Are women taught how to treat men growing up?

[Anonymous]

This isn't a shaming stunt. I genuinely curious, if women are taught on the same capacity boys are taught about treating girls. Whats your experience? Trolls get no love in answers section, you've been warned.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I think it has less to do with the gender as it does the parents and the environment.

My mother taught me to view everyone with suspicion, anxiety, and anger. Because that's who she is.

My dad taught me to be understanding, patient, curious, and slow to judge. Because that's who he is.

That said, I think teaching kids - boys and girls alike - how to treat themselves, others, and how others should treat them is a worthy thing to teach.

I don't think women and men need drastically different treatment according to sex. Some behaviours are certainly more common among each, but it's important to teach kids to identify those behaviours regardless of what sex they present themselves in.

Abuse is abuse - whether the abuser is male or female. Likewise, proper respect and love are the same - whether the provider is male or female.

Growing up for me, the common narrative around boys was "they're idiots and rowdy, but harmless most of the time - just be careful of creeps and old men in unmarked vans".

[Asker]

I loke your approach, I agree greatly with your view,, of it being based off the parents and environment. Both my parents taught me to treat women with respect, wether they respected me or not. Although my dad told i would haft to lead a household and learn how to guide my wife and children. But im just one guy on this planet.

[Mystic_Nova]

I was told how to treat people as a whole, not just boys. The basic, respect others, as you wo hi old want to be respected. But, I got told and put emphasis on the fact that I shouldn't be a pushover and stand my ground.

I also got a thorough talk about to be weary of boys especially, and to watch out for the assholes of the world who just want to use me.

[Asker]

Do you feel like that gave a positive or negative outlook on men in general growing up?

[Mystic_Nova]

Grey. As they should. There are good men out in the world. Many risk there lives and work real hard!

But, theissue is, the assholes of the world. Especially as a girl, I need to be weary, but give people the benefit of the doubt

[Asker]

Thank you for your input.

[hellacray]

I honestly don't know since I don't have any female siblings.

However my assumption is that they're not taught how to treat men, only how they should be treated and what to expect.

You know like girls aren't supposed ever be hit by men. Or girls needs to be pretty so guys can ask them out.

Things like that, but of course some girls rebel. That's why you girls today dress the way they do, and behave the ways that they behave.

[scooogy]

There are dominant women out there, and I'm glad there are. Where I've worked, the women had kicked the costumers asses if they became rude with them. This was also sort of protecting us from stressful costumers because they didn't continue that asshole attitude anymore.

[Anonymous]

My father taught myself and my sisters that we can be anything we want and we dpnt need men to do it...
That and if anyone tried to hurt us, how to beat them to a pulp...
(Might you, subsiquenty we have become his property and we need a man to protect us... but the old days he was niceish)

[Asker]

Would you say that gave you a negative or positive outlook on men in general growing up?

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly, it didn't make it away either way, we were taught to try our hardest and overall we all seem to get alone with guys well and take more of a "hating specific people because they were nasty to us" attitude...
But we also learnt about cars, gaming and sports early on so I know I had many guy friends as we had shared interests
So really I haven't had a possitive or negative attitude on men, but more developed an understanding that anyone can screw you over, so prepare for the risk...

[scooogy]

There should be more men like your dad, and of course more women like you.

[Opinion Owner]

@scooogy god I hope there aren't more men like my dad (at least in the latter years)... but I appreciate the compliment

[thegirlfromthething]

I think they’re given relationship and dating advice on how to treat particular men but maybe not men in general.

[Asker]

What type of outlook did that give you on men growing up?

[thegirlfromthething]

Neutral, I guess. It was more about what I should do than what he would hypothetically do.

[Asker]

Interesting, I wonder how much that effects dating today.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women are taught by every sitcom, romcom, commercial, etc., that men are "man children" and idiots that can't do anything right. Women are also taught that they can do no wrong, no matter how much they whore, and that men are just lucky to have them in their lives.

Women have zero clue or interest in learning how to attract and retain a good man, which is why so many women are miserable.

[Marilynjuana]

In my experience, no. Men were taught how to treat women though, which also was "crooked advice" at its best. I got lucky in a sense that I was treated horribly and I chose not to do the same to anybody else.

[scooogy]

I have a feeling like when people get treated badly, it turns out their true side, like my little brother got treated bad by our father but not by our mother, and this is why meanwhile in contrast to his 4 siblings he's not only still living at home but also became a true mommy kid. It's like that Simpsons episode where Bart chooses to do bike trips with his mother and later gets picked up on that by his bullies.

[elisa_0]

I was about to say no, we’re not taught how to treat men, but we actually are. I was always told to do things for my brother, the thing is that women are taught differently. We are told to cook meals for our brothers or clean up after them. I never really did though because I thought it was demeaning, and always refused to do it. 😂

[AlwaysBelieving]

For the most part, no. I agree with @Smoke-n-Growls