Do You Think A Girl Can Become A Player?

Question

If you think so then how. I am aware of the weird debate that people usually have about anyone being a player but I would like to know how can a girl who was dumped become a player.

Price511 · Accepted Answer

Personally, I wouldn't really recommend anybody really get into a sort of "player" kind of stance, regardless of the circumstances. It feels morally repugnant to play with people's hearts, especially willingly. The idea of it being that way is horrible, or at least by textbook definition. Do not do it as a means of revenge, it's self-destructive and any meaningful relationships you do make during playing people will, in all likelyhood, be severely damaged if you don't cut that out.

If you're talking about being a swinger, if it's consentual by both parties and you both feel comfortable with it, then go ahead, have sex and have fun. I dunno how to really get into those situations though so probably best look elsewhere.

But if you do want the knowledge... Then here is what I know.

1. Improve your visual aspects.
This will be an easy way of luring people in. Keep your body toned and looking good, take proper care of your skin, and make yourself look presentable and approachable. This gives off a natural charisma, whether socially or visually, that will make it much easier to find people. Presentation is key; you might be able to lure in people based on personality but visuals for them to obsess over make it much easier and sometimes passive.

2. Treat them right.
This rings much more true for women than men; treat your partners right. Basic things as even a single compliment or showing that you actually pay attention is enough to spark interest that can grow easily. Just remembering details that they mention offhandedly or noticing what's different than usual and commenting positively on it can go a long way.

3. Know some psychology and take acting classes.
If you are able to pick out patterns based on what people like and dislike, what they will personally enjoy and what tells they'll give for dislikes, lust, or other stuff on that matter, you can amplify positive traits and mute negative ones. This is usually easier to do perfectly if you're just looking to snag hearts for short term gains, but long term might be more about mental conditioning, in which I do not have any expertise in so I'll not really comment on it too much. Just play the part and you'll get what you want.

4. Short, sweet, and to the point.
Find what you're aiming for and try to get that objective as soon as possible. You don't wanna be wasting time for stuff that isn't worth it. If you think they aren't a good fit for it then do it quickly and (preferrably, if you aren't a horrible person) gently.

5. Coming back for more or hit and run?
This is probably the most important part. Do you want to keep a circle of these individuals that you can recycle through, or keep a chain going of new people? Treat them accordingly:

If you want them coming back for more, let them down gently and say you need some time. Subtly show them what they want but don't show that you know, and don't give it, and you'll find them eating out of the palm of your hand. Whether you choose to feed them and get addicted is up to you.

If you want to play and go, then you can let them down hard. Be worse gradually over time, and once they get sick of you they'll do it themselves, and you can play as the coy victim and get off scot-free. You can pin the blame on them and make your current conquests question how somebody could be so cruel to an angel; this can give you extra leeway to their hearts and make it much quicker. Sob stories are the easiest, especially if you can fake cry. Quick, simple, and easy to portray.

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I do not condone any of this by any means, but I am not one to withhold knowledge unless it is lethal.

If you do play people, then think about the following statement.

I hope you can sleep at night, knowing you are toying with innocent people's hearts and can very well ruin their perception of people as a whole, cementing misanthropic tendencies and cynicism as correct to them. Ruining relationships and people in your quest for your selfish gain. Shame on you.

mobjay82 · Accepted Answer

i think we need to understand the ego before anything, yes its true one gender does not need much to get laid, but just because its easy for her to get it, does not mean the female doesn't have her own struggle. the female today is dealing with every m an out there trying to live the rapper life meaning its hard for her to keep a man. yes she got the D quick and thats how quick she gets dropped. So the female playing field is different from the mans playing field. No creature out there can toy with a mans head better then the female women are masters at playing with the male ego. like when you first meet a girl a battle begins lets see who calls who first, why isn't she calling me, because she's trying to make you feel like she got choices if you react then she winsshe knows your insecurities now. sometimes this vice versa i tell my sisters like my mother told my female cousin after a guy was flirting with my made the mistake by saying "i got game " my mom said " yeah its called tits and ass". i tell my sisters you think you got game, game for a female is looking at the signs 1) if he ever calls you and has a habit of saying " you miss me " instead of saying i missed you all day " " i had a very ruff day your about the prettiest thing I've seen all day" , then he is arrogant full of himself. slut shaming and all that B. S. is something created to bring the women to submission it started with adam and eve and that story was twisted to fit men powerl we call her the the women that brought death to us eve means new mornimng gramma eve brought life to us. when we cheat we don' see harm done because we are to busy recieving props and feeding our ego, then she drops you and starts to live her life, you have the nerve to call her slut, bitch, hoe, whore, because now your ego got hurt you thought you onluy held that key someone always has a spair. to thoae so called pimps, players, macs the term game is much more snagging and spitting game on a women. game is knowledge , wisdom , its how you carry yourself , keeping your cool, when your being attack some mone who has game never compares himselg to another man. so yes womwn cann play the game its just has its different set of rules

Citizenkirk · Answer

Sure, anyone can become a player, but that's like asking someone "Hey, can this person become a parasite? Can this person become a pariah, a creep? As user of people they have no respect for since they don't respect themselves? Can this person become an offensive piece of something nasty that I don't ever want to be around, ever?
Construction become someone who takes great pleasure and using people misleading them lying to them pretending to be something or not being shallow immature anything but sincere completely lacking in any kind of substance whatsoever, completely incapable of telling the truth, of being sincere?
A shallow shell of a being that used to be a decent person a self-hating he or she that used to have a few really good, decent, close friends, but now has no friends at all. Just acquaintances, who claim to be his, or her, friends. Waiting for the opportunity to use him as he uses them, or use her, as she uses them. That's what a player does. They play ya. they play that's where they get to sing from she's playing you he's playing you that means you getting screwed over you getting lied to the person you're dealing with is not being honest with you they're not being forthcoming with you they don't respect you that's a player that's a guy I try to be a gentleman that's the way I was raised to aspire to and that's why I tried to be I was told when I was young that a girl should always go to be a lady how an individual defines what makes a gentleman or a lady is up to them but they should always choose the best qualities within themselves to fill in those gaps to determine what kind of radio what kind of gentlemen they become whether you can become a player anyone can become a piece of garbage that's easy it's not not desirable but it's definitely easy all you got to do is hate yourself enough to want to become that and they're playing people who do.

MCheetah · Answer

No. Women are called sluts and men are called players for having a lot of sex because for women, it's EXTREMELY easy and for most men (non-celebrity, non-athlete, non-military, non-rich men), it's EXTREMELY hard! A man getting laid is like bowling a perfect game; very hard but achievable. A woman getting laid is like counting to 50; easier than they try to make it seem.

So unless this girl was ugly AF and masculine, but still had men sleeping with her left and right, NO, it is not possible for a woman to be a "player." That's just called a slut. (Not that I'm anti-slut or anything.) Women can get sex easier than catching a cold.

Mogtar · Answer

Mogtar had friend like that. But she was older and minor celebrity, and date guys half her age, and sleep with them, and dump next weekend for another guy while they are left with tears. She probably needed that celebrity and age advantage to do that. Mogtar don't see that working so often with guys of equal age. Also she picked guys who were often shorter than her (she was very tall), and she had lots of muscle... not bodybuilder but very well-muscled back and shoulders, and she would walk around with shorter guys grabbing their ass. She had an unusually dominating (not domineering, real dominant) way about her. And she really didn't give AF. She rode through Italy when she was young while penniless on bicycle and luring guys into bed who would pay for her and treat her until she ditched them.

SjE78 · Answer

women i've met a fair few are players, as a fair few of the guys who are on the prowl for easy naive women are players...
it's not something i would recommend even if you are doing it out of revenge or cos you became hurt and disgarded... cos if you are doing it to hurt someone who didn't have anything to do with what happened to you (i'm assuming you are the one who wants to become one for that reason) it would not make the situation easier to cope with nor would it make you feel better, it would however draw you into that category of people who the world hates cos of what they do...

Twinrova · Answer

No. Men are called players because when they successfully manipulate a woman into sleepinh with them, they have successfully "played the game." Implicit in this is that some challenge was overcome; after all, it is because of the challenging nature of this dynamic that we refer to players as "players" and imagine them as taking part in a "game." For women, this challenge doesn't exist. A female only needs to open up her legs to anyone she desires to find a sexual partner; she doesn't need to have "game" in other words, to overcome hurdles to sex that only exist for men. Because of this reality, women can not be referred to as players.

boombastik · Answer

Because she probably got dumped for playing. My ex would lay in bed and text other dudes or stand beside the bed like I didn't know what she was up to. I've caught her so many times but just watched to see how far she would go. I have a few close friends who play men for money while their little boyfriends enjoy the fruits of her labor but she also be cheating on them till they catch her but they never care about sugar daddy lol. I've seen it all and heard it all. Hard to fool me for very long if at all

David_Kek · Answer

My ex (sort of) when she was younger would pick up a new guy every weekend for sex, and then leave, even if he suggested they hang out the next day.
In her words it became a sort of "sport" to rub in the face of other women she didn't like that complied how no men ever approached them. If she liked a guy, she'd buy him a drink, take him home, have sex, then leave afterwards and be done with it.

Is that healthy? No. It bothered her for quite a number of years afterwards, using meaningless sex and the thrill of the hunt as "self-medicating" to briefly forget about her terminal mother at home.
So yeah, if you have the ability to keep getting notches on your bedpost, you can be a player. Doesn't make it a good idea though.

Bang5luts · Answer

First off I have to caution against this type of frivolous behavior. It can only lead to pain, loss of identity and self worth. With that said, men find it nearly impossible to have sexual relations without forming bonds or some sort of connection with others. For women on the other hand it is much more difficult.

Being a player is very demanding and taxing to say the least. Trying to keep up with many people at the same time without catching feelings or without losing ones self. Anything us possible though. You would have to flirt a lot, keep up on your appearance and try to date many people at the same time without letting them know about the others in your life..
I hope this helped in some way

SpeshalK19977 · Answer

Player is a male term, it seems strange to call a girl a player, that’s a masculine word

A girl can never be a player

The girl term for the same thing is called “slut” or “whore”
I know it seems unfair that guys have a complimentary word for the act, and girls have a degrading/ insult word for it

But I’m pretty sure if you sleep around a lot no one will be thinking you’re a player in their head, they will be thinking your a nasty slut

Jus tryna save you from ruining your reputation

Soremain · Answer

No, girl "players" are called a sluts. Only guys can be players.

That's because guys needs to make an effort ("have a game") to attract women. Women's effort is to select the best ONE for her. So if you don't select but let all in, you are not very good at your game.

Gooblegobble · Answer

They're already the bigger players of the sexes. They keep dozens of men on strings and are so jaded they don't even realize what they're doing. Their entire existence on dating apps is seeing how many matches they get without ever going on a date. That's why I see them still years later on the same apps when I'm in between relationships.

red_knight · Answer

Nooooo... Girls are innocent angels, they don't even fart.. 😂 😂 😂 😂

Kaazsz · Answer

It doesn’t seem like a difficult thing to do. When a guy is a player that’s not easy. Most men can’t be players. All a girl has to do is open her legs and she can play any guy she wants.

hellacray · Answer

Lol yeah right.

Women don't got the guts to go up to guys. Women hate rejection, if it wasn't for us guys asking girls out I think the population size would decrease significantly.

There might be a few out there, but in general guys are the players.

Makeushiver · Answer

Yeah, all it requires is a high sex drive and being confident enough to go after what you want when you wanted. I've known girls who have had sex with plenty of guys. I think its important that you are going after them for your own or to give sexual pleasure. When it becomes a currency in the barter system than I don't like it but the word slut should have been banned years ago, I have a healthy respect for girls with experience and invariably they are better in bed

Enkryption · Answer

Why not? I even knew some female friends who were doing that and one of them even admitted it. In the present day the society has labelled men as 'cheaters, sex addicts and players'. The reality is that cheaters, sex addicts and players can be found in both genders. It's not something biased to one gender.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Is that something you want? Because I honestly wouldn't recommend it. I'm sorry you got dumped, though. :(

Liam_80 · Answer

Yes girls are very observant and probably it's her ex's fault for the tricks he used on her for his selfish gain.
Now she will also start doing the same things because her perception of men is ruined.
And this question was supposed to be for girls because they know it better.

Anonymous · Answer

No.

A player is someone with a certain set of skills he uses to get women to sleep with him. There is no female version of a player because there is no skill involved in a woman getting a man to have sex with her. All she needs is a vagina and a willing attitude.

The answer to your question is no.

Jack9949 · Answer

Read my story here. I think that’s a female “player” description if I’m not mistaken

jshm2 · Answer

The word you are looking for is "slut" not "player" You got dumped, you sleep with all his friends and associates to get back at him. That is, unless you are the psycho stalker type.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

modern hookup culture, dating apps/sites and college turns many girls into players. since many have a long history of sexual partners.

lightbulb27 · Answer

so the girl wants to get back at the guy by becoming like her? Is that the scenario? To be clear, she didn't want to be a player to begin with... she wanted to be secure and loved by him.

Is that right?

Anonymous · Answer

No, only guys can be players because they gotta play girls and manipulate them emotionally to get with them

Girls don't have to put much effort to do that with guys, she can make 10 guys chase her and she wouldn't have to do a thing, then she'd easily mess with all of them as she pleases, that's not called a player, that's called being a bitch

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

I don't girls can be players. I mean sure they can have lots of guys, but that is easy. Guys are way more easy to attract then girls so for a guy to be a player and get lots of girls he needs to be top notch. Girls... an average one can get lots of guys.

Avicenna · Answer

You could, but you don't want to do that. The best possible revenge is to be happy and get the relationship you want.

AmeerX · Answer

Actually it is way easier for a girl to become a player and many are too. Why do you think they have words like slut, whore, hoe etc? Those girls are real players they can sleep with countless guys and won't be pinned down in a relationship

LiamSawyer · Answer

Definitely, women are masters at being a player and we're that way long before guys were, using their beauty and bodies to get hat they want.

Knighted2170 · Answer

Yes you can. I know several women who teach very effective courses to women on how to be players.

triff · Answer

I seem to attract female players I only have had 2 relationships which I panicked so I ended them Yes im an idiot So there are female players already

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