Girls, Why is there a stereotype that Most Girls usually date Confident Jerks instead of Nice Shy Guys?

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SamA_nold · Accepted Answer

Most likely from promotions by rejected men. As society has progressed, women have steadily gained the right to say no to a man's advances. Unfortunately, due to a sidelong emotional numbness that men are/were pushed to show, many people, men in this case, haven't been taught how to properly manage the emotions that follow rejection. Easily the most common emotion is anger, the want to put some blame on something or someone other than yourself. In fits of irritation, these rejected men look for a source to project onto, and who better than to vilify the girl/s, than accept that you "aren't good enough for someone's standards". It's an unhealthy coping mechanism, which, as often these men are very vocal and eager to get others on their side, has been made more and more "focused" in the public's eye. It doesn't mean it is more true, but because of how vocal these men are, it seems a larger issue than it is.

It's also a failure of statistical evaluations. If you are rejected by 5 girls, but your sample population is only those 5 people, you'll have a 100% rejection score. It's really easy to conflate this to mean that every girl is therefore the same way, instead of looking at the numbers instead as 5 out of 3.8 billion (≈2020 world female population).

tatianamay · Accepted Answer

Lol, confident jerks are the bad boys and I hate them. They’re usually players. I had strong feelings for a “bad boy” once and he played me, so I’m not interested in bad boys anymore, which was the total opposite a year ago.

I like confident guys who are nice and respectful. You treat me like shit, I walk. The thing is, these bad boys usually give girls the “roller coaster kinda rush.” A sense of thrill and all. It’s good at first, but then the guy would either ghost you or cheat on you. Many girls think that they can make the player fall in love with them and “fix” them. Most girls have this savior complex wherein they try fix the guy and fail. They’re the ones who are hurt in the end. I can spot a player when I see one, because my school is filled with players.

Tbh, I like shy guys who have the boy-next-door charm to them. It’s cute. I’m more into cute guys than hot ones.

Anonymous · Answer

Women need to respect a man and find him masculine/confident to like him.
women are turned off by neediness and over emotional guys.

we like guys who have their shit together and know how to take charge. Those are the guys women gravitate towards.

Shy “nice” guys aren’t really “nice”. They’re just socially awkward and fearful.

same for jerks that still behave like they’re in high school.

A woman’s attraction to a man is “upwards” (she needs to respect and admire him as a masculine man) whilst a man’s attraction to a woman is “downwards” (he needs to find her nice and cute, almost childlike).
so being a “nice” shy guy won’t get you girls.

Anonymous · Answer

It is because of SOME men who are pissed that these jerks date crazy but very beautiful broke young girls. If they dated ugly, fat and old women, none of these men would give a fuck. They are just mad that could not get hot girls and not because of not getting nice Girls
And have you ever seen a doctor, lawyer, teacher or any financially settled down woman in her late 20s who date badboys? So girls who date these jerks are very young or even are minors and so immature. I have seen guys in their late 20s complain how girls in his highschools dated badboys. I mean wtf. These girls were minors and so immature. Stop expecting from minors to behave like 30 years old mature women. Minors aka kids should behave like their age and it is perfectly normal to make not sane decisions when when you are a minor. Why do these guys expect from Highschool Girls or teenies to behave like a 30s years although they all were immature themself when they were in highschool

yourbabygirl921 · Answer

This is so right! Becuz mostly those bad boys are hella interesting and spontaneous and a thrill 😂 but I love nice guys just when they're not boring or can't do jokes or do crazy stuff my babe do 🥰 he's crazy and spontaneous like me

AlongCameCindy · Answer

Its not about a person being nice, its about them being boring, in reality no one is attracted to someone "horrible or nasty" they just like the exciting elements of a badboy, because sometimes the typical nice guy, is uninteresting and not very spontaneous or adventures.

IronLady6354 · Answer

Because pushover guys who can't get girls want to feel like victims. Consequently, they tell themselves BS statements (such as the one above) to make themselves feel better.

Loveydove · Answer

I think Nice guys who get turned down a lot started this stereotype. But that’s just my opinion.

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer nice shy guys. Where are they at? 😒 never meet 1 like that yet. Only shy mean guys who push girls away.

siseñor · Answer

a lot of guys who label themselves as 'nice' are like skippy the virgin lmao apart from that that idrk bc in my experience all of my friends always go for the nice 'shy' ones

pandamt · Answer

I like shy guys personally. Their kind of cute like that

jaeminshypewoman · Answer

i have no idea

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