot the first rule of dating: if you meet somebody you like and want a relationship with, saying yes gets you the man you like. Saying no, then using sex as a weapon before we've even hugged or are an offical couple, loses the man.

[DermalPunch]

it is always in a woman's best interest to withold sex. far to many men switch up after they have scored. this woman was not over her fiancee and had no business dating.

[Mewzinc]

What if the girl is waiting for marriage. How do you make a successful relationship work?

[grierwrange]

@Mewzinc well he clearly sounds like he wouldn’t date her if that was the case. He wanted to get intimate really quickly which I don’t think he realizes is a huge turnoff to most women who aren’t promiscuous

[DermalPunch]

@grierwrange bingo!

[Mewzinc]

@grierwrange oh dang that's a shame

[DermalPunch]

@Mewzinc i see what you did here

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I generally lose interest in girls if they like me. So if a girl tells me she likes me so much, I lose interest. My wife is the one exception but only because she's a saint and so sweet. Most of the time, I lose interest if a girl likes me that much. It is too much responsibility.

[Asker]

Could you explain too much responsibility?

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I mostly choose girls based on how much I like them. I don't want them to like me back that much. I prefer if I like them way more than they like me. Again my wife is exception but she is an exceptional woman -- more beautiful and kind and moral and considerate than 99.9999% of women out there. I hit jackpot. But for more women, I don't like them to like me that much.

[Asker]

Do you feel flattered tho if they tell you?

[BungusHighFivePizza]

It suffocates me usually when women likes me too much. I hate it. And I'm surrounded by their boring mediocrity, their breath, their lack of creativity, their routine smalltalk... just very boring. So with most women, I find myself losing interest if they like me too much. I prefer they like me a bit less.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

On too much responsibility, I don't want to hurt her feeling. So I am trying to figure out how to say I don't want her in the nicest way. It makes me upset that I have to hurt her this way. So I try to think of how to set her up with a friend who likes her.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

It is no longer flattering to me 99%. I know this sounds so egotistical but I think I grew up with attention from women on par with average woman. So catcalling, women approaching me left and right, it's not a weird thing for me. I got phone numbers left and right when I was in my 20s. So like many women, and I think if women just imagine me as a woman they'd find we're pretty much the same, I find it so annoying how many women approach me and ask me out. I like the one woman who doesn't.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

When a woman asks me out, a part of me is already interpreting is like she is desperate and ugly. I really don't like women asking me out. It is like she is putting her vag on a silver platter and me to dick it. I think she is pathetic. I am not so mean in my actual thoughts but a part of me thought this way every time a woman tried so hard to get date with me.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

The biggest interest loss for me is rejection of God. Absolutely appalling. There was this one girl I thought was attractive but then that one day during P. E I heard with my own ears her say to an acquainted fellow, “oh, I don’t believe in God”. I felt like a back shove but who cares. I have my cats and two cousins anyways

[TrillXHippy]

If she thinks it’s okay to cheat, if she thinks that I don’t care if she cheated, if she cheated and blamed the dude when she cheated, cheated and expects me to stay with her. The absolute worst one is cheating on me with any of my brothers. That last one is crazy

[serious]

Not just there are many. The answer will get long so I will just say that there are many things that will make me lose interest in a girl. Even if it just as friends or acquaintance.

[JDAC092299]

No hobbies or interests/don’t do anything as it makes it very hard to get to know someone that and bad texters who text like they hate you very blunt and one word replies

[Miristheiss]

Drug use/smoking

Heavy drinking

Promiscuity

Cursing a lot

masculine energy

[Mewzinc]

I feel the same way except the last one reverse it with feminine energy.

[cth96190]

When she reveals that she is a Feminist and/or a Democrat.
A history of inter-racial sex is also a deal breaker.

[Vázquez613]

I mean, Democrat, I wouldn't care too much. I think all politics are kind of stupid, and I prefer to just do what makes sense. I don't do things because it's a right-wing or left-wing idea, I just do what makes sense and shows results.

But the feminist thing, yes I agree with you 100% because an ideology based on gender and class makes no sense at all. There are upper-class females and lower-class males. Upper-class black people and lower-class white people. Blaming a gender or a race for class doesn't make sense at all.

[Orion76]

If I feel she doesn’t trust me, or I can’t trust her and if she tries to make me jealous. Also if she talks her future and I’m have no mention in it.

[FilmGuy93]

Neediness, boringness… there are also a lot of women who get super forceful and insecure with men they like and that can be pretty off putting

[JSmuve]

Time. With time, you see how she behaves and looks on a day-to-day basis. That usually decreases the attraction.

[humanearth]

Being bossy, controlling, maladaptive, manipulative

[Mewzinc]

Maladaptive - what if she's a writer?

[KrakenAttackin]

Finding out she has a high body count is a big one.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Just being an overall c**t

[Pete671]

Hearing she voted for Brexit,

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the question.

[Asker]

So let’s say you and a girl both hit it off well initially and overtime after you guys start hanging out more, you’re no longer feeling it

[Opinion Owner]

Well odds are she did something that turned me off. You don't really lose interest in someone so much as you learn they're not the person you initially thought they were.

[shortster]

When she asks for money.

[Shy_Steve]

Usually if she Embarrasses me in Public.