Ladies, do you have any idea what a man considers a "High Value Woman" to be? Do you ladies have any clue what is wife material?

[Apope16]

This is a follow up to the last question "Ladies do you realize that men have standards in dating?"
There was a lot of snarky comments from women. Everything from trashing men all the way to saying in a sarcastic way that they know this already.

Well ladies, let's put your knowledge to the test. What is it that you think a man is looking for when he is dating and looking for a wife? Do you think that "wifey material" is just opening up your legs and letting him put it deep inside you?

Or do you think that the reason why so many women are in their 30s, single, and unmarried with children is because they have not offered something more than sex to their man?

(oh and if you are going to complain about men leaving you etc etc. realize that YOU chose the men in your life. YOU are the one who chose to carry to term a child who wouldn't be a good father. that reflects on YOU.)

On the other hand I am hearing some ladies out there with open minds who have some bright ideas about how they will treat a man. I am hearing from a lot of ladies on GAG that definitely sound like wife material. There some ladies on here I would like to ask on a date if they were in my city. Are you one of those high quality ladies? How will you treat your king of a man? I am hearing from some of these ladies out there... I must admit. Ladies take notes because some of us want to be on their wifey program!

Fellas! Gents! Guys! What do you all think? Are you seeing a lot of wifey material out there? Or are they more just hit it and quit it?

Yes. The majority of women in the dating market are wifey material. A guy just needs to take his pick.

No. Most women are not marriage material in the dating market. In public or dating apps it doesn't matter.

[the007datingcoach]

Most women (personal opinion) are damaged.

Anyone single after 30 are either men/women with issues or are single for another reason...

I used to coach a woman who definitely wasn't "wife material". She has finally found her centre and she is happily married.

Women need to learn the simple things...

One: If they want a real man they have to show they are able to get that real man. No sitting on their butt claiming they are a model when they really are not.

Two: Women have to be prepared to chase and learn to find out about a man otherwise the man will not want to invest his time with them.

Three: If they want to a good guy, then they need to judge better and give others a chance. Once prepared they will never look back.

I know it's a lot and I am litterally trying to redo centuries worth of gender characteristic values lessons... But that is the only way!

Guys need to let them chase you, read the signs, be a "alpha" male, be fun, mysterious and charming. Please avoid being clingy, make sure you listen & respond accordingly. Finally you have to make sure the relationship is her idea NOT yours!

Personally I was single for a long time, I don't want anyone, my decisions, opinions and thoughts do not impact on the people teach.. To me a relationship isn't worth it, my step uncle had a saying "you cannot make a whore into a housewife" However I want to be able to share my wisdom and make other people happy!

[Gravit1]

In the end a lot of people get married and a lot get divorced. Relationships that aren't found on mutual beliefs crumble. Most men are unfaithful these days as are most women. They end up together and get divorced. Most realize a chaste woman has long term prospects, but unfaithfulness before marriage often follows after. Unless both are chaste and faithful marriages crumble. Only the strongest faith and best beliefs keep a marriage, those occur in Christ. God designed marriage, so naturally it takes Him to make it work.

[DarkDream]

I think every man had a different interpretation of what his perfect wife material would be don't you?

Not every man is the same just like not every woman is the same. If we were all built alike how boring would that be.

I think a woman should be adaptable to her man in some ways, but not all. We shouldn't have to change who we are to suit someone but we can bend for those we love.

There are many set in stone people who should get the chance to meet someone who flares up that inner interest that hides, so deep inside themselves that they didn't even know it existed.

[Apope16]

I like this answer. Really good open minded stuff. You sound like a woman who is married. Are you married? You just seem open mind, selfless, willing to adapt and work things out with a partner.

[DarkDream]

No I am not married

[Apope16]

YOu must not have chosen to or guys must have been idiots. I don't see how someone who has your mind hasn't begged to put a ring on you yet.

[DarkDream]

Let's just say guys we're not so smart and didn't keep me around...

[devilman666]

Do you expect a man to change for you? If so, in what ways/to what extent do you feel it is acceptable to expect a person to change themselves for a relationship? If you love a man but he is emotionally cold to others, is it acceptable to expect him to open up? If you love a woman but she acts distant then is it okay to expect her to try to get closer to you?

[DarkDream]

No I don't expect a man to change for me either if I get into a relationship with someone I take them for who they are.

If I wouldn't ask you to change who you are would you asked me to change who I am?

If you love a woman and she acts distant it could be because she doesn't feel the same way or she is afraid of being hurt.

I think through time with the right person a man who is cold to others will open up or a woman who is distant will grow closer.

[SomeBlondeChick]

It's interesting you bitch about loose & easy women - what you are well used to as a "lady's man" - but don't actually say what makes "wifey material". So what's your definition of "wifey material" @Apope16

I ask as someone who doesn't sleep around and I *am* a high-value woman - professional, self-respect, self-esteem, etc., don't dress revealingly, etc. - that has been approached by some very wealthy men over the years because unlike desperate (and pathetic) golddiggers having my own money I don't really care for theirs.

[Apope16]

Being a "Lady's man" does not mean you are a player who sleeps around. It means you attract a lot of women. A gay man can be a ladies man. This misconceived notion is something I wrote about in a my take.
Confession of a Ladies Man: Addressing the Haters, What Is A "Ladies Man"? ↗

@someblondechick

Thank you for your reply about what you believe a man is looking for in a wife. It sounds like you are a beautiful woman who has a lot going for you. Sadly, you have no idea what most men are looking for in a wife. Are you married? I am assuming you are not because you have no idea what wife material is looking for. You see your response was all about YOU. Your response was hardly anything about what you will give to a man. What you have to offer a man. It is great that you are a professional and have self respect and self esteem. But all that is about YOU. What do you give to a man in a relationship? Your man comes home from work to you. What is it that you give him? I know you are a woman of worth. SO beyond sex have you thought about what you offer a man? Is it good cooking. Is is listening to a man about his day? Is it rubbing his back and showing empathy when he is tired? Are you spontaneous and fun? Like what is it that makes you wife material? Your reply pretty much exposes why I asked the question. Yet you are pretty snarky and mean to me for someone who is pretty clueless about what we as men are looking for. Are you submissive in a relationship? Do you allow a man to lead and be prideful? Or do you boss him around and nag him and treat him bad?

[SomeBlondeChick]

@Apope16 - What can I offer a man? Compassion, intelligent conversation, fantastic sense of humor, adventure - I've lived in four countries, been back & forth across America three times, and used to hike as a child back in the Rockies for 6 hours a day, good food, someone to be proud of as a partner, and eventual mother to kids. Question is, *what* can a man like yourself who doesn't understand that offer a high value woman?

[SomeBlondeChick]

@Apope16 - gay men aren't "ladies men" in the traditional sense of the word. Gay men attract women because women feel they are safe. They don't have to worry about sexual comments, harassment, etc. That a gay man may have similar feminine interests as women. Not because he's a "ladies man". Ladies man is someone like good old 007 James Bond who'd try his luck wherever possible.

[SomeBlondeChick]

Seriously @Apope16 do you think I attract men because I am successful. I said at the start I am far from a desperate and pathetic golddigger. My friendly & outgoing personality, which has earned me the dub of "mum" by colleagues, wins men over more than if I was rolling in cash. I am well aware of what men would like as a wife. And am amused you think women actually don't know... you don't either because in reality, most men don't want servants or lap-maids (submissive, let a man take the lead & be prideful, etc), they want partners. Near equals.

[Apope16]

A ladies man is someone who simply enjoys the company of women. He charms them. It has nothing to do with sex or being a cheater or anything like that.
www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/ladies%27%20man

It sounds like you have to offer a man being the mother of children (giving life), compassion, intelligent conversation, humor, adventure... I think this is all good stuff. Just women need to realize what they have to offer that a man cannot offer himself. In the end, I think your revised response is pretty good. Sounds more like the type of woman I would date.

[Apope16]

I have to offer a woman a lot of things. The first thing is Independence. I am my own man. I have my own unique view of the world. Women are drawn to me like bees on honey. Just look at the comment section. Ladies are obsessed with me. Because I intrigue them. I also offer Boldness. Women are attracted to me because I am a blunt person who has the courage to mean what he says. Even when they hate a guy women find that attractive. It makes them kind of horny because they are dealing with a man as strong as a tree and not a push over weakling. They also find a man who doesn't give a fuck what people think of him as sexy. Look at the ladies who comment on my writing. Is it controversial? yes. But they are obsessed anyway. They are drawn in. They want to know more about me. Imagine what it is like to date me. If I am blunt about controversial shit. Imagine me during sex. Or imagine me sweet talking you in the morning telling you how beautiful you are. But not fluffy stuff. real shit. Its a turn on. Ladies like authenticity. Thats another thing I have to offer. I am 100% real. They know that If I love them its true. If I tell them I will walk through a wall to marry you. I will. I also am good at sex with an 8 inch penis to go with that but that is another topic. The point is this... I know the games that ladies play. I know the game. It intimidates them but also excites them. They can't shake me. They can't manipulate me. I am a high value guy that is willing to walk away and can go to a bar and find a new girl for the night. It makes women horny. @SomeBlondeChick does that make sense?

[SomeBlondeChick]

@Apope16 - you honestly sound like an average joe, does that make any sense? I see nothing of great intrigue or value but rather as you accused me someone blowing his own horn. Were I interested in that I'd buy a ten dime porn novel and read it.

[Apope16]

Do you have any idea how much people are making in the porn novel industry? It is a multi billion dollar industry. Women are obsessed. 50 Shades of Grey is only the small part of it.

Do I care if you view me as an "average Joe"? No. not really. I personally see myself as an average joe. I see myself as a regular guy giving advice to other guys. BUt apparently I am nothing average at all. Look at the female triggered responses. Look at YOU. Certainly I am unique. I can sense that you are drawn to me. intrigued by me. fascinated by me... maybe even a little obsessed even though you try to hide it. haha. Just look at the comments. WOmen dont comment on my subjects or what written. They only talk about ME. They are obsessed with ME.

[SomeBlondeChick]

@Apope16 - you are a bit of hypocrite, no? You demand that women know if a guy wants as "wife material" yet you don't know what a woman would want as a husband. You posted elsewhere about almost jumping out a woman's window when someone knocked on her apartment door. As a father what good would you be in home defense then? Protecting your kids, wife? Can you be relied on to provide food, money, clothing & housing? If someone picks on your kids are you going to sit back tweedling your thumbs or will you do something, either encourage the child that it isn't as bad or depending on the situation (e. g. a ball game) tell the coach.

[Apope16]

Jumping out a window? huh? No no no. I was dating my most recent ex in a neighborhood of drug dealing. At 2:00 A. M. someone knocked on her door. I chose not to answer and laid there with her instead of going to the door. I never jumped out the window.

But you missed the whole point. The point of what I wrote was about ladies like YOU. It was about feminism. I was dating an independent, feminist woman. I was at her home. So I was in a situation where I was unsure what to do. If I answered the door and everything she would be offended because I devalued her as a woman in her own home because it would say she was the weaker sex. But if I didn't answer the door then it would devalue me as a man because I wasn't being her protector. So the point was which is it? What do ladies want? Do they need a man or not? Are they weaker or not?

I was also confused because she had her own security system. So I stayed with her in bed which she looked up the cameras on her laptop to see what was happening. So she had her own process.

[SomeBlondeChick]

@Apope16 - independent "feminist" woman. uh-huh. I grew up in a generational household of independent feminist women. Most wouldn't care if a guy actually grew a pair of balls & a spine and proved he was an actual man in the face of potential danger. If the woman you were with had any value and not just one of these loud-mouthed claptrap anti-man "feminists" of today she really shouldn't have cared either..

[silvermoon84]

I know this is a couple of days late but I still want to put my 2 cents in. I think a high value woman is a woman who treats her man well, takes care of his needs, shows compassion, is fun and spontaneous and willing to do things for him. I think she’s not above doing traditional household tasks such as cooking and cleaning if he’s in the provider role. If she’s the breadwinner and he takes on the homemaker role, she doesn’t nag on him for not making money. She simply appreciates what he does bring to the table. A high value woman might have had her heart broken a few times (who hasn’t?), but she doesn’t allow that to stop her from finding the kind of love she wants and deserves, and when she does find it, she understands the work involved to make it last and is willing to do her part. Most importantly however, she knows her value and won’t entertain a man who let’s her do everything without bringing anything to the table herself (yes such men do exist. That was my parents relationship, which ended in divorce for that reason. I love my mom dearly but even she admits she had a knack for picking assholes when she was young).

What I offer a man is myself and nothing more 😁😁😁. Don’t worry, I’m only kidding about that 😜. In all seriousness though, what I (speaking for myself only) bring to the table is a God fearing Christian woman who is laid back, low maintenance, not needy or clingy, works out and takes care of her body, honest, good cook, loyal and doesn’t cheat, I’m not going to say I don’t nag because I do (like I said I’m honest) but it’s mostly my mom and it’s usually about stuff pertaining to her health (because I want to keep her alive longer).

Personally, I’m not married, but that’s not for lack of trying. It’s only because I haven’t found the one God has in mind for me yet, and since marriage isn’t in the cards for everyone, I’m not even sure if that’s what his plan for me is 😊.

[FlutteringFeelings]

Societies definition of “High Value Man” is how much money is in a man’s pockets and his status. This title of High value, low value is only an unrealistic title just to place certain people in a category of who qualifies or not. In the real world I don’t categorize whether a man identities himself as high value or not. If I see a guy I’ll think to myself whether he looks nice, he’s driving a nice car or he’s the type of guy who wants to break his neck for every women that walks by.


All men should have standards that are solid and aligns with his character. I’ve met men who made more money than me and I’ve never came across one who says “I’m a high value man” because I’ll probably laugh. Lead with your character and everything will fall in place when necessary. I’m not losing sleep over what a “high value man” is looking for in a “high value woman”.

[Browneye57]

Of course not. Cuz you're not high value. LOL

[FlutteringFeelings]

One man’s trash is another man’s treasure. So there’s that. Good day. 😃

[Apope16]

Not really. In tinder I swipe left on thousands of single women in their 30s. All alone. Its sad. I met a single 46 year old woman last night on tinder. So sad. Guys just want sex because they never knew how to be a lady or a wife.

[Browneye57]

^^This. They just are not mate material. Perhaps a quick roll in the hay, but that's it.
After forty, women really hit the wall. Things are starting to sag and wrinkle. Their pussy dries up, they think they know everything. Most have been thrown out of a relationship already. But they are desperate, and needy, and many are willing to fuck like minx to try to land a man. Most are looking for a provider, especially if their ex fucked them over or was a deadbeat, so they have nothing, and are staring at a retirement with no future.
Did you notice EVERY goddam dating profile says they 'like to travel'? Who the fuck do you think pays for all that travel? Huh?

[Browneye57]

You're stealing my content. LOL

A woman needs to be able to articulate this, as a high-value guy will expect it. And no, it's not cuz she's empathetic, cuz all women are, and no, it's not her golden vagina. Most think if they show up with that vagina they're good to go.

A high value woman is done the work to make herself a success in her own right. She's independent financially, and successful in her endeavors. She's looking for a partner, and she's willing to give her man what he needs and wants.

If she can't or won't do that, he wanders off looking for one who does or will.

My woman bought me a motorcycle, and a boat. LOL

My first wife thought cooking cleaning and fucking were three cities in China. :)

[SomeBlondeChick]

@Browneye57 - don't often agree with your posts but 100% accurate. @Apope16 seems to think it's a two-legged pet at his peck & call who'll be submissive in the relationship and let him crow as he was doing at my post but saying nothing of any real value.

[SomeBlondeChick]

*beck & call

[Browneye57]

@SomeBlondeChick - yes, I know... reality can be hard. :)
Asker is just trying. LOL

[Browneye57]

Maybe he read some books. Or a blog. LOL

[JEndigoBleue]

Ummm, why do you have to always remind us how "BIG YOUR DICK" is? Who gives a damn? Oh, I forgot "You do". SMH

And, if you're such a catch and know all to be all about women... why are you still single or always complaining about some female that's that's not interested in what you desire "a relationship with her"? Jeez!

[Apope16]

So apparently you dont know what a man is looking for in a wife. You are not wife material. Thats why you are triggered and attacking me. Women like you are so selfish and wrapped up in yourself that you never think of what YOU can give to a man in a relationship.

[JEndigoBleue]

Maaan, C'mon! Because, I pointed out that you praise your dick all the time (which that's a problem within you about you) I'm not a wife? Yeah, not for you or anyone with your thought pattern.

What's funny you all think because you have a dick or cock or whatever you want to call it that you are suitable to be a husband. NOPE! Just like there a some women not suitable to be a wife.

Attack you? Maaan, that's what you do all day everyday "attack" women you deem not fit for you and men that think like you. That's not a man. That's not a man of character or leader. Yet, you have sex with said women and proud about it. That's not a man of good character. It's just not. And, you not being married yourself yet have a lot to say about women says a lot about you.

Selfish? LOL! "Why do I entertain myself with such foolishness?"

Yup! I'm selfish. Selfish that I went out of my way to take care of my dad and uncle as their Caregiver "at the same time" (Cook, clean, up all night sometimes because they were sick, at the hospital late, doctor appts, etc) annd still had to go to work "full-time" and "try" to have a social life (Nails, hair done, trips, hobbies, etc) and stay healthy. Plus, help out with raising my niece and other adolescent relatives. Not just my time! My money, My house, My car, etc... I'm selfish?

That right there that I speak of myself is "LOVE" I love on my family and friends to the moon and back. I do what's in my power God gives me to help people and be there for them. Treat them as I would like to be treated. I have their best interest in heart. Selfish not by far... I'm sure you can't say that about you... Too busy fuckin. Yeah, that has it's place in "Marriage" But you all use it as an extracurricular activity, no self-control, a bandage... Another form of addiction just like drugs and alcohol to soothe the pain, hurt, rejection, low self-esteem. Ego boosting.

SMH

[JEndigoBleue]

HA! I'm suppose to feel bad that men like you don't desire me? Or, women like me? Please! If you have character like myself, then you have my attention. Because I like me and value me. I don't consider foolish men that speak like you or think like you. You are only for game. And, I don't play games. That's a waste of my time and energy.

[yourbabygirl921]

I truly believe all of us has a value! To answer your question this is my definition of a "wifey material" someone who is emotionally compatible and comforting, is independent, confident, has a career or a passion, a Godly woman of God, is modest, loving, caring, can take care of kids and her husband, can cook, is a respectable female, someone who take care of his husband mental health or health and someone who will love you and till the end.

[Mofunfour20]

I like your take but a woman can't expect a man to be emotionally compatible because men use logic to solve the problem before emotions. If the guy has feminine traits then you probably would be more compatible but the way men and women respond emotionally are different. I feel like emotional support fits better because emotions are subjective to a personal moment

[yourbabygirl921]

I totally agree we response differently a lot of men also are emotional when I say that they react rationally like my ex and I meant emotional support because I was wrong we're not emotionally compatible

[snackthatsmilesback]

Wife material? Well that's a woman. All wifes are made of a woman.

High value woman? Good wife material? Well that's a woman who is already in wife shape or is able to be molded into wife shape (keeping with the metaphor).

(Wife shape?) Committed, communicative, open and working together with husband. in my opinion.

[Apope16]

You are 21. You will learn most women are great for sex. Great for girlfriend. Not wife material. Is your wife posting half nude selfies online for other guys? Can she cook? Does she have a career purpose? Is she loving and loyal? Does she respect her man or yell at him? Is she shady and have 12 other males friends that she text messages behind your back?

[snackthatsmilesback]

You're 33. And? What else are you supposed to get a wife from, a man? A child? The things that make someone a wife are 1: being married and 2: being a woman. So boom any woman could be a wife as long as she could be married. But whether they could be a GOOD wife is another issue.

If my wife is posting half nude selfies online for other guys then I'd I don't know ask her why? I've posted half naked pictures of myself online but none of my girlfriends ever cared. If that changes with marriage I assume we'd figure out new boundaries at that point. If she can't cook I can teach her. If she doesn't have a career purpose great we can look for both of ours together.

Loving and loyal is part of committed, but ig i shoulda said it more obviously? Yelling is not good communication. If she's shady and texts behind my back that's also not communication. So yeah I think my qualifications work fine. I'm sorry I don't see what your reply was meant to tell me.

[bamesjond0069]

I've never met one wife material girl my whole life. I've met a few that are close and a few willing to learn but damn if an actual wife material girl was in front of me I don't know what id do except propose 😆

[exitseven]

I hate that expression. I think everyone is valuable. Some guys think only physically attractive girls are high value. Some girls think only rich guys are high value. This whole premise is total BS.

[Apope16]

Are you married? Because there are many low value ladies out there.

[Alpha4U]

Not everyone is valuable and not everyone is equal. otherwise we would not see many people struggle with dating/relationships.

it is what it is

[exitseven]

I have been married for 25 years.

[exitseven]

@Alpha4U Everyone has value. People are not garbage. Everyone is capable of redemption.

[Apope16]

The word on the street is the ladies during your generation were better quality than the ladies now. You got married before dating apps, hookup culture, the internet, and a million other different ways to cheat and find random sex. I wish I was dating in the late 90s.

[Alpha4U]

Yes everyone have value. there are high value and there are low value. you are being PC for the sake of it. you didn't say anything interesting.

[exitseven]

@Alpha4U Holy crap, are you saying I am too PC?

[exitseven]

I had a long distance relationship. We wrote letters to each other. E-mail and Skype would have been awesome. However it is not the tech that is the problem. It is how it is used. People do not want to put in the work it takes to get to know somebody. It is easier to just ghost them and find somebody new. Everyone expects this and is okay with it. But I see it on this site, nobody is happy with the way their social lives are. They are more confused than ever and cannot understand why they are unhappy.

[Mofunfour20]

Social media has done a great deal of demolition. Fellas we gotta pick through the rubble

[Anonymous]

This whole high low value shite changes between each cunt that puts so much emphasis on it more often than not to suit their own needs (that's basically what the high low value things are is announcing your righteous preferences) so I have no idea what you in particular value versus any other guy

[Apope16]

What do you think makes you wife material?

[hellacray]

I'll tell you right now I don't care how confident she is and how much money she makes.

Not sure if women consider those to be high value traits but to me it's definitely not.

[Grl2live_nlearn4u]

I'm not looking to get married for at least ten years. I'm going to go out with his that make me feel happy and ate emotionally compatible. Not be all serious.

[just_a_potato]

I don't know I feel like it's just something people say to weed through em, what I do know however is that I want to be someone's wife one day. A good one.

[devilish-cutie]

I honestly dont care about general opinion as its very individual depending on a man.

[Apope16]

No its not. Not really. There are basic things every man requires in a relationship

[devilish-cutie]

haven't been my experience. All men wanted different things. Some wanted a virgin while others wouldn't ever want a virgin, some wqnted her to cook while others wouldn't mind being stay at home dads etc.

[Shihab91]

I hear that most ( not all for sure ) of white women aren't wife material.

[Unbeatable]

Yes i see a lot of marriagable women that are ruined with attitudes

[Kas19]

I don't care. I just find someone that suitable for me, and it turns out I'm suitable for him. Haven't had any issues.

[Jesus_is_the_guey]

Women have no values these days I’m so lucky I found my wife good people are hard to find whether it be man or woman

[Alpha4U]

If they are not submissive, traditional and easy going, they will never get it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Good lord, only about 5% of modern women are wife material.