What does it mean to catch feelings?

[ChefPapiChulo]

I don’t think I’ve ever caught feelings for anyone. Except one girl. But it’s been so long I don’t remember the feeling.

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I slightly remember when I caught feelings. She wrote and sang me a song. It was nice but it ended up not being true. So we went our different ways.

[leahzrc]

its really hard to actually like someone that much so i think its normal to never catch feelings especially when you dont intend to catch feelings

[ChefPapiChulo]

When’s the last time you’ve caught feelings?

[leahzrc]

i can't really say i've had. closest thing to it was maybe when i was 17 and thats a stretch

[ChefPapiChulo]

Maybe there’s something wrong with us?

[ChefPapiChulo]

Do you remember what it felt like?

[leahzrc]

i think there is probably a cause to why we'd be like this, also i don't really remember what it felt like because it didn't really matter in the end lmao

[ChefPapiChulo]

Do you see yourself ever catching feelings? I mean you’re an attractive girl, I’m sure you’ve had guys interested.

I’ve had girls interested and I’ve just never caught feelings the way they have. And I don’t think I ever see myself catching them.

[leahzrc]

i haven't caught feelings at all recently and probably not for a while. i feel pretty guilty about it when there are some people i know who want more from me

[leahzrc]

yeah your update... people will write you stuff, buy you stuff, make you stuff

[ChefPapiChulo]

She bought me weed too

[leahzrc]

yeah i dont understand how people do that when given nothing in return

[ChefPapiChulo]

Well I would give her stuff too. I’d buy us alcohol with the little money that I had. Or I’d buy her food. Maybe that’s what feelings is? I don't know I have a hard time understanding romantic relationships

[leahzrc]

yeah you care about someone and like someone enough to care for them as much as yourself. i dont think i like myself too much to just dislike everyone else but i do think that i don't connect with anyone

[ChefPapiChulo]

Connecting is hard because people are so wildly different.

[leahzrc]

yeah but like connecting emotionally or maybe just morally connecting is tricky

[ChefPapiChulo]

The entire idea of catching feelings sounds nice but it’s actually just a headache.

[leahzrc]

i think the people who catch feelings are more likely to like the idea of their person instead of the actual person

[ChefPapiChulo]

That is so crazily true. Couldn’t be more right.

[leahzrc]

yes i usually try to tell people that when they go on about liking me

[ChefPapiChulo]

You sound like a real heart breaker.

[leahzrc]

i don't want to be lol

[ChefPapiChulo]

You could try being less of a hottie.

[leahzrc]

i think some people care about looks more than i do so its easier for me to not like a lot of people

[ChefPapiChulo]

Sort of. I don’t care much for looks as I do finding someone I can chill with.

[leahzrc]

i can usually get along with anyone but i cannot seem to like most of them personally

[ChefPapiChulo]

True

[Ally247]

It just means liking and caring for someone beyond your control

[ChefPapiChulo]

I need a more descriptive, detailed answer.

[Ally247]

Thinking of them randomly, smiling when you see a notification, wanting every notification to be from them, putting their needs before yours, if they're happy then you're happy, if they're sad then you're sad. Seeing a future with them, and doing everything in your power to keep them in your life. Just appreciating the little things about them.

Descriptive and detailed enough for you?

[ChefPapiChulo]

No. That sounds like a teenage girls idea of what love is. Especially all that notification blabbering.

[Ally247]

Well that was one example. Take note that the way girls catch feelings is very different to the way a guy catches feelings.

[ChefPapiChulo]

I think it’s a very immature way of looking at things.

[Ally247]

It's not immature if that's how you feel lmao, like I said that was one example. That's like calling smiling when your partner comes home immature.

[ChefPapiChulo]

Again. I don’t think everyone smiles when their partner comes home. You’re thinking of some kind of Disney marriage.

[Ally247]

Mate at the start you do otherwise what's the point if they don't make you happy? Your question was about catching feelings which is the initial butterfly stage. I'm not saying that stuff is gonna last.

[ChefPapiChulo]

Okay. True. I’ll agree with that last statement.