Ladies, what do consider to be a “high value man?”?

[MzAsh]

I watched an interview with Aubrey Huff and another dating coach. This Huff guy thinks he’s hot stuff because he’s got money and he’s a former athlete. He’s 44, divorced, two kids, retired, and has gray hair but he’s off talking about “spinning plates” aka dating multiple women at once and how he’s such a high value man.

In my eyes, that makes him wealthy but certainly not necessarily high value in terms of dating or relationship value.

Ladies, what do you think?

[Minx7282]

For me it's the following.
1. Believes in the same beliefs as me and is a God first driven man.
2. Someone who looks to the future to build new things. So someone who has vision.
3. Someone who's protective of me and my son.
4. Is a good role model for my son. Such as being respectful and protective of the women theyre closest too. Ie respects his parents and siblings but also has healthy boundaries particularly with his mum and dad to not interfere.
5. Can match me and work with me when it comes to keep a house running.
6. Financially forward. Like good at saving etc.
7. Respectful of my boundaries and is completely honest.
8. Someone who takes their time to date me and develop a good relationship. Before even considering sex.
I know it's a long list but i hope it helps. Mainly what is attractive is not being a man child. Be responsible. Like nothing is hotter then a man who can take over the house chores while I relax a bit.
Read the 5 language's book it will really help you understand different love languages.

[Anonymous]

A high value man is someone who looks after himself mentally, emotionally and physically. You must be fit, look after yourself and dress in a way that compliments your looks. Tidy environment aswell for example his house and car. Communicative and clear on intentions from the get go, if you want sex just say that. Good manners & a family guy. Someone who has a stable job and earns good money, doesn’t have to be 100k+ but someone who gives off the vibe that they enjoy their job and is hardworking. Supportive. Looks and height are important but not a deal breaker. High value men are not feminine, they are masculine, they care, provide and act tough. Yes men should show their emotions but I don’t want a pu$$y boy either. The most important thing is PURPOSE. You have to be living for something, that’s hot. Confidence and high self esteem but not in a cocky way, someone who knows themselves without being an arsehole. As a woman dating we want someone who will provide and care for us. We want someone that understands the power dynamic. Knows that at certain times the woman comes first and other times he comes first. Period. As for your example, yes he is somewhat high value to women because of this money and status. An older guy with money does attract younger women, that’s just how it is. Women seek protection and stability and in this day and age, money and status provides that.

[jennifer_bloom]

For me a kind heart and modest attitude and hard work ethic makes, an ability to appreciate and love people and an authenticity to their approach to God makes them high value

[JEndigoBleue]

He's definitely not high value with all that baggage. Please! Swipe right. Juggling multiple women. Why does that make a man valuable?

Character is value... because at the end of the day looks will change, money may change, personality will be challenged, sex may change, etc... but a man's character will surface all the time through it all. How he deals with life challenges, etc. It's all good when things are good, look good, feel good... BUT "Character" says a lot about a man for me. Whether rich or poor, he will always be that man.

[NorthAfrican]

Everyone has different standards but for me it's the following :
1. Young. Being young parents together is ideal. Also healthier sperm and more fit.
2. Virgin (willingly): the less exes he has the better (I want us to be each other's first). I also feel he would be less likely to be a womanizer and to cheat.
3. Comes from a good family: I always try to know more about his family. Usually if you come from a stable educated and respectable family, chances are you're a well grounded individual.
4. Religious. I want a man who believes in the same religion as I do because I want my partner to grow spiritually together and raise kids that share our values.
5. Educated and well read. This is so important and attractive. I want us to intellectually challenge each other and discuss cool topics.

[Anonymous]

Only pretty gold diggers would want him for money and cheat on them. If he want a serious relationship he should be realistic. For many people who dont have kids people with kids can be a deal breaker since the kids become a part of your life and you have to be responsible for them too. So i dont think a divorced man with kids is a high value man for women without kids. The sperm quality get also lower and older men tend to get more diseases due to age. Therefore i personally prefere a young virgin my age or around my age

[Azura_88]

Virgin, has self control, empathetic, affectionate, selfless, responsible, reserved when making connections, doesn't show off, honest, handsome, takes care of his health, doesn't manipulates and willing to work hard.

[Azura_88]

He shouldn't be flirty and loyalty is a must.

[HOAAH]

I guess everyone has their own opinion.

It depends on what the girl is looking for.

Honest, hard working, loving.

And for me he had to be my age and made me feel like i could be comfortable or trust him.

[Coulis]

A hugh value person isn't afraid to be themselves. Owns their bad qualities and is actively trying to improve regardless of bank balance or fame.

A man whore isn't high value to me.

[Account]

People who are full of altruism and who don't show off their accomplishments and qualities are of high value to me.

[Scorpio11]

High value man for me is man that will remember whats he says and not contradict themselves when asked to clarify something.
A MAN OF WORD.
Money & fame can only impress a whore.

[Alyssa11]

None of the guys on GAG let me tell you... LOOOOL