I touched my friend and she didn't say anything at that time. But now she is not talking to me. why?

[Anonymous]

I have a female friend and I have known her for about 3 years. I like her and I have believed she also likes me to some extent.
Yesterday , we were alone at my house , and just talking and playing videogames. After some time , I could feel something between us and I slowly touched her face , kissed her and touched her breasts as well and ran my hands under her shirt.
She didn't object and this went on for 15 minutes. But now she is not talking to me , she is avoiding my texts.
I saw her today as well , and she just went the other way.

What is the meaning of this?

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I think I have been misunderstood , I am not a rapist. I didn't force myself onto her.
She wasn't exactly just still , she kissed me back as well and she had her hands in my hair while I was feeling her up.

Now I don't know what happened , she is avoiding me.
I have apologized to her too. I told her I won't do it again

[AnjLikesDogs]

That was assault. You assaulted her and are now working it as if she's some crazy woman and you did nothing wrong. You better hope she doesn't report you to the police. I hope she does, but unfortunately most women dont.

Just because she didn't say no does not mean that was a yes. Most girls are afraid to say no because we fear being hurt more. Did you ask? And did she say yes? If not, you assaulted her. She has every right to stay away from you and to not text you back.

You are absolutely disgusting.

I have had males do similar things to me and let me tell you that you are a predator.

"Oh but I like her and I just-"
No. You dont like her. If you did you would have asked. It wouldn't have 'ruined the mood' asking a girl "can I kiss you" is a really romantic thing.

You are disgusting. You apologize. You acknowledge the fact that it was assault. You let her know you do not expect an answer. You do not try justifying your disgusting actions.

[Asker]

yeah lol everything's okay now. As I said it wasn't just me , it was mutual she also kissed me and we have liked each other for a long time. I messaged her and told her sorry and she replied she was concerned about us taking a big step from friendship into a couple and that's why she was worried and confused and just needed time alone.

She specifically said she did not mind me touching her

You just made a fool out of yourself with all those assumptions and allegations lol

[Asker]

well I don't blame you tho , you are just 14 . You will get it when you get old that not everything is sexual assault or rape. There are many dimensions when it comes to thing like this

[AnjLikesDogs]

What does my age have to do with this? I can't count the amount of times a was sexually assaulted starting from age 11. Do not assume I know nothing on the subject.

What I heard was very concerning and I said what was thinking. I did not make a fool of myself and while it may not have been assault it sounded like that with the information I had. I apologize for the accusation.

[Asker]

yeah you are right the information I gave was not sufficient but it was all I had at that time too so it's easy to interpret it like that lol

so yeah , thanks for sharing your opinion I assure you I didn't force her or anything

[Anonymous]

You moved way too fast. A kiss may have been fine, but for you to dive right into feeling her up? Big no no. If she didn’t protest then she’s probably soft spoken or wasn’t sure how to react. Please send her an apology, let her know that you got the wrong impression and you hope that the friendship is still salvageable.

[joenelson]

Not everyone reacts in a same way.

Silence is also a form of reaction.

I really hope things get better between you both in terms of friendship because I wouldn't like to see a 3 year friendship getting ruined.

Learn from your mistakes. Next time, don't just assume. It's better when both feel the same way, then it's fun.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

By the looks of it she regretted it afterwards and she's not interested. Wouldn't say you did anything wrong if she enjoyed it. But just wait for her to talk, she may continue being a friend or not.

[Asker]

everything's cool now. Her avoiding me had nothing to do with us kissing and me feeling her. It was something else entirely

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

could you explain why she avoided you then?

[Asker]

well she needed some time alone. She said she always wanted it to happen ( us being together ) but when it did happen she was worried about our friendship. 3 years a lot and we have been close friends so she kinda panicked when she realised we won't be friends anymore and we would be a couple from now on because she knows I like her too and we will date now.

So it was just too much for her , she was concerned about this change in relationship. I asked her directly if it had anything to do with the way I touched her , she said not at all

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

You didn't do anything wrong, don't let girls guilt trip you. girls slap hands away if they don't want it going that far. She was enjoying it because her actions speak louder. It's good she told you how she feels, but considering the first response absolutely take it slow.. communicate show maturity and do not pressure her into sex.

[Asker]

yeah after this incident I will be more careful with this stuff. I am gonna take it slow lol

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

That's cool, hope it works out for you. I like the friendship first attitude

[Kkaos]

She feels awkward and uncomfortable about it. This is what happens when you say you're one thing and then do another thing. You should be on the same page right from the start.

[Anonymous]

Nobody can tell for sure but girls often have a lot of shame when it comes to sex, maybe she felt she wa stoo easy and thinks you only want sex. She's obviously young given the immature actions. Just ask her if she's okay, don't get defensive, and encourage her to share her feelings even if you think differently.

[Lilmessedup]

You moved waaaay too quickly dude. I'd message her, apologizing, and if she liked your little touchy session, she should tell you there's nothing to be sorry for, right?

[Asker]

yeah you are right
I have sent her a sorry message , she hasn't seen it yet. She has also not seen about 10 messages I sent her before that as well

[Asker]

I should wait for the answer I guess

[laPrincesitaRoxi]

What do you mean she didn’t object? Didn’t she just stay still without saying anything or what.

[Chunkysalsa90]

She might have felt uncomfortable and just didn't know how to say it at the time

[888theGreat]

Just hope she doesn't accuse you of sexual assault.

[KrakenAttackin]

What does it mean? Who knows, just another crazy female.

[Lyndsielee666]

Why would you feel her up? 🙄🙄🙄