Why does a girl want to be my friend? I told her I liked her and she has a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

She asked me to hangout and go places with her

[SteveSmith1985]

If this is a girl that you weren't already friends with... then yea... that's super fishy.

So, If you were already friends than this makes sense to me. If you didn't really know her before you started liking her... THEN this is a red flag for sure.

I am not saying that I can know this is where she's coming from, but there are certainly girls who just like the self-esteem boost of knowing/seeing that they are the object of someone's affection. She might be putting herself in a position to be able to flirt with you, hang out with you, SEE that you're making googly eyes when looking at her, SEE other signs of your affection for her... SOLEY because it makes her feel good about herself. That is selfish as hell, and doesn't give any consideration to YOUR feelings. She is willing to cause you significant pain in order that she feel a bit of pleasure. That's messed up.

If she has a boyfriend. She has no intention of pursuing anything with you. If you weren't friends already then it makes NO SENSE at all for her to want to hang out with you, after you told her you like her.

Also, imagine you WERE this girl's boyfriend... how would you feel about her saying to some OTHER dude what she said to you after finding out that this other guy liked her (while she was with you)?

It indicates that this chick is not one you want a relationship with. She clearly doesn't understand what it means to be a "girlfriend". You don't need that bullshit.

So, dude. I understand that you like her. I understand that means you would prefer to hang out with her than to not.

Don't be a chump. Don't hang out with this girl. You should move on. She's not worth it.

[Asker]

Freshmen year I told her I liked her two- three weeks into talking but not it’s junior year I asked her again

[SteveSmith1985]

But... Doesn't she have a boyfriend?

[Asker]

She does I found out recently

[Asker]

But all my friends tell me she likes me and now they think she’s a snake 🐍 basically.

[SteveSmith1985]

Well she is a snake. She has a boyfriend and is leading you on at the same time. Why would you want to even be with somebody like that. If she DOES like you... Again... She's a snake. What makes you think she won't just be doing shit behind your back just like she is now behind her boyfriends back.

This girl is bad news dude. For sure. She's not worth the time or effort.

I don't know if she likes you or not. To me it shouldn't matter. I would never get involved with this kinda girl. If you choose to keep her around... Good luck... You're gonna need it 🙂