Why do girls choose nice, shy guys intead of confident, masculine guys?

Question

I'm tall handsome masculine guy but i see pretty girls choose nice, shy, loving average guys much more than guys like me. Why? I thought girls choose guys like me.

MuffinBoi · Accepted Answer

So the steps to getting a girlfriend goes roughly as follows: you approach the girl, you talk to the girl, you two like each other, now you have a girlfriend. Sounds easy, right? Well of course, it's a lot more complicated than the above, but the basic idea is there. So let's take this step by step:

You're interested in a girl. Now if your problem is approaching the girl, that generally means you lack confidence. If you're confident, you're more likely to want to approach them and make the first move, which is what women look for. To build up your confidence, work towards what you want to be so that you like yourself and are comfortable in your own skin.

Let's say you're already confident. The next section is of course the actual conversation itself. If you have terrible social skills, you're probably not going to attract many girls. If this is your issue, try practicing your social skills. I am no expert on flirting and conversation so I can't give much specific advice, but I like to ask about the girl's hobbies then when I can, I'll throw in a joke here or there.

If she's interested. She will likely ask questions about you as well among others. There are signs she gives off to show interest but I'd be here all day explaining them.

Girls don't necessarily choose nice, shy guys over confident and masculine ones. Instead, they tend to choose the ones which make them feel great emotionally in the moment. Of course, there are specific physical and mental traits that some girls will like and dislike. It depends on the individual, but the general consensus is that if you have confidence (not cockiness or arrogance) and can make a girl laugh and feel happy in the moment, she will like you.

slatyb · Accepted Answer

If you are physically attractive but can't get a date, then it's your approach or maybe your entitled attitude. How many female friends do you have? If you can't make friends with a woman, how do you expect to successfully date one?

coldmarch · Accepted Answer

This is probably why they aren't choosing you: you are far away from understanding women. This myth of women dating boys because they're tall and masculine is just bs, sorry. Yeah maybe they fantazise about handsome guys and even masturbate to that, but it has nothing to do with choosing that guy as "partner". In a relationship, emotive deep guys that let girls open and feel understood (while keeping their individuality and not being passive/enslaved/friendzoned), have usually a bigger impact because it touches their feelings, their personality, it connects with them. Being handsome is just good for sex fantasies, what else? It doesn't have precedence on the rest. But it is a really really powerful bonus, if it's added to an emotively deep guy.

This anyway works for the mass, but this doesn't mean that you cannot find any girl right now. Surely you can. Because you aren't empty, you're a person too I mean, not just a mannequin. So yeah there is for sure a girl for you somewhere.

WhiteShoulder · Accepted Answer

All depends on the particular girl (and in some cases what kind of mood she’s in). You could always pretend to be nice and shy and loving...

Anonymous · Answer

Look at the good attributes the nice, shy guys have and see if you posses those qualities.

And the thing about nice, shy guys is other men and women might not think these guys have any game but they do. They just do it in private not public. Attending to details is their strong suit. Might hang out with the nice, shy guys and see what they are really like.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Could be any number of reasons. Maybe these particular ladies prefer the other type of guy. Maybe you intimidate them. Maybe you can't be as easily manipulated. Maybe you are annoying. Maybe you are delusional about yourself.

MzAsh · Answer

It depends on how you are displaying your masculinity and confidence. It’s important to remain humble, sweet, pleasant, communicative, and a good listener above all else.

R_Cakes91 · Answer

In my experience, handsome masculine guys are full of themselves and didn’t always treat me the best. My boyfriend is quiet, very intelligent, and treats me like a queen.

Anonymous · Answer

I couldn't care less if you're tall, handsome, or masculine. If you're full of yourself, I wouldn't bother.

smb930 · Answer

Where are these women that are interested in shy guys? I'm single and shy, and totally willing to go out on a date! Hello!!!

chazerley · Answer

because they want to help get the nice shy guys to become confident masculine guys if they can and if they can't its because they love them

kingkathyy · Answer

everyone has a different preference

Anonymous · Answer

Over confident guys are just nahhhhh

Anonymous · Answer

You sound cocky. I already don't like you.

TwoToTooTutu2 · Answer

Incels would like to have a word with you.

Why do girls choose nice, shy guys intead of confident, masculine guys?

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