Why do (some) men treat women like children?

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They can be so patronizing and assume women are not capable. They like to treat us like children. I've had boyfriends who acted like this before. Sometimes they like to say they're being protective, but why would a girl want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't think she's capable of being on her own and taking care of herself?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I prefer that kind of guy and don't find it a bad thing at all

privileged women often complain about feeling patronized by their men because their men do horrible things like want to care for them and make things easier for them. Have you heard the term be careful what you wish for?

I know of lots of guys who don't take care of their children because they think the mother should do it all because "she can do it herself"

I know women who say they don't need a man as they work 40+ hours a week and still might have to rely on govt help because they didn't have a man to help them

Or entire neighborhoods at the mercy of gangs and decay because there are hardly any men around to protect things

Think about that next time you say you don't need a man and you're capable to do everything on your own.it takes a smart woman to recognize the role of a good man.its better to have a guy who wants to protect and help you than a guy who doesn't care.he'll be saying those same feminist quotes while you are overworked doing everything because you had something to prove

why-makoto-kun · Accepted Answer

Patriarchy (messed-up family values, media, government, etc.), wanting to control/abuse, etc.

See Lundy Bancroft's "Why Does He DO That?" and "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" by Patricia Evans. Assuming the abused partner (often female) is dumber, less capable, etc. yields benefits of power, according to Bancroft. According to Evans, the abuser viewed the abused as an extension of himself, hence the need for power; he refuses to see her as a separate person.

I like it if a guy offers to help me to be nice, but if he "has" to do everything because he's afraid I'll mess it up (mind you I did those things fine without him, before he came along) we'll have a problem.

Vandal · Accepted Answer

I find that government treats women like unaccountable children because it's easy votes, some men treat women like unaccountable children because they have delusions that that's what a "real man" (glorified workhorse and guard dog) does, and sometimes women themselves want to be treated like unaccountable children because it means they can get away with a lot of stuff.

I mean, have you ever tried telling a woman to take responsibility for her own actions and circumstances? You need to be prepared for some heavy backlash.

onlyaguy · Accepted Answer

Well, some men are jerks. It's also true that many women treat men like children, but in different ways. Those women would say they do it because those men act like children. Just sayin'.

Here's the thing...both men and women have their strengths and weaknesses and they both like to focus on their strength. Men do view women as childlike in the areas where men are typically stronger. Women are guilty of the same thing.

Konnour · Answer

It looks like you got issues - if you don't want to receive good things, just say so straight in the beginning, nobody likes to make efforts which are not even going to be appreciated

Anonymous · Answer

Same reason some women baby our boyfriends, try to take care of them, protect them, etc. cause we care about them. I tend to do this sometimes.

Anonymous · Answer

the girl I was talking to the other day, was acting like a child (shes 17). I'm 24..I'm allowed to talk to her as if she's a child, since she was acting like one, and I'm older than her

Breathe · Answer

Well that's cause often times women ARE less capable. Prove the stereotypes wrong and be rude to guys who assume things about you.

Anonymous · Answer

i don't care. I like it! stop being such a feminist, you make guys think we are cold bitches.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess it's because a lot of women act like children. But your post didn't make much sense to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Because (some) women act like children.

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